Anonymous
Post 10/07/2017 10:22     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:I am about to be 31 and single. I haven't found that " one" or anyone I can seriously see myself marrying. I have standards, but I don't think they are exceptionally high. I haven't dated that much, and admit I am more of a homebody. I spent most of my 20's in advanced schooling. I have a good career, smart, funny, cute next-girl-door type, and a good personality ( I've been told). I know it's common now to marry or divorce and marry after 20's, but most of my friends are about to settle down. Can anyone share their experience of meeting their spouse past 30+? I am starting to think it may never happen for me.


I was 35, he was 41. First marriage for both. Both attractive, good jobs, etc., just not willing to settle for the wrong person. Met each other and were married in less than a year. Seventeen years in we are still happy, still best friends, still having a lot of fun together.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 21:44     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:I met my husband at 33, shortly before turning 34. We got married at 37 and had kids at 38 and 40.

I'm a homebody too but got involved in an activity in my 30's that got me out quite a bit. That's how I met my husband.


WHERE??

29 y/o np who has met a lot of weirdos
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 21:27     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Met my DH at 35 (actually had met him before several years earlier when we were each dating other people; we "re-met" when he was invited to a party for mutual friends). I felt like you did at age 31 but age 31 through 35 I dated a variety of people---some through on-line, some through parties thrown by friends who had a different network of work friends than I did. I had/have a great group of girl friends and we did some awesome girls vacations. Get out and do more---but not just a bar scene. It will happen.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 21:18     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Met my husband when I was 34. We met at a bar. Got married at 36, kids at 38 and 40. People (mainly men) try to scare women so they'll settle for less. Don't buy the lie. You'll be fine regardless.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 19:00     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I met my fiancé at 34, after I was divorced (GASP!!!! Damaged goods could find love again!?!?). He’s gorgeous and sexy, hardworking and generous. So much better than I ever could have dreamed I would find. I couldn’t be happier.


do u have kids


No.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 17:23     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you're hot, it will happen.

I was able to trade up in terms of spouses after my divorce (at 32). I also had two kids. My current husband is better looking, makes more money, and is just a better all-around person than my XH was.

That said, I am very beautiful. [/quote

How do you know you're beautiful? Most people are average attractive, with only 10% of the population being model hot.



Correction 5 percent are date-able 2percent are model hott.


Seriously walk around the mall count the first 100 people you see. It's awful.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 17:16     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A ton of my friends met good guys after 30, but often it was through online dating. So you need to get comfortable with that.

Also, make sure your standards aren't unrealistic. I have a bunch of unhappily single friends. They are ALL looking for: a tall (over 6'0"), fit, handsome white guy with good hair, who is successful, educated, articulate, not weird, has friends, has a nice family, has socially acceptable hobbies and treats them like a queen. (i.e. pays for every date, plans romantic dates), etc.

This guy is a f*cking unicorn. There's like 3 guys who fit that description after a certain age, and they have their pick of women. So if this is what you are looking for, you may need to relax your standards a bit.


Op here. I don't think my standards are unrealistic. I like tall guys but I'm only 5'1', so height isn't that important to me. I do want a guy who is decently attractive, fit, a career job ( doesn't need to be rich, but earns a good enough salary to raise a family and live comfortably), is loyal, respectful to me and others, and will be an involved husband and father.


What salary?


Op here. 70-80k plus. I make 180k. I want a guy who can support himself.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 13:19     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A ton of my friends met good guys after 30, but often it was through online dating. So you need to get comfortable with that.

Also, make sure your standards aren't unrealistic. I have a bunch of unhappily single friends. They are ALL looking for: a tall (over 6'0"), fit, handsome white guy with good hair, who is successful, educated, articulate, not weird, has friends, has a nice family, has socially acceptable hobbies and treats them like a queen. (i.e. pays for every date, plans romantic dates), etc.

This guy is a f*cking unicorn. There's like 3 guys who fit that description after a certain age, and they have their pick of women. So if this is what you are looking for, you may need to relax your standards a bit.


NP - I was divorced with 2 kids and tried on-line dating. I had set all the filters set in the way you've described and I did have plenty of dates with guys who broadly fell into this category. But there was always some big flaw that showed up in the first meet or in the rare times I accepted a 2nd date. One day I unchecked the box on race and well, I my now DH's profile popped up. He fits this description for height, is very handsome, has a great career, is well educated, is articulate (in 3 languages), has a strong (and nice) family, etc., etc. The difference is that we isn't white. Boy, thank goodness I unchecked that box b/c I hit the lottery.


forgot to mention - I was late 30s and he was early 40s when we met (both divorced and single parents)
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 13:15     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A ton of my friends met good guys after 30, but often it was through online dating. So you need to get comfortable with that.

