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Anonymous wrote:Tell the kids you are going on a day trip and get a room if your H is going to torture you with emotional abuse and give him some sympathy sex... sound fun. NOT.

No I would not do it in the house with a bunch of people. You are empty nesters, this is literally never an issue any more except maybe 2-4 times a year.

You H is an a$$hat.

This.

A DH is trying to have sex with his a wife....what is wrong with that?

She doesn't want to. He is trying to pressure her into doing something she clearly stated makes her uncomfortable and she won't enjoy.

How often do women have their whole family together... children and grandchildren. Rarely and all the H cares about is getting laid.

How did men get so weak and needy? Go away, I have 15 people in the house I rarely get to see.

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Anonymous wrote:Question OP - is the bed on a carpeted floor? Beach houses often have wooden floors which can create a lot of noise. My DH's parents had a beach house and we slept in a bedroom, right above the master, which had twin beds and a wooden floor. We actually conceived two of our children in that situation. Silent but fruitful. We still joke about it but our kids were shocked when they got old enough to figure it out.

Huh?

How did they figure it out, unless you spent months at that house?

Summer house has been in the family something like 50 years. We always visit at the 4th of July. Kids both born around April 1. Do the math!

Anonymous wrote:Your H sounds like a child.

-A 35 year old man

You aren't a man. Your wife has your balls in her pocket.

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Anonymous wrote:Question OP - is the bed on a carpeted floor? Beach houses often have wooden floors which can create a lot of noise. My DH's parents had a beach house and we slept in a bedroom, right above the master, which had twin beds and a wooden floor. We actually conceived two of our children in that situation. Silent but fruitful. We still joke about it but our kids were shocked when they got old enough to figure it out.

Cool story! I have a more or less related story...DH and I were staying at a hotel once and we were already asleep. We were woken by the couple in the room next door having pretty loud sex. DH and I both started getting frisky and ended up having loud sex too as we tried to outdo them. It became a bit of a friendly competition. We ended up conceiving our child that night. We never met the couple.

My DH and I are trying to conceive. I will mention the above two stories to him which might give us a couple of ideas.

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Anonymous wrote:A house full of people is a libido killer imo. I wouldn't worry about it too much either way.

Woman here and I agree. I have a very regular and active sex life otherwise. But our vacation every year is with anywhere from 4-8 other people and always pretty tight space. This year our room didn't even have an actual door. So I'd survive if I had to live two weeks without sex, it's not like we go that long any other time. He's being a baby if you guys otherwise have no issues.

Couldn't disagree more. It's a way spouses stay connected, maybe the best way. Whenever one of us is headed out of town without the other, there is always sex in the 24 hours prior to departure and within 24 hours of arrival home. It seems like it is a big deal to her DH. There is always a way. There is some point when the house is empty or close to it. It might require suggesting everyone go out to breakfast and say you are running behind and will meet them. Have a quickie and show up late. Maybe everyone goes to the beach at the same time. Make an excuse to go up to the house and meet him. Where there's a will, there's a way. Your children know you have had sex. It's how they got here. You certainly had it when they lived in the house with you. It's a natural occurrence. Stop worrying about others and enjoy yourself. Just don't enjoy it at top volume.

Anonymous wrote:Question OP - is the bed on a carpeted floor? Beach houses often have wooden floors which can create a lot of noise. My DH's parents had a beach house and we slept in a bedroom, right above the master, which had twin beds and a wooden floor. We actually conceived two of our children in that situation. Silent but fruitful. We still joke about it but our kids were shocked when they got old enough to figure it out.

Cool story! I have a more or less related story...DH and I were staying at a hotel once and we were already asleep. We were woken by the couple in the room next door having pretty loud sex. DH and I both started getting frisky and ended up having loud sex too as we tried to outdo them. It became a bit of a friendly competition. We ended up conceiving our child that night. We never met the couple.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell the kids you are going on a day trip and get a room if your H is going to torture you with emotional abuse and give him some sympathy sex... sound fun. NOT.

No I would not do it in the house with a bunch of people. You are empty nesters, this is literally never an issue any more except maybe 2-4 times a year.

You H is an a$$hat.

This.

A DH is trying to have sex with his a wife....what is wrong with that?

I agree! I'm only 37 and it's nice to hear about a grandfather who still wants to have sex with a grandmother. Yeah, I get the full house issue but the guys on vacation and that usually or hopefully increases a guys libido. At least it does with my DH.

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are on vacation with our children, their spouses and little grandchildren, all in one big house. My DH and I still have a very active sex life for 'oldies' 1-2x per week. We've been here four nights and last night my DH was definitely showing interest but I was not enthusiastic given the full house. He said he was darn sure our kids knew that we still had sex and that the GC's were so young that we weren't going to harm their psyches. He didn't convince me. When we leave Saturday I'm heading away for a week to visit my mother and my DH said 'do you really want to go over two weeks without sex'? I don't want to go for the full two weeks but right now I'm feeling more like a grandmother than a wife. What would you do?

No way would I go 2 weeks without sex and I'm a 52 year old woman.

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Anonymous wrote:A house full of people is a libido killer imo. I wouldn't worry about it too much either way.

Is it? I personally find it kind of exciting, to be honest. I would be mortified if they heard me, but trying to keep it quiet would be a turn on for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:You people never heard of shower sex ? It's hard to believe you aren't alone for 5 minutes.

I have a husband that's over sexed. I do not do the deed with people in my house. I tell him to use the cherry blossom body wash and handle his business.

Doesn't that burn??!

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Anonymous wrote:Tell the kids you are going on a day trip and get a room if your H is going to torture you with emotional abuse and give him some sympathy sex... sound fun. NOT.

No I would not do it in the house with a bunch of people. You are empty nesters, this is literally never an issue any more except maybe 2-4 times a year.

You H is an a$$hat.

This.

A DH is trying to have sex with his a wife....what is wrong with that?

Anonymous wrote:Question OP - is the bed on a carpeted floor? Beach houses often have wooden floors which can create a lot of noise. My DH's parents had a beach house and we slept in a bedroom, right above the master, which had twin beds and a wooden floor. We actually conceived two of our children in that situation. Silent but fruitful. We still joke about it but our kids were shocked when they got old enough to figure it out.

Huh?

How did they figure it out, unless you spent months at that house?

Anonymous wrote:Tell the kids you are going on a day trip and get a room if your H is going to torture you with emotional abuse and give him some sympathy sex... sound fun. NOT.

No I would not do it in the house with a bunch of people. You are empty nesters, this is literally never an issue any more except maybe 2-4 times a year.

You H is an a$$hat.

This.

This has never been an issue at any other point in your obviously long marriage? What did you do then? I can't believe you've been married over 30 years (right?) and don't have "a plan" for this.

If you were my inlaws and I heard that while on vacation I'd be totally grossed out. Sorry!

Anonymous wrote:Tell the kids you are going on a day trip and get a room if your H is going to torture you with emotional abuse and give him some sympathy sex... sound fun. NOT.

No I would not do it in the house with a bunch of people. You are empty nesters, this is literally never an issue any more except maybe 2-4 times a year.

You H is an a$$hat.

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