Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:30     Subject: My boyfriend read my journal
Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend read my journal while I was in the shower the other night. He was standing there when I got out of the shower just staring at me all creepy. I told him he broke my trust. He said he didn't regret it. I feel hurt and enraged but I can't show it. I feel like I have to constantly watch my back with him.

I never feel happy when we go places. I am staying with him in another country right now where he lives. I have to rent a car if we go anywhere because he cannot drive. We are both adults. I feel drained being with him. I feel like I'm carrying around a 50 pound suitcase with me when he comes with me when I go somewhere in public. That is the best way I can describe the feeling. He mopes, is miserable the whole time, acts angry that we
are going anywhere, and would rather stay home on his computer all day. I feel so sad and miserable inside.

Why are you in his shower, in his country and in his life?

And if he read your journal while you were in the shower it must have been a very limited journal or you take incredibly long showers.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:28     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Instead of complaining about him why not just catch a flight back to the U.S. Show some backbone and move on.


I have nowhere to go once I get there.


Listen kiddo, it sounds like you're in a bad situation with a controlling guy who has isolated you from your friends and family. That sucks. But it's not going to magically get better; you need to get out and get on a plane. You think you have nowhere to go because you've been isolated by this dude. You can go to your parents, or a friend, or a cousin. Get a job, get an apartment, get some therapy. "I'm miserable and he betrayed my trust and he's proud of it and I'm in a foreign country and I feel like I can't go anywhere because no one would help me" is not a life. It's a Lifetime Movie.

Get up, get out. If you need to save up for a plane ticket, start now.


+1. And tell this is either abuse or a precursor to abuse. Tell your family you are escaping an abusive situation and maybe they will be more inclined to help.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:20     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Instead of complaining about him why not just catch a flight back to the U.S. Show some backbone and move on.


I have nowhere to go once I get there.


Listen kiddo, it sounds like you're in a bad situation with a controlling guy who has isolated you from your friends and family. That sucks. But it's not going to magically get better; you need to get out and get on a plane. You think you have nowhere to go because you've been isolated by this dude. You can go to your parents, or a friend, or a cousin. Get a job, get an apartment, get some therapy. "I'm miserable and he betrayed my trust and he's proud of it and I'm in a foreign country and I feel like I can't go anywhere because no one would help me" is not a life. It's a Lifetime Movie.

Get up, get out. If you need to save up for a plane ticket, start now.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:18     Subject: My boyfriend read my journal
I honestly can't imagine any guy I dated reading my journal. Its just not a thing a guy does. Start making your plans NOW and leave.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:17     Subject: My boyfriend read my journal
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What was in the diary?


Just personal/private thoughts abotu my life. No juicy details of cheating or thoughts of it. I'm totally devastated. And I've never hacked his phone or even tried to. I trust him. Well, I did.


The journal reading aside, from what you've written of your relationship it seems there is no reason for you to be with him. Why have you not broken it off?
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:16     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
Anonymous wrote:Instead of complaining about him why not just catch a flight back to the U.S. Show some backbone and move on.


I have nowhere to go once I get there.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:15     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
Instead of complaining about him why not just catch a flight back to the U.S. Show some backbone and move on.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:14     Subject: My boyfriend read my journal
Anonymous wrote:What was in the diary?


Just personal/private thoughts abotu my life. No juicy details of cheating or thoughts of it. I'm totally devastated. And I've never hacked his phone or even tried to. I trust him. Well, I did.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:12     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
So when are you leaving? you're not? Go back and read the first thing I asked. You are going to leave? Great, good choice . I've saved you a lifetime of annoyance
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:10     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
Anonymous wrote:
taketothebank wrote:+1. Please tell us in detail.

And everyone who thinks this is awful please make sure to keep that POV when we read about a DW hacking her DH's phone, password, etc. to see if DH has an SO. Or vice versa,


Getting into a DH/W phone/email to uncover infidelity is completely different than a boyfriend reading a journal for the hell of it.


No, it isn't. It's an invasion of privacy both ways.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 17:08     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
taketothebank wrote:+1. Please tell us in detail.

And everyone who thinks this is awful please make sure to keep that POV when we read about a DW hacking her DH's phone, password, etc. to see if DH has an SO. Or vice versa,


Getting into a DH/W phone/email to uncover infidelity is completely different than a boyfriend reading a journal for the hell of it.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 16:52     Subject: My boyfriend read my journal
What was in the diary?
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 16:52     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
Go back home and then break up with him.
taketothebank
Post 09/13/2017 16:49     Subject: Re:My boyfriend read my journal
+1. Please tell us in detail.

And everyone who thinks this is awful please make sure to keep that POV when we read about a DW hacking her DH's phone, password, etc. to see if DH has an SO. Or vice versa,
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2017 16:43     Subject: My boyfriend read my journal
Anonymous wrote:Is it ever okay for someone to read their SO's journal? I mean that is really f up. Pardon my french.


Absolutely. Especially if there is juicy stuff in it.

Now that we solved your problem, tell us the biggest concern you have about what he might have seen.