Anonymous wrote:I once dated a dude who was in absolute model condition. What I didn't realize when we originally got together was that meant him hitting the gym every Saturday AND Sunday for HOURS. Right during the hours when you want to be cuddled up in bed and then heading out for a lazy brunch. I dumped him, life is too short.

He still texts me, but I never respond.

That OK. One of the DCUM women who complains about dad bods picked him up and is happy.

We have DSD every weekend, so yes.

It completely depends on how you want to spend your week ends. If you want to hang with him and his kids then it's fine. If you want to do your own thing while he hangs with his kids then that might work also. Is he looking for someone to be like a mom to the kids on the weekends? What does he want?
Also how does he want to handle the dating? It might be hard for him to get a relationship off the ground with no real weekend availability - but this situation could be temporary. if you are looking to be the center of attention this might not be the right guy for you.
FWIW dated a guy who always had the kids on the weekends and I was not thrilled with the situation. I really liked him though and I also have my kids full-time so I hung in there and we saw each other as much as we could, kids and all. He eventually realized that the custody schedule was not leaving any time for the two of us - not to mention that his kids weren't getting much quality time with their mom. They adjusted their custody arrangement. I pushed my ex to take our kids on alternate weekends (this was our custody arrangement but my ex tended to be unavailable). It all worked out - we are happily married now. Rarely a weekend to ourselves but we are fine with it.
I don't think my situation would work for everyone but it works for me. It must be true love LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:He's not married, he just has his kids every weekend.

Are you certain of that? People lie all the time. Did you meet online?

I know both of them from the time that they were married. They are definitely divorced.

If you know the ex wife and kids, why can't you spend time together on the weekends? Is your relationship secret?

Damn that guy, wanting to see his kids and be a good father! Dump him straight away.

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Anonymous wrote:I once dated a dude who was in absolute model condition. What I didn't realize when we originally got together was that meant him hitting the gym every Saturday AND Sunday for HOURS. Right during the hours when you want to be cuddled up in bed and then heading out for a lazy brunch. I dumped him, life is too short.

He still texts me, but I never respond.

I'm sure he'll meet someone who also enjoys working out in the mornings. Personally, I hate lying around in the morning and going out for brunch- makes me feel sluggish and bleh.

NP. Perhaps he doesn't like type A women. Opposites attract.

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Anonymous wrote:I once dated a dude who was in absolute model condition. What I didn't realize when we originally got together was that meant him hitting the gym every Saturday AND Sunday for HOURS. Right during the hours when you want to be cuddled up in bed and then heading out for a lazy brunch. I dumped him, life is too short.

He still texts me, but I never respond.

I'm sure he'll meet someone who also enjoys working out in the mornings. Personally, I hate lying around in the morning and going out for brunch- makes me feel sluggish and bleh.

I don't think so. It's been a few years and he still texts me.

Anyway, i found someone who works out but sleeps in and gets brunch with me. Good for me

Anonymous wrote:I once dated a dude who was in absolute model condition. What I didn't realize when we originally got together was that meant him hitting the gym every Saturday AND Sunday for HOURS. Right during the hours when you want to be cuddled up in bed and then heading out for a lazy brunch. I dumped him, life is too short.

He still texts me, but I never respond.

I'm sure he'll meet someone who also enjoys working out in the mornings. Personally, I hate lying around in the morning and going out for brunch- makes me feel sluggish and bleh.

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Anonymous wrote:He's not married, he just has his kids every weekend.

Are you certain of that? People lie all the time. Did you meet online?

I know both of them from the time that they were married. They are definitely divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew of a situation like this. Turns out, the guy was going on dates on the off weekend. He told my friend he had the kids every weekend, but it was every other weekend.

This.
Seriously, who only has custody on every.single.weekend? But not during the week? I can't imagine anyone signing off on that. Every other weekend? Absolutely. But not every single weekend.

He lives some distance from the kids' schools so this is the only way they could manage it.

Anonymous wrote:He's not married, he just has his kids every weekend.

Are you certain of that? People lie all the time. Did you meet online?

I once dated a dude who was in absolute model condition. What I didn't realize when we originally got together was that meant him hitting the gym every Saturday AND Sunday for HOURS. Right during the hours when you want to be cuddled up in bed and then heading out for a lazy brunch. I dumped him, life is too short.

He still texts me, but I never respond.

A guy who likes having his kids on the weekends sounds like an involved dad. My ex wanted ours every weekend, and was great that way, doing lots of fun things. He met and married a wonderful woman who has been an excellent stepmom. She knew what she was getting, and embraced it.

So you have to ask yourself whether you're a "kid person" who'd enjoy having the kids with you. If not, it's best for you to date someone without kids or without that much custody.

Anonymous wrote:I knew of a situation like this. Turns out, the guy was going on dates on the off weekend. He told my friend he had the kids every weekend, but it was every other weekend.

This.
Seriously, who only has custody on every.single.weekend? But not during the week? I can't imagine anyone signing off on that. Every other weekend? Absolutely. But not every single weekend.

You can be close to 50-50 if you have all weekends + summer. I had that schedule for a while and managed to date (during the week).