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Anonymous wrote:She may not be too ugly to date (and seriously, what does that even mean - there are tons of ugly people with boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses). However, her self-esteem is definitely too low for her to date! Priorities.

+1 That's how I used to feel. I felt really unattractive even though men have told me I wasn't, and I did get hit on. It was 100% a self esteem issue. When a man hit on me, I assumed it was just because they wanted to get in any woman's pants, not just me specifically. Well, that's probably true to some degree...

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Anonymous wrote:Some people really ARE ugly. When you like someone, that makes them seem better-looking to you. I too, am very ugly. 40 and been on one date in my whole life. My picture ID for work was terrible - but I told myself "Well, I was very nervous that day, I wasn't prepared to have to take a picture, etc." They recently re-did the IDs and took new pictures. I got my hair blown out straight. I wore the shirt that makes my eyes look extra good. I did my makeup. And when the pictures came out and I saw mine, I literally physically recoiled in horror. At seeing myself. I have a dynamic personality - I'm funny and smart and super compassionate, a great friend, etc. But ... ugly.

It happens. It's nice that you feel bad, but if you want to be a good friend, the best thing you could do rather than saying "No you're not!" is to LISTEN. If you know of specific things she could easily do to make a difference, tell her. Acknowledge what she's saying rather than trot out platitudes.

That is sad you see yourself in that light. Please seek therapy for your issues.

I don't need therapy. I have some really great qualities. Looks simply isn't one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:If this ugly foul mouth troll looking thing can get not one but two women to love him (shudder) anyone can find a mate.

Honestly... it's a bit different for men, especially one who has money. Just look at Trump.

Omg, Newt Gingrich is a hideous fat beast that looks like my obese 80 year old 'haven't taken care of herself in 10 years ' MIL on a really bad day and he's had how many wives??

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is only a light switch away.

NP, and I'm too ugly, too. My ex used to say "All cats are grey in the dark."

PP, I hope you realize that your ex is saying sh1t like that to on purpose to put you down. Else, why did your ex marry you if your ex always thought you were ugly?

We weren't married. He was my last long-term boyfriend, 18 years ago. I had one boyfriend since then, for 2 months in 2003. I told you, I'm too ugly.
Thank you for the support though.

Well, why did he stay with you LT if you were that ugly? I'm telling you.. he said that to bring you down. Please don't let him. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I had for years felt ugly because of what someone said to me. I didn't date. It really did a number on my self esteem. I finally started to feel better about myself in my late 20's and married at 34 to a wonderful man who makes me feel beautiful everyday. But, the low self esteem is still there deep down. I honestly do know how ingrained that kind of low self esteem can be.

Go get a makeover. Exercise. Go out with your GF. Make yourself feel beautiful. It really is about how you feel about yourself. Self confidence goes along way.

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Anonymous wrote:If this ugly foul mouth troll looking thing can get not one but two women to love him (shudder) anyone can find a mate.

Honestly... it's a bit different for men, especially one who has money. Just look at Trump.

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Anonymous wrote:Some people really ARE ugly. When you like someone, that makes them seem better-looking to you. I too, am very ugly. 40 and been on one date in my whole life. My picture ID for work was terrible - but I told myself "Well, I was very nervous that day, I wasn't prepared to have to take a picture, etc." They recently re-did the IDs and took new pictures. I got my hair blown out straight. I wore the shirt that makes my eyes look extra good. I did my makeup. And when the pictures came out and I saw mine, I literally physically recoiled in horror. At seeing myself. I have a dynamic personality - I'm funny and smart and super compassionate, a great friend, etc. But ... ugly.

It happens. It's nice that you feel bad, but if you want to be a good friend, the best thing you could do rather than saying "No you're not!" is to LISTEN. If you know of specific things she could easily do to make a difference, tell her. Acknowledge what she's saying rather than trot out platitudes.

That is sad you see yourself in that light. Please seek therapy for your issues.

I don't need therapy. I have some really great qualities. Looks simply isn't one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is only a light switch away.

NP, and I'm too ugly, too. My ex used to say "All cats are grey in the dark."

PP, I hope you realize that your ex is saying sh1t like that to on purpose to put you down. Else, why did your ex marry you if your ex always thought you were ugly?

We weren't married. He was my last long-term boyfriend, 18 years ago. I had one boyfriend since then, for 2 months in 2003. I told you, I'm too ugly.
Thank you for the support though.

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is only a light switch away.

NP, and I'm too ugly, too. My ex used to say "All cats are grey in the dark."

PP, I hope you realize that your ex is saying sh1t like that to on purpose to put you down. Else, why did your ex marry you if your ex always thought you were ugly?

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is only a light switch away.

NP, and I'm too ugly, too. My ex used to say "All cats are grey in the dark."

Anonymous wrote:Beauty is only a light switch away.

Anonymous wrote:If this ugly foul mouth troll looking thing can get not one but two women to love him (shudder) anyone can find a mate.