Anonymous wrote:The kind they show in Disney and movies. The kind that completes you and makes you feel amazing.

I dreamt of love Like this my whole life but ended up with a boring no butterflies marriage.

There is a true love and everyone has one but some philosophies say you will meet them after you pass away and they may be either gender in their physical form but their soul loves you eternally. You may not meet that soulmate in life or marry them. It is rare if you do.

I loved my husband so deep I wanted to be one with him. I have never felt that way about another man. Ever.

Anonymous wrote:I think you experience true love the minute your baby is born and you realize you will give your life for someone without hesitation. I truly love my DH but I'm not sure it's true love.

Today I saw my daughter holding her baby born this morning. Yes, true love exists.

Anonymous wrote:True love is a continuous investment. Do you know how big the budgets of those romcoms and Disney movies are? An enduring love needs a big budget too (one of attention and care and concern and communication and wooing and fun). It's not a matter of finding it, it's a matter of finding someone who wants to build it with you.

This is pretty dead on. It's a process.

True love is a continuous investment. Do you know how big the budgets of those romcoms and Disney movies are? An enduring love needs a big budget too (one of attention and care and concern and communication and wooing and fun). It's not a matter of finding it, it's a matter of finding someone who wants to build it with you.

Anonymous wrote:So only true love is parent and child?

No, but for most people it likely is.

Sorry, but I don’t believe that true love is what they show in the movies, and I firmly believe it’s one of the reasons people remain so unhappy in their lives.

The movies always show love like a tsunami, where I think it’s more like a slow drip. Over time, both break down the same walls. But tsunamis fade quickly, and the drip persists. Not to say there aren’t periods of intensity, but the day to day isn’t always a tsunami. It’s repeatable, and predictable, and comforting in its constancy. And that’s true love.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but I was 40 before I found it. It was instantly clearly different than prior relationships. We so deeply content together that I can’t even call it happiness. It just how our lives should be.

I feel the same way. I was also older (late 30’s) when I found it.

Yes, I think so. I had respect for my DH and thought he would be a great friend the first night I met him, I was definitely attracted to him, but didn't get the butterfly feelings until after a few dates. More I knew about him, more I liked him, more attracted to him. 38 years later, I still get butterflies when he tells me how hot I am or if he looks at me or I glance over at him and still see him as a young man and I still feel young around him (although chronologically, of course, we are old) But we were both virgins, and have never slept with anyone else. Maybe if you have memories of passion with others, maybe you don't have the same "true love" idealism. (The love we feel for our children is strong, but different)

True lust, I believe in that. True love, not so much.

Yes, I have had it. No, it did not end in marriage. We were too young.

I felt close to it a second time...but his feelings were not the same depth.

I was not looking for it anymore when I met my husband.