Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If we meet for coffee, it won't be too long until we are in the parking garage in the back seat of your car.

Desperate HW here, this is the truth. Btdt, not worth the guilt...

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Marriage sounds awesome. Where do I sign up?

Steer clear of the object of your crush and use that “delightful but distressing energy” to reinvest in what matters most to you—your marriage, it seems. Do something extra sweet for your spouse this week. Have sex tonight and make it hella hot and good. Go for a long walk or a lingering dinner together and lovingly discuss how you’re going to keep your love as well as your romance strong. You’re clear you don’t want to act on your crush, so trust that clarity and be grateful that you have it, sweet pea. My inbox is jammed with emails from people who are not so clear. They’re tortured by indecision and guilt and lust. They love X but want to f**k Z. It is the plight of almost every middle aged monogamous married person at one time or another. We all love X but want to f**k Z.

Z is so gleaming, so crystalline, so unlikely to bitch at you for neglecting to take out the recycling. Nobody has to haggle with Z. Z doesn’t wear a watch. Z is like a motorcycle with no one on it. Beautiful. Going nowhere.

Anonymous wrote:If we meet for coffee, it won't be too long until we are in the parking garage in the back seat of your car.

Desperate HW here, this is the truth. Btdt, not worth the guilt...

If we meet for coffee, it won't be too long until we are in the parking garage in the back seat of your car.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find someone on another continent to chat with online. It scratches an itch and is pretty close to harmless.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel the thrill of mutual infatuation again. Nobody is exciting for decades.

How do you find someone on another continent? Or even state?

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I am male. this could have been me 6 years ago. I met someone, started talking...flirting. We were feeling like soulmates. But, we never went further than that. We were planning on it....

then crisis came in the form of a medical diagnosis. Wife was there for me...other woman...she was not. I came to realize the many years we were together were more meaningful than a hypothetical potential fling.

Remember OP, the other person is always more attractive, funnier, in better shape, more interesting to everyone else except his spouse who is saying the same thing you are.

Here's what to do if you have even a modicum of character: find a way to get that spark with your DH again. Go to therapy, Google it, sex toys, whatever. So many people in this world have real problems.

Anonymous wrote:Find someone on another continent to chat with online. It scratches an itch and is pretty close to harmless.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel the thrill of mutual infatuation again. Nobody is exciting for decades.

How do you find someone on another continent? Or even state?

Anonymous wrote:Long story short... I was in a situation with DH but much worse. I was completely numb. Not looking for anyone, but someone started paying attention to me and I liked it. Im much older than him, so i was initially flattered. We were just friends but it became an emotional affair that 2 years later is still going on. Not as deeply because he moved and lives a completely different life than before. Sometimes we don't speak or text for weeks but we always come back to each other and it's not healthy. I have worked on my marriage and it's gotten better, but this guy is still in my heart. It's not worth it. [b]No matter how innocent you think it can be, you can very easily lose control.

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Find someone on another continent to chat with online. It scratches an itch and is pretty close to harmless.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel the thrill of mutual infatuation again. Nobody is exciting for decades.

Yup... been the same a few years now

Anonymous wrote:I'm married, 38 years old, and I miss connecting with someone. DH and I have become more like siblings than husband and wife. I find myself fantasizing about meeting someone in a coffee shop. But not for sex. Just to talk with. Feel a spark, a connection. How do I get over this?

You sound bored and needing attention. plan date nights and find some interests to share with DH. Why look for a spark from a stranger when you have someone who probably loves you very much.

Long story short... I was in a situation with DH but much worse. I was completely numb. Not looking for anyone, but someone started paying attention to me and I liked it. Im much older than him, so i was initially flattered. We were just friends but it became an emotional affair that 2 years later is still going on. Not as deeply because he moved and lives a completely different life than before. Sometimes we don't speak or text for weeks but we always come back to each other and it's not healthy. I have worked on my marriage and it's gotten better, but this guy is still in my heart. It's not worth it. No matter how innocent you think it can be, you can very easily lose control.