At times I have been happy and other times sad being single and married. Neither is static. Life has ups and downs.

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Anonymous wrote:I had happy years married and miserable years married. The miserable years were made worse because I could remember when ex was a decent, mostly sane person. Averaging all those years, probably slightly happier married but you have to manufacture your own happiness. I was very lonely and isolated the last 8 years of the marriage.

Now I'm not lonely, and looking forward to a great relationship with a younger, tighter, more successful woman.

You sound like a lovely person.

Because I want what's best for me, for a change?

NP. Because you're an annoying delusional loser

I've always been happy but I would say that being with DH is my happiest.

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Anonymous wrote:I had happy years married and miserable years married. The miserable years were made worse because I could remember when ex was a decent, mostly sane person. Averaging all those years, probably slightly happier married but you have to manufacture your own happiness. I was very lonely and isolated the last 8 years of the marriage.

Now I'm not lonely, and looking forward to a great relationship with a younger, tighter, more successful woman.

You sound like a lovely person.

Because I want what's best for me, for a change?

Is this question for the men or the women? If for men, it must be a trick question!

I've been happy when single and now married. I don't think one is better than the other or more conducive to happiness.

Each has its own upsides and downsides. Each has its own challenges.

I think when people are single, it's easy to think that just finding the right mate would make everything better! And when people are married but not as happy as they imagined when they were single (and blamed their unhappiness on being alone), it's easy to blame marriage and think you could just be happy if you didn't have the mate you have or if you were alone.

Anonymous wrote:I had happy years married and miserable years married. The miserable years were made worse because I could remember when ex was a decent, mostly sane person. Averaging all those years, probably slightly happier married but you have to manufacture your own happiness. I was very lonely and isolated the last 8 years of the marriage.

Now I'm not lonely, and looking forward to a great relationship with a younger, tighter, more successful woman.

You sound like a lovely person.

second marriage!
then single
then first marriage (workaholic, slob)

Single.

I had happy years married and miserable years married. The miserable years were made worse because I could remember when ex was a decent, mostly sane person. Averaging all those years, probably slightly happier married but you have to manufacture your own happiness. I was very lonely and isolated the last 8 years of the marriage.

Now I'm not lonely, and looking forward to a great relationship with a younger, tighter, more successful woman.

Single

I've been single, married and widowed. Most happy married.

great relationships are mostly temporary. safer to be single and draw happiness from within and from friends.

Single or married no kids. Definitely not married w kids.

Anonymous wrote:Married. Now been married for 24 years, with DH for 28 years.

There is nothing better than a great marriage but nothing more soul destroying than a bad marriage. People should divorce because it is better to be single than in a bad marriage (unless you are not financially independent and there are kids involved)

OMG this. When I was single (a zillion years ago) I remember being lonely. Then I get into the most lonely marriage ever. So miserable. I am now separated and far more mature and happy with my own company. So, I guess it depends.