Anonymous
09/25/2017 23:55
Subject: Re:All single women should have to read DCUM for a month before marrying
Anonymous wrote:These boards -- all of them -- are exclusively filled with people with problems. It's not a random subset of people. That's like saying hanging out at an auto body shop all day will make you never want to drive again. Ack, you look around and everyone seems to have gotten into bad accidents!
+1
Anonymous
09/25/2017 18:35
Subject: Re:All single women should have to read DCUM for a month before marrying
These boards -- all of them -- are exclusively filled with people with problems. It's not a random subset of people. That's like saying hanging out at an auto body shop all day will make you never want to drive again. Ack, you look around and everyone seems to have gotten into bad accidents!
Anonymous
09/25/2017 17:16
Subject: All single women should have to read DCUM for a month before marrying
Anonymous wrote:I don't know. I'm single and I feel weird and conflicted sometimes reading this board. On the one hand, it makes me wonder how many of the seemingly good marriages I know are actually not that great underneath. That makes me feel a bit better about being perpetually single, that I'm not the only one not in an ideal situation. It can feel a little lonely sometimes, wondering why you're solo in a world filled with couples.
On the other hand, it makes me even more annoyed when I get the "smug married" attitude. Because then I think, "b*tch, you hate your husband, but you still act like you "won" something by being married."
I personally think the"smug married" attitude is actually in the eye of the beholder.
Anonymous
09/25/2017 17:05
Subject: All single women should have to read DCUM for a month before marrying
Here's the marriage+ kids test: Ask potential husband to define and describe the word "parent" as both a noun and a verb.
If the answer is half-assed and his role in it = No Kids OR No Marriage. But only pick one.
If his answer is thoughtful and convincing = Marriage+Kids
Feel free to have one kid without a husband in the picture. Much easier and bypasses the deadweight.
If the answer is half-assed and his role in it = No Kids OR No Marriage. But only pick one.
If his answer is thoughtful and convincing = Marriage+Kids
Feel free to have one kid without a husband in the picture. Much easier and bypasses the deadweight.
Anonymous
09/25/2017 16:44
Subject: All single women should have to read DCUM for a month before marrying
Anonymous wrote:I don't know. I'm single and I feel weird and conflicted sometimes reading this board. On the one hand, it makes me wonder how many of the seemingly good marriages I know are actually not that great underneath. That makes me feel a bit better about being perpetually single, that I'm not the only one not in an ideal situation. It can feel a little lonely sometimes, wondering why you're solo in a world filled with couples.
On the other hand, it makes me even more annoyed when I get the "smug married" attitude. Because then I think, "b*tch, you hate your husband, but you still act like you "won" something by being married."
everything is peachy until kid number 2. just do 1 kid. unless your spouse is very very involved and does not need constant directions in order to know what needs to be done in his very own house or with his very own children.
Anonymous
09/25/2017 16:42
Subject: All single women should have to read DCUM for a month before marrying
Anonymous wrote:I would never have gotten married.
ditto. or married someone else.
Anonymous
09/25/2017 16:42
Subject: Re:All single women should have to read DCUM for a month before marrying
I knew the downfalls of marriage way long ago, which is why I've never done it and won't. Dcum just back up my thoughts on it. I'm a male
Anonymous
09/25/2017 16:31
Subject: Re:All single women should have to read DCUM for a month before marrying
There are plenty of us who are happily married on this board. We are just quiet about it!