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Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

I dated a guy in his 50s when I was 24. He was nice, loving, but most importantly, rich. He funded my entire lifestyle, introduced me to contacts who helped my career, and gave me good advice. I did ultimately dump him for now-DH, who is only 3 years older than me. As I became more financially stable in my own right, I realized I wanted a man I was actually sexually attracted to and who would have the energy to play with any kids we had.

If there is any karma in this Universe, your husband will one day leave you for a younger woman.

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

I dated a guy in his 50s when I was 24. He was nice, loving, but most importantly, rich. He funded my entire lifestyle, introduced me to contacts who helped my career, and gave me good advice. I did ultimately dump him for now-DH, who is only 3 years older than me. As I became more financially stable in my own right, I realized I wanted a man I was actually sexually attracted to and who would have the energy to play with any kids we had.

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Anonymous wrote:Schedules are very difficult with two single parents. I write this on an “alone” night while the man I would like to be with is at a kid sport event. I’ll have my kids for the next few days. We are lucky if we see each other twice a week.

That's a very real challenge and one that I'm trying to figure out. I'm late 40s & widowed and parenting takes up almost all of my time. Besides all the emotional issues of whether I'm ready to see someone or if my kids will ever be ready, the basic logistics are that I'd be lucky to come up with one free evening each week. Who knows if I'd even have enough energy to make a coherent conversation. I guess in my situation, finding someone with kids would help in her understanding just how limited my time really is. The reality of my situation is that I probably won't have the mental availability and disposable time for a healthy relationship for several years when my kids are much older. Until then, I guess it will just be occasional dates and . . . ahem . . . short-term relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

Do you have kids already? And are you really ready to sign up for babies and toddlers in your 50s? Then teenagers in your 60s/70s?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

I dated a guy in his 50s when I was 24. He was nice, loving, but most importantly, rich. He funded my entire lifestyle, introduced me to contacts who helped my career, and gave me good advice. I did ultimately dump him for now-DH, who is only 3 years older than me. As I became more financially stable in my own right, I realized I wanted a man I was actually sexually attracted to and who would have the energy to play with any kids we had.

I'm in my early 50s. Got three kids under 10. I have plenty of energy for them. Any man who is broken and tired in his 50s is that way because he's too lazy to hit the gym.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

I dated a guy in his 50s when I was 24. He was nice, loving, but most importantly, rich. He funded my entire lifestyle, introduced me to contacts who helped my career, and gave me good advice. I did ultimately dump him for now-DH, who is only 3 years older than me. As I became more financially stable in my own right, I realized I wanted a man I was actually sexually attracted to and who would have the energy to play with any kids we had.

I'm 42. I have found it easy to date women my own age who are divorced with children and women in their early 20s who don't have family on their radar yet. The 32yo who has never been married wants nothing to do with me.





I'm in my early 50s. Got three kids under 10. I have plenty of energy for them. Any man who is broken and tired in his 50s is that way because he's too lazy to hit the gym.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

I dated a guy in his 50s when I was 24. He was nice, loving, but most importantly, rich. He funded my entire lifestyle, introduced me to contacts who helped my career, and gave me good advice. I did ultimately dump him for now-DH, who is only 3 years older than me. As I became more financially stable in my own right, I realized I wanted a man I was actually sexually attracted to and who would have the energy to play with any kids we had.

Anonymous wrote:Schedules are very difficult with two single parents. I write this on an “alone” night while the man I would like to be with is at a kid sport event. I’ll have my kids for the next few days. We are lucky if we see each other twice a week.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.