Only my mom is local. DH gets along with her but he would never visit her solo.

I adore my MIL who lives halfway across the country from us. I have voluntarily chosen on multiple occasions to take my kids to the beach with her when DH had to work and I took my youngest on a vacation with her for a week.

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Anonymous wrote:They are local and dh is deployed and we go there once a week and they come to us once a week since I have a toddler they adore. I like my inlaws. They're nice, friendly, loving and helpful (bring dinner when they visit) even if they are awkward and lack awareness of social cues.

That's lovely! I'm jealous.

My ILs (particularly MIL) is overbearing and opinionated, and thinks she's the queen visiting when she comes over and expects to be treated as such. It's exhausting.

Thanks. Don't be jealous though, we have our issues. I do owe a lot to my dh who set them straight years ago before he met me. And they had to reevaluate their relationship with him and how they treated him. By the time I came along and then the baby, they were just thrilled to be included so we have continued down that path. I always say the relationship issues are often not an in law problem but a DH or dW problem.

NEVER! And don't plan on doing so!

Anonymous wrote:They are local and dh is deployed and we go there once a week and they come to us once a week since I have a toddler they adore. I like my inlaws. They're nice, friendly, loving and helpful (bring dinner when they visit) even if they are awkward and lack awareness of social cues.

That's lovely! I'm jealous.

My ILs (particularly MIL) is overbearing and opinionated, and thinks she's the queen visiting when she comes over and expects to be treated as such. It's exhausting.

They are local and dh is deployed and we go there once a week and they come to us once a week since I have a toddler they adore. I like my inlaws. They're nice, friendly, loving and helpful (bring dinner when they visit) even if they are awkward and lack awareness of social cues.

Never.

Anonymous wrote:A lot.
Mine are really helpful and enjoyable to be around.
My husband prefers not to visit my parents.

I wish mine were. They make it so hard to be around them, and then wonder why nobody wants to visit.

A lot.
Mine are really helpful and enjoyable to be around.
My husband prefers not to visit my parents.

All the time. I enjoy visiting both FIL and MIL on my own, with both my kids or with one of my kids. I am very comfortable with them, though my MIL is my favorite. My DH is very attached to my parents so he visits them whenever he is in their neck of the woods. We have been very lucky and blessed. It pains me to see them growing older though. MIL has become very frail in the last few years.

I did once. I will never again.

My husband has visited my dad without me. Took the kid with him. We were tired of hearing how we never visit, and I couldn't get off work. We got a ton of points for this.

Mine are not local, but I do frequently visit their city for work. I see at least one family member each trip (if there's only time for lunch) or sometimes I stay with his parents.

Anonymous wrote:How often do you visit with your in-laws without your spouse? How often do you visit with your children without your spouse?

Of course, if your in-laws aren't local, this question wouldn't apply to you.

My parents live nearby and my DH visits them quite often without me but he always has one of our kids with him. He and my parents are very good friends.

I used to a lot. Maybe 2-3 times per year. Not anymore since my MIL has passed and my FIL lives with us. It felt awkward the first few times (before we even had kids) but then it was pretty normal. They were fairly stuffy about things so it wasn't like being with my folks but it was pretty comfortable anyway.

Never, unless you count the two times that MIL stayed at our house to help with the kids while DH was out of town. And that only happened because I had work commitments that prevented me from being able to get everyone to their various sports/activities. I don't even go with DH anymore when he goes to visit, so I cannot envision a scenario where I go visit them without him.