Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a woman marries again, it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again, it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs.
Oscar Wilde

This is for widows/widowers not divorce.

Thanks. I was scratching my head on this one.

It would be abnormal if you didn't feel that way! Cheating, abused alcohol, AND controlling? Yikes! I don't think anyone could come away from all that without a bad taste! Time to debrief and cut yourself some slack. It's going to take time to heal. As you heal, so will your perspective. I've learned that what doesn't kill me makes me smarter (which in turn makes me stronger). When you've had some time away from the situation, you'll be able to reflect and benefit from the lessons learned moving forward, and see things objectively once again.

Totally normal. Avoid dating and do other stuff until you are starting to feel more positive. If you have guy friends who are nice guys, maybe spend a bit more time with them so you can remember that not all guys are dicks?

I have a bunch of friends who get cynical about men when they meet a bunch of duds via online dating. So they chill out on dating for awhile until they're feeling positive again.