Marry the man who already has it together. You'll save yourself the hassle. Marrying potential can come back to bite you in the butt. If you won't be happy with a 90k man then don't marry a 90k man. I am talking from experience.

Do not let anyone shame you because you don't want to live a boring, mediocre life. Men aren't worth the hassle unless they have money and it's smart that you've realized this before you tied yourself down to Mr. Mediocre.

Anonymous wrote:People need to stop dumping on OP as if security is not something to consider when marrying.

Most people doing the dumping are admittedly married to men who make more and provide a comfortable life.

So how are any of you better than OP? Because she articulated what some of you thought but would never utter aloud.

Nearly all of you would advise their own daughters to marry someone who can provide. Marry a person sounds cute but we all know that money problems are the #1 cause of divorce.

Get off your high horses and get a grip.

I won't dump on OP but the real question to ask is whether she has any richer suitors. If not, then that's the best she can do.

Anonymous wrote:My husband was making that much (recently) at 39 just as we started our family. I had always made more, and we found ourselves in a situation where I unexpectedly ended up quitting and staying home with our child. We've struggled, we've stressed, and we've sacrificed. He remains the most devoted husband, father, and friend I could ever ask for. Don't marry a paycheck. Marry a person.

Crying over here. This is my life. Listen to this person pp.

90k is poor? WTF is the matter with you? Let the poor man go.

People need to stop dumping on OP as if security is not something to consider when marrying.

Most people doing the dumping are admittedly married to men who make more and provide a comfortable life.

So how are any of you better than OP? Because she articulated what some of you thought but would never utter aloud.

Nearly all of you would advise their own daughters to marry someone who can provide. Marry a person sounds cute but we all know that money problems are the #1 cause of divorce.

Get off your high horses and get a grip.

90k at 29 is not bad. You need to grow up. And get a better paying job yourself.

My husband and I have the wealth we have because we both earned it.

Also, my husband was making less than that at 29. By 33, he was making a lot more. But I was making almost as much as him.

This is not poor at all.

If you wanted to marry a man with means as a primary criteria, you should have been dating him in the first place.

However, 90k is actually great and you might not find someone who earns more. It is actually hard to find a man who actually wants to marry you.

So, if you break up with him, know that you might not ever find someone "richer" who wants to actually spend their life with you.

Anonymous wrote:I married my husband when he was making $40k and I was making $75k. Our disparity is still there, although we've both made significant leaps in salaries. I've never held his salary against him. We both enjoy what we do and are able to have a nice life.

This. Same for me. I love my DH not his money. We make due with what we have and are a happy family of 4.

What? Since when is making $90k at 29 poor?

My husband made about that at 29, and we are plenty comfortable at 35 now. But I make the same salary that he does, unlike you.

The odds are that you think like a f'ing prostitute and might as well be one.

Only in DCUM is making 90k at 29 considered poor.

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Anonymous wrote:For his sake leave him now. How much do you make?

65k

Since you only make 65k, you don't have any room to talk. He should be wondering if he'll have a good life with you.

I sincerely hope this is a troll post. If not, this is ridiculous.

+1. What a loser you are, OP. What's between your legs doesn't entitle you to bear less of the financial burden than your partner.

I married my husband when he was making $40k and I was making $75k. Our disparity is still there, although we've both made significant leaps in salaries. I've never held his salary against him. We both enjoy what we do and are able to have a nice life.

gold digger

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Anonymous wrote:For his sake leave him now. How much do you make?

65k

Uh hello. You make less than him and you're daring to complain that he might not be a good provider? You should think really long and hard about what you just posted. "I'm in love with someone and want to build a life with him. He makes more money than me, and makes more money than the average American. Still not good enough for me." Are you a princess? Are you expecting to have an easy life handed to you because you're a woman? Do you have any self respect? Do you understand the importance of being independent and able to always provide for yourself, even within a marriage? All important things that you need to figure out before making this big decision. You sound horrible.

Troll.

In the event you're not actually a troll, break up with him because he can do better than a gold digging loser.