Also, make sure your standards aren't unrealistic. I have a bunch of unhappily single friends. They are ALL looking for: a tall (over 6'0"), fit, handsome white guy with good hair, who is successful, educated, articulate, not weird, has friends, has a nice family, has socially acceptable hobbies and treats them like a queen. (i.e. pays for every date, plans romantic dates), etc.

This guy is a f*cking unicorn. There's like 3 guys who fit that description after a certain age, and they have their pick of women. So if this is what you are looking for, you may need to relax your standards a bit.


Op here. I don't think my standards are unrealistic. I like tall guys but I'm only 5'1', so height isn't that important to me. I do want a guy who is decently attractive, fit, a career job ( doesn't need to be rich, but earns a good enough salary to raise a family and live comfortably), is loyal, respectful to me and others, and will be an involved husband and father.


What salary?
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 13:08     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:A ton of my friends met good guys after 30, but often it was through online dating. So you need to get comfortable with that.

Also, make sure your standards aren't unrealistic. I have a bunch of unhappily single friends. They are ALL looking for: a tall (over 6'0"), fit, handsome white guy with good hair, who is successful, educated, articulate, not weird, has friends, has a nice family, has socially acceptable hobbies and treats them like a queen. (i.e. pays for every date, plans romantic dates), etc.

This guy is a f*cking unicorn. There's like 3 guys who fit that description after a certain age, and they have their pick of women. So if this is what you are looking for, you may need to relax your standards a bit.


NP - I was divorced with 2 kids and tried on-line dating. I had set all the filters set in the way you've described and I did have plenty of dates with guys who broadly fell into this category. But there was always some big flaw that showed up in the first meet or in the rare times I accepted a 2nd date. One day I unchecked the box on race and well, I my now DH's profile popped up. He fits this description for height, is very handsome, has a great career, is well educated, is articulate (in 3 languages), has a strong (and nice) family, etc., etc. The difference is that we isn't white. Boy, thank goodness I unchecked that box b/c I hit the lottery.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 13:01     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:A ton of my friends met good guys after 30, but often it was through online dating. So you need to get comfortable with that.

Also, make sure your standards aren't unrealistic. I have a bunch of unhappily single friends. They are ALL looking for: a tall (over 6'0"), fit, handsome white guy with good hair, who is successful, educated, articulate, not weird, has friends, has a nice family, has socially acceptable hobbies and treats them like a queen. (i.e. pays for every date, plans romantic dates), etc.

This guy is a f*cking unicorn. There's like 3 guys who fit that description after a certain age, and they have their pick of women. So if this is what you are looking for, you may need to relax your standards a bit.


This is PP who traded up after divorce, after age thirty, with kids. My husband fits your description - there are plenty of men out there with these qualities.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 13:00     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:If you're hot, it will happen.

I was able to trade up in terms of spouses after my divorce (at 32). I also had two kids. My current husband is better looking, makes more money, and is just a better all-around person than my XH was.

That said, I am very beautiful.


Wanted to add - we met through a friend.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 12:59     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you're hot, it will happen.

I was able to trade up in terms of spouses after my divorce (at 32). I also had two kids. My current husband is better looking, makes more money, and is just a better all-around person than my XH was.

That said, I am very beautiful. [/quote

How do you know you're beautiful? Most people are average attractive, with only 10% of the population being model hot.


I'm more actress beautiful than model hot. I know because I can see, and am told constantly, and have been since adolescence.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 12:58     Subject: Re:Give Me Hope Past 30
My SIL got married to my brother around 35 and had her first child a couple of months before turning 39.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2017 12:56     Subject: Give Me Hope Past 30
Anonymous wrote:A ton of my friends met good guys after 30, but often it was through online dating. So you need to get comfortable with that.

Also, make sure your standards aren't unrealistic. I have a bunch of unhappily single friends. They are ALL looking for: a tall (over 6'0"), fit, handsome white guy with good hair, who is successful, educated, articulate, not weird, has friends, has a nice family, has socially acceptable hobbies and treats them like a queen. (i.e. pays for every date, plans romantic dates), etc.

This guy is a f*cking unicorn. There's like 3 guys who fit that description after a certain age, and they have their pick of women. So if this is what you are looking for, you may need to relax your standards a bit.


Op here. I don't think my standards are unrealistic. I like tall guys but I'm only 5'1', so height isn't that important to me. I do want a guy who is decently attractive, fit, a career job ( doesn't need to be rich, but earns a good enough salary to raise a family and live comfortably), is loyal, respectful to me and others, and will be an involved husband and father.