Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you described your gf as “the more masculine one” instead of simply bigger and stronger. That’s a very straight way of thinking and I now assume you’re a troll.

Same.

I agree that you started it and I’d probably slap you too. Frankly, you should’ve just taken the slap and let it go but apparently you fought back physically too.

No domestic violence is ever the answer, but I do feel differently because it’s two women. I’ve been in a fist fight with a woman who outweighed me by a good 60 pounds. It meant nothing, it was a fair fight and I won. (Not a domestic, just a regular old cat fight.)

It is not fair to make unfounded accusations, then think you can flip out and destroy very expensive property with no repercussions. You wanted to control her. Your means of that was to interrogate her, and when you didn’t like the answer, make it impossible for her to use her phone. That’s worse than a smack to me.

OP, please leave. Your relationship is not healthy, and you are both violent. You need to be on your own for a while, with therapy. Hopefully your partner will do the same.

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Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you described your gf as “the more masculine one” instead of simply bigger and stronger. That’s a very straight way of thinking and I now assume you’re a troll.

Perhaps a troll trying to determine if people react differently to violence between lesbian couples versus heterosexual couples?

Apparently they do react differently. If OP were a DW in a heterosexual marriage and her DH physically attacked her and beat her up for throwing his phone, there's no way so many of the replies would be of the "you started it" or "you deserved it" variety. Instead there would be an overwhelming cry to call the police, call a domestic violence hotline, and divorce immediately because once an abuser always an abuser. So, yes, there is a double standard at work here.

Double standards are a part of life. If it was a man who beat up OP, she would be in a hospital or worse.

Exactly. I'm all for equality but there's a big difference in a fight between two women and a man and a woman or a man and a man. If this was a gay (m) couple I'd probably tell OP to press charges because men are more volatile and likely to actually kill or severely injure their partners.

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Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you described your gf as “the more masculine one” instead of simply bigger and stronger. That’s a very straight way of thinking and I now assume you’re a troll.

Perhaps a troll trying to determine if people react differently to violence between lesbian couples versus heterosexual couples?

Apparently they do react differently. If OP were a DW in a heterosexual marriage and her DH physically attacked her and beat her up for throwing his phone, there's no way so many of the replies would be of the "you started it" or "you deserved it" variety. Instead there would be an overwhelming cry to call the police, call a domestic violence hotline, and divorce immediately because once an abuser always an abuser. So, yes, there is a double standard at work here.

Double standards are a part of life. If it was a man who beat up OP, she would be in a hospital or worse.

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Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you described your gf as “the more masculine one” instead of simply bigger and stronger. That’s a very straight way of thinking and I now assume you’re a troll.

Perhaps a troll trying to determine if people react differently to violence between lesbian couples versus heterosexual couples?

Apparently they do react differently. If OP were a DW in a heterosexual marriage and her DH physically attacked her and beat her up for throwing his phone, there's no way so many of the replies would be of the "you started it" or "you deserved it" variety. Instead there would be an overwhelming cry to call the police, call a domestic violence hotline, and divorce immediately because once an abuser always an abuser. So, yes, there is a double standard at work here.

I saw a mystery the other night that was almost the exact same scenario of you and your girlfriend. One slap, another slap then the more masculine one stabbed the love of her life 31 times.

In my marriage, one hit is one too many. I would leave my husband so fast he'd spin for a week. Hitting ain't love.

If this post is true, I think you and your gf need some help. Don't bring a child into this mess.

Straight ppl always assume lgbt ppl don't use labels when many of them do.

Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you described your gf as “the more masculine one” instead of simply bigger and stronger. That’s a very straight way of thinking and I now assume you’re a troll.

To be fair, I'm a lesbian and might say "more masculine" to simplify things for straight people. But I agree OP is a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you described your gf as “the more masculine one” instead of simply bigger and stronger. That’s a very straight way of thinking and I now assume you’re a troll.

Perhaps a troll trying to determine if people react differently to violence between lesbian couples versus heterosexual couples?

yep

She hit you. Press charges.

What did you think would happen after you broke someone's property gf or not?

My advice: don't snatch someone's phone and destroy their property unless you are prepared to defend yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you described your gf as “the more masculine one” instead of simply bigger and stronger. That’s a very straight way of thinking and I now assume you’re a troll.

Perhaps a troll trying to determine if people react differently to violence between lesbian couples versus heterosexual couples?

I have gay friends and they use terms like stud or butch, so I don't think that's too uncommon.