Anonymous wrote:In my house, sex happens when my wife feels sexy. I was in much better shape in my 30s and no sex because kids were little. Now, decent sex life because she works out and isn't exhausted

Point being, it's almost never about what he is doing it's about her.

"Things fat weak husbands too lazy to get their asses to the gym say"

If you are having sex with your wife you are a misogynist.

Anonymous wrote:OP it sounds like you are still doing it only once per week?
In other words, your wife might be alot more flirty and playful, but you STILL don't have a decent sex life. I definitely would not be OK with just once per week.

No, we're multiple times a week now which is enough for me. Certainly its not a high drive college sex life but I'm happy.

OP it sounds like you are still doing it only once per week?
In other words, your wife might be alot more flirty and playful, but you STILL don't have a decent sex life. I definitely would not be OK with just once per week.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are older. She is no longer exhausted.

Your working out makes you less angry and she's happy you aren't always on her case.

OP here. We've always had a pretty good relationship. Also, like I mentioned above, she's a very driven Type A personality who has had a strong career and is an overachiever at home as well. There's really nothing for me to get on her case about.

You probably not that self aware and in my brevity I did not explain the well.

1) I don't know 1 biker that is not a douce. I know you don't think you are like them, but you are.

2) while you were "training" your wife was raising children. Resentment kills the sexy life.

It's nice you are finally engaged with your family, don't spend hours away fro them and have lost the "biker mentality" congrats, you are benefiting.

I have an opinion as to who the douche is in this line of conversation, and it’s not OP.

Agree completely

Anonymous wrote:I think society has guilted women into being ashamed of wanting hot guys and that "looks shouldn't matter". But, they do.

No doubt women find hot guys more attractive. But that does not equate to more sex.
Women need much better reasons than "hot guy" before desiring sex.

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Anonymous wrote:mmmm muscles. Yes. I'd do him more.

+1

Yes please! Muscles and a BIG "D"!

Anonymous wrote:mmmm muscles. Yes. I'd do him more.

+1

Anonymous wrote:mmmm muscles. Yes. I'd do him more.

Lol.

mmmm muscles. Yes. I'd do him more.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are older. She is no longer exhausted.

Your working out makes you less angry and she's happy you aren't always on her case.

OP here. We've always had a pretty good relationship. Also, like I mentioned above, she's a very driven Type A personality who has had a strong career and is an overachiever at home as well. There's really nothing for me to get on her case about.

You probably not that self aware and in my brevity I did not explain the well.

1) I don't know 1 biker that is not a douce. I know you don't think you are like them, but you are.

2) while you were "training" your wife was raising children. Resentment kills the sexy life.

It's nice you are finally engaged with your family, don't spend hours away fro them and have lost the "biker mentality" congrats, you are benefiting.

When I was an avid racer I would use the trainer early in the morning (before the kid was up), or at lunch. On Saturday, my wife and I agreed upon me being able to use 7:00AM - 12:00 as my weekend training time. And I would never claim to do more than her but we have always had an agreed upon split for housework. As far as our son, I'm a very engaged parent - including homework, Scouting, sports, etc. I've even taken a class in Singapore Math as that's what his school teaches and it allows me to be better at helping with his homework.

Assuming that every husband is disengaged at home is just wrong as is assuming that all cyclist are douches.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are older. She is no longer exhausted.

Your working out makes you less angry and she's happy you aren't always on her case.

OP here. We've always had a pretty good relationship. Also, like I mentioned above, she's a very driven Type A personality who has had a strong career and is an overachiever at home as well. There's really nothing for me to get on her case about.

You probably not that self aware and in my brevity I did not explain the well.

1) I don't know 1 biker that is not a douce. I know you don't think you are like them, but you are.

2) while you were "training" your wife was raising children. Resentment kills the sexy life.

It's nice you are finally engaged with your family, don't spend hours away fro them and have lost the "biker mentality" congrats, you are benefiting.

I have an opinion as to who the douche is in this line of conversation, and it’s not OP.

Douche not douce

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are older. She is no longer exhausted.

Your working out makes you less angry and she's happy you aren't always on her case.

OP here. We've always had a pretty good relationship. Also, like I mentioned above, she's a very driven Type A personality who has had a strong career and is an overachiever at home as well. There's really nothing for me to get on her case about.

You probably not that self aware and in my brevity I did not explain the well.

1) I don't know 1 biker that is not a douce. I know you don't think you are like them, but you are.

2) while you were "training" your wife was raising children. Resentment kills the sexy life.

It's nice you are finally engaged with your family, don't spend hours away fro them and have lost the "biker mentality" congrats, you are benefiting.

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Anonymous wrote:Why doesn't my spouse have muscles? He isn't scrawny, either. Plain old fat.

Would you enjoy doing him more if he did?

Probably. I'd like to have the opportunity to make that decision.

Ha, ha, cynical me thinks if I were a man I'd say "she'd like the opportunity to reject her DH with muscles, rather than just rejecting fat DH"

But, I think yes. Sex with the sexy & fit person you love > sex with the fat & flabby person you love