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Anonymous wrote:I see a bunch of well-meaning but ignorant people responding here. While I agree that some people are simply slobs, there are others who for medical reasons have difficulty losing weight. For example, someone with hypothyroidism ( a fairly common disorder today due to stress and chemical pollutants) can have a very difficult time losing weight. In fact, many people with this condition GAIN weight and have incredibly slow metabolism. An endocrinologist once told me that I would need to eat 1/3 of a normal daily intake in order to lose weight and that is on top of exercising 6 days a week for 45 minutes per session.

I his is me plus I’m menopausal..... makes it 100x more difficult.

What is your average daily calorie intake for the past month?
$1000 says you don't accurately know.
Conclusion: you eat too much, THAT'S why you are overweight.

I haven't broken up with anybody yet about their weight bc no one has had a problem with it. However, besides being a little chubby, I would be turned off by a serious weight issue. I wish I could say I wouldn't, but I would.

I maybe just indirectly did. We were dating a month or so. Honestly, loved his personality. He has over 100 lbs to lose and is working on doing so (and I definitely saw progress). However, the two times we had sex - it was not good. It was like he was going through the motions. Did not make me feel desired at all. Not sure if it has to do with his weight or if he is naturally a low drive guy, but if this is what sex is like now, it does not give me hope for the future.

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Anonymous wrote:I see a bunch of well-meaning but ignorant people responding here. While I agree that some people are simply slobs, there are others who for medical reasons have difficulty losing weight. For example, someone with hypothyroidism ( a fairly common disorder today due to stress and chemical pollutants) can have a very difficult time losing weight. In fact, many people with this condition GAIN weight and have incredibly slow metabolism. An endocrinologist once told me that I would need to eat 1/3 of a normal daily intake in order to lose weight and that is on top of exercising 6 days a week for 45 minutes per session.

I his is me plus I’m menopausal..... makes it 100x more difficult.

*This not “I his me”

Anonymous wrote:I see a bunch of well-meaning but ignorant people responding here. While I agree that some people are simply slobs, there are others who for medical reasons have difficulty losing weight. For example, someone with hypothyroidism ( a fairly common disorder today due to stress and chemical pollutants) can have a very difficult time losing weight. In fact, many people with this condition GAIN weight and have incredibly slow metabolism. An endocrinologist once told me that I would need to eat 1/3 of a normal daily intake in order to lose weight and that is on top of exercising 6 days a week for 45 minutes per session.

I his is me plus I’m menopausal..... makes it 100x more difficult.

Anonymous wrote:I see a bunch of well-meaning but ignorant people responding here. While I agree that some people are simply slobs, there are others who for medical reasons have difficulty losing weight. For example, someone with hypothyroidism ( a fairly common disorder today due to stress and chemical pollutants) can have a very difficult time losing weight. In fact, many people with this condition GAIN weight and have incredibly slow metabolism. An endocrinologist once told me that I would need to eat 1/3 of a normal daily intake in order to lose weight and that is on top of exercising 6 days a week for 45 minutes per session.

Less than 5% of the population is hypothyroid. The rest of us are just eating too much.

Have considered it (SO ~300 lbs) but there is just too much I love about the person! Would not blame someone who did.

I married my first GF who I dated in college. She put on about 60 lbs. I would have never broken up with her for the weight but it was a turnoff for me. I tried to get her to do more active things with me but it just wasn't her. It's not good to try and change someone.

Ultimately, she had a few affairs that caused me to end the marriage. She was also a budding alcaholic and would spend our checking account dry. That put me in the position of trying to save around her and sometimes scrambling to pay bills.

When I started dating again it was important to me that the person had a lifetime view of health/fitness and actually ENJOYED staying fit for themselves. I feel like I was pretty lucky to find a great person who is a fit for me.

Anonymous wrote:I ended a relationship due to my partners comments about my weight. He constantly judged what I put in my mouth or asked if I had worked out that day ( I exercised plenty, age well, and wore a size 4p). I had a history of eating disorders so his obsession with my weight (as well as his own) was not healthy for me.

Can't understand women who put up with men like this. Mqube im vain, but I like being the hot one on the relationship.

There was one season I called "Winter of the Fat Boys" because I kept meeting guys who outweighed me by a good 100 lbs. It's hard in the winter because everyone is so bundled up, you don't always realize how big they are until they get their clothes off. (I'm not a small person - 5'8" and 140 - but these guys weren't much taller than me, so that 100 lbs was a lot.)

I don't really mind a little beefiness, so I kind of rolled with it.

There was one guy I dated who was really nice but he was large and he was very sedentary. He belonged to a gym literally two blocks away - that actually had a skywalk he could use to walk there - and he never went because he was lazy. I am a daily exerciser and this drove me crazy. So I ended up dumping him. I had a hard time being attracted to a fat guy who did nothing to keep himself healthy.

A couple years later I ran into him and found out he had had a tumor in his abdomen the size of a basketball. Once it was removed, he had a lot more energy and he slimmed down quite a bit. I was really happy for him.

I ended a relationship due to my partners comments about my weight. He constantly judged what I put in my mouth or asked if I had worked out that day ( I exercised plenty, age well, and wore a size 4p). I had a history of eating disorders so his obsession with my weight (as well as his own) was not healthy for me.

I left a LTR because she put on tons of weight. She had a beautiful body and face when we started dating but she ate like crazy after a few years I couldn't handle it anymore. Out to dinner she would eat her meal then start taking food off my plate, then come home and eat an entire bag of chips.
She also talked with food in her mouth

Anonymous wrote:Yes. She was 5'7' and got down to 110 lbs. And I headed out the door. The obsession with eating and exercise was too much.

I'm a woman and my ex (male) became obsessed with bogus science, expensive fad supplements and diets, and the gym to the point where he was completely self-righteous and could talk about nothing else. I once saw him throw a violent temper tantrum and throw his food across the room at the wall because he wasn't sure it fit in with his BS diet of the moment, like they might have put some tiny amount of sauce on his chicken.

I'm into sports and fitness, but I am also into being a functioning member of society.

I know people who have left SO's because of eating disorders and mental health issues. The weight issue doesn't have to be obesity, it can be that they are extremely underweight and/or have intense body dysmorphia.

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