Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your life like? Are you happy?

I ask because I'm engaged but not yet married and I feel pretty self conscious.

I had a great time. I dated guys in their 20s - 50s. Really fun. Also the men were older and had more disposable income to go on nice trips and yummy dinners. Enjoy it!

+1

Seriously - I own two condos, I jet back and forth between the cities I live in and I'm going on vacation to Aspen in December....I love my life. I wouldn't mind sharing it with a special someone, but I'm by no means crazy enough to give it up just yet either.

And yet you hang out on a relationship message board...

...for parents

I'm 30 and I've been married three years and have a 6 month old. I have a great group of over a dozen college GF's and almost all are married. The ones who aren't are still doing the same things we all did when we got out of college which often includes late night drinking and hung over Sunday brunches. I do miss a bit of it but I really like how I have progressed as a woman, a wife and now a mom. Sure, I'm not thrilled when my baby "comet vomits" all over me but it's part of her and my development. When I get together with my single friends and we talk about our lives I'm a bit jealous until I get home to my baby and husband. There is absolutely nothing wrong about being single in your thirties but I'm happy where I am.

Anonymous wrote:Grass is brown on both sides OP.

Or grass is green on the other side. If you find someone you can imagine living the rest of your life, then why not? Otherwise, don't do it. I got married at 33, and for the most part, I'm happily married. I have friends in their early 50's who are still looking for Mr. Right, and the dating pool as you get older is murkier.

Anonymous wrote:Grass is brown on both sides OP.

yup. "Brown on both sides" the new comeback album from Mos Def!

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of sex. With lots of men.

Ah, those were the days.

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Some women don't need bras

I had a lot of sex. With lots of men.

Ah, those were the days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and I would rather be alone then with someone just because I'm supposed to.

Amen.

except it should be than, not then in the first post.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and I would rather be alone then with someone just because I'm supposed to.

Amen.

I got divorced at 34 so I was back on the market in my mid 30's. I enjoyed the fact that I was old enough to have self confidence to be alone and do whatever I want, and dating was 100% on my terms. I found a great guy that I will marry next year, but it wasn't bad or depressing at all being single/divorced and on the market at that age. It was a fun time of my life.

I'm 35 and I would rather be alone then with someone just because I'm supposed to.

I'll bite. Your views will always be skewed by the company you keep. I got married at 33, had a baby at 34, and I'm now 35. My friends "back home" are certainly not child brides from a traditional, rural area - they all have finished college, some have advanced degrees, and all have good careers, although a couple are now SAHMs. But they were all married or engaged by the time we turned 28. It was a bit alienating to be the only one in that circle of friends without a partner (my DH and I did not have a long-term relationship before we got married). I definitely felt twinges of envy and bitterness, especially around finances.

On the other hand, many, many of my college friends and acquaintances are single and dating around. I'm the anomaly in being a married mother and feel left out of many fun social events and closer friendships as a result. The grass is ALWAYS greener, or as PP said, it's brown on both sides.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your life like? Are you happy?

I ask because I'm engaged but not yet married and I feel pretty self conscious.

Pro tip: it's 2017, not 1957.

Exactly this. Why would you feel self conscious? Are you posting from Estonia or Niger?

Anonymous wrote:Grass is brown on both sides OP.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your life like? Are you happy?

I ask because I'm engaged but not yet married and I feel pretty self conscious.

I had a great time. I dated guys in their 20s - 50s. Really fun. Also the men were older and had more disposable income to go on nice trips and yummy dinners. Enjoy it!

+1

Seriously - I own two condos, I jet back and forth between the cities I live in and I'm going on vacation to Aspen in December....I love my life. I wouldn't mind sharing it with a special someone, but I'm by no means crazy enough to give it up just yet either.

And yet you hang out on a relationship message board...

The strife here is better than Game of Thrones + RHONY combined. Best birth control ever.