Anonymous wrote:I'm trying to envision exactly how my parents could have stopped me from being friends with a work colleague when I was 16. I just don't think it would have been possible. But my parents also were not overprotective and neurotic, soooo...

That being said, I met people I never would have gotten to know otherwise that summer (working retail in the mall), and it was great for me to talk with people whose lives were nothing like my own.

+1. I hung out with all kinds of unsavory types in high school. The thought of my parents trying to police that makes me laugh. FWIW, I also waited until I was 20 to have sex.

I'm trying to envision exactly how my parents could have stopped me from being friends with a work colleague when I was 16. I just don't think it would have been possible. But my parents also were not overprotective and neurotic, soooo...

That being said, I met people I never would have gotten to know otherwise that summer (working retail in the mall), and it was great for me to talk with people whose lives were nothing like my own.

I think this could be an interesting exposure for my teens, but we would have lots of conversations about it, and I would only agree to a friendly acquaintance, not a close friendship.

The poster who says she would not allow her teen boy to socialize with such a person is very short-sighted. Both sexes need to understand how babies take over your life.

OP again.

My daughter is a "good " kid fairly quiet, kind of bookish with few friends, she has 1 good female friend since K, and 1 school friend and 1 boyfriend. She's a Rory Gilmore type if you will.

I guess I'm just worried about her going off the rails, which is probably silly since she's never given her father and I an ounce of trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. They're both female and my daughter met her at her summer job, they hang out together doing normal teen stuff, like going out to eat and shopping, beach and the girl brings her kids along who are 2 and 1.

She was going on about how cute the children are so I'm worried she has the wrong idea.

Your daughter drove to the beach with a 17 year old single mother and her 2 children for the day, for the weekend?

OP here. What no? There was no weekend a way, they spent a few hours at the beach the other girl drove, I wasn't too thrilled about that ( I like to know the people she's riding around with(

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. They're both female and my daughter met her at her summer job, they hang out together doing normal teen stuff, like going out to eat and shopping, beach and the girl brings her kids along who are 2 and 1.

She was going on about how cute the children are so I'm worried she has the wrong idea.

There is nothing about going out with a 2 and 1 year old that would make it appealing to have a 2 and a 1 year old.

+1 My closest-age cousin got pregnant our senior year of high school. I thought her baby was adorable but I was so freaked out about the idea of getting pregnant that I took a LONG time to finally have sex. Probably for the best...I got pg the first time DH and I had sex w/out birth control!

16 is not the age to make these types of decisions for your children. Sorry, mom. It's best to let DC make their own choices and you just try to be supportive and give the most un -judgmental advice you can summon up.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. They're both female and my daughter met her at her summer job, they hang out together doing normal teen stuff, like going out to eat and shopping, beach and the girl brings her kids along who are 2 and 1.

She was going on about how cute the children are so I'm worried she has the wrong idea.

Your daughter drove to the beach with a 17 year old single mother and her 2 children for the day, for the weekend?

Hopefully your DD is smarter than you are, OP.

So you think she would get pregnant because the friend has cute kids.

You don't give her much credit, do you?

Teen parent doesn't concern me.

Op is there anything else about her to warrant concern?

Does your daughter generally make what you consider to be good choices? Is she liable to think "Hey this doesn't look so bad. Maybe I should try it."

Anonymous wrote:OP here. They're both female and my daughter met her at her summer job, they hang out together doing normal teen stuff, like going out to eat and shopping, beach and the girl brings her kids along who are 2 and 1.

She was going on about how cute the children are so I'm worried she has the wrong idea.

There is nothing about going out with a 2 and 1 year old that would make it appealing to have a 2 and a 1 year old.

OP here. They're both female and my daughter met her at her summer job, they hang out together doing normal teen stuff, like going out to eat and shopping, beach and the girl brings her kids along who are 2 and 1.

She was going on about how cute the children are so I'm worried she has the wrong idea.

Yes, my kids worked retail and other jobs in HS and college and exposure to people outside the Bethesda bubble was part of the experience. Good for them to know that not everyone is just like them. I don't know if either came across teen parents though.

Why does this 17 year old have 2 kids. That is an important question.

What is hang out? Go to a drinking party? Go to Chipotle? Help her with her kids?

You tell your kids to choose their friends wisely. That does not mean dump every friend that is making mistakes.

You tell your kid to be kind to everybody. That does not mean hanging out with friends that are toxic and make bad decisions, constantly.

You have not given enough information, but in general, it does not seem like this girl is making healthy decision, so NO I would not.