Anonymous wrote:Nagging is more focused on the tone and less the actual work that needs to be done.

I am married to someone who will sit on the sofa, looking at the phone, barking orders about what needs to be done. It annoys the f*** out of me.

Nagging is a nebulous term that, to the majority of DCUM men, seems to mean "Asked me to take out the trash that one time"

Nagging is more focused on the tone and less the actual work that needs to be done.

I am married to someone who will sit on the sofa, looking at the phone, barking orders about what needs to be done. It annoys the f*** out of me.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be glad that I dodged a bullet and move on.

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HE should be glad that HE dodged a bullet.
If more American guys were like this, women here wouldn't have such horrible attitudes.

But they're not and there's plenty more fish in the sea.

Go out and bone one, OP! Yahtzee!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I would be glad that I dodged a bullet and move on.

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HE should be glad that HE dodged a bullet.
If more American guys were like this, women here wouldn't have such horrible attitudes.

^Men rates of responses are horrible on tinder. It's almost a dating desert for men unless youre in the top 10% (you should google this, lots of articles about it)

For women it's like winning a game show though- most get TONS of matches. So sure, Tinder sounds like a fine idea!

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Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone siding with op. She's the problem.

Because most of the posters here are women. Married women, so we fully understand and are used to male BS. We know exactly what "nagging" means

Yeah you all deserve no one
Men can just use tinder , men don't need to suffer through your abusive crap

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone siding with op. She's the problem.

Because most of the posters here are women. Married women, so we fully understand and are used to male BS. We know exactly what "nagging" means

Why is everyone siding with op. She's the problem.

Maybe as she stated she was really nagging him, it would not be the first time a woman nagged her fiance. Maybe he just decided it was not a situation that he wanted to spend his life dealing with. Men do not expect women to change after marriage, and the engagement period is frequently a good indicator of what your wife will really be like. Both the man and the woman are trying to display their best side during dating, engagement is typically where the real person starts to come through.

Be happy that you found out this manbaby before you were legally hitched to him and forced to go through divorce hell. Now get out there and find a hot dude to bone

The issue is you nag too much FOR HIM. It doesn't matter what you actually do, it's that something wasn't compatible. It sucks, and I'm sorry that your relationship broke up, ut as others said, you dodged a bullet. It never gets better after you get married/have a kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Let's see... is "nagging" codeword for "asked him to do an equal level of work for you isn't of allowing him to laze around?" Because that's usually what it's code for, and I would be throwing myself a party for getting out of that before i had kids.

"Nagging" also means you're an unpleasant nag. Occam's Razor: google it.

Or that you forgot to factor in significant amounts of work that it takes to run a household.

Thing is, I don't think you dodged a bullet. I think you've been given an opportunity to see things from another perspective. Maybe SO is t pulling his share. Maybe you underestimated his share. And maybe you are in different places in terms of how to form a household.

LOL! It always someone else fault...it absolutely positively cannot be anything about me. He must be a misogynist...oh those evil men! Feminist(= never taking personal responsibility) unit!

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Anonymous wrote:Let's see... is "nagging" codeword for "asked him to do an equal level of work for you isn't of allowing him to laze around?" Because that's usually what it's code for, and I would be throwing myself a party for getting out of that before i had kids.

"Nagging" also means you're an unpleasant nag. Occam's Razor: google it.

No, it means your husband is a lazy entitled saddo not pulling his weight

They weren't married. She needs to find someone who will accept hen picking.

OP: next time be a better actress. You don't want him to find out about the real you until after the wedding.

Bullet dodged. Be thankful.