A friend of mine had a wedding on a Tuesday night. Almost everyone left before dinner was done. She was heading back to her house by 8:30.

It really depends on your expectations... if you just want a simple wedding with very few people (and no kids), then it can work. But if many of your guests are going to be working the next day or have kids that have homework and need to be on the bus the next morning, it's not worth it, go with a cheaper venue and a weekend date.

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Anonymous wrote:If people do attend, many will be there out of a sense of obligation and won't be very happy to be there. Is that how you want your wedding day to feel?

Not only that, even the ones who decline will ALWAYS REMEMBER that you chose a venue over your guests. It's incredibly immature of you to even consider doing this, to the point that you're too immature to be getting married.

Ehh or she was prioritizing being married over having a party

OP here. The venue is a small hotel in Old Town Alexandria. We are thinking small (50 people) gathering of closest friends and family, most of whom are local. 4:30 pm ceremony. 5-6 reception; 7-9 dinner 10 - 11 dancing. Not a big wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:If people do attend, many will be there out of a sense of obligation and won't be very happy to be there. Is that how you want your wedding day to feel?

Not only that, even the ones who decline will ALWAYS REMEMBER that you chose a venue over your guests. It's incredibly immature of you to even consider doing this, to the point that you're too immature to be getting married.

Ehh or she was prioritizing being married over having a party

Anonymous wrote:If people do attend, many will be there out of a sense of obligation and won't be very happy to be there. Is that how you want your wedding day to feel?

Not only that, even the ones who decline will ALWAYS REMEMBER that you chose a venue over your guests. It's incredibly immature of you to even consider doing this, to the point that you're too immature to be getting married.

I actually think pp who suggested a 6pm dinner thing is right.

People don't have to take a huge amount of time off for that.
Could ask the nanny to stay a little later.

Dinner, ceremony and a couple hours of dancing, be done by 10:00pm a 11 at the latest. That's do able. Even better if you can do the ceremony and dinner at the same place with virtually no wait time in between.

I think you'll have an issue you if you are expecting an event OP like
Flying your bridesmaids out for events, family dinner, rehearsal dinner, hours of dancing. If you want a big to do it's a no.

If you are happy with simple, it can wok.

Anonymous wrote:Op - provide more specifics.

Agreed, we need more information. Around here, a lot of people will be hard-pressed to get out of work, get ready for a wedding, and then get to your venue much before 7 pm, so if you're thinking of starting earlier than that, be prepared for a lot of people to either send their regrets or come late. Are you at least having the ceremony and reception at the same location?

Op - provide more specifics.

You can do this, sure. But also don't be surprised if less people come because it's too much time off work.

So if you are ok with having way fewer guests there, then sure. But don't throw a hissy fit later that people can't/won't come.

Bad idea. Why not get married at a courthouse and have the ceremony whenever you can plan it, even if it's next year?

If it's a 6 pm ceremony with dinner and music but no dancing so you're out of there by 10 pm at the latest, and you only want retirees and local friends, go for it.

PP here.

Op absolutely go for it if it's what you want, just understand that likely not many would come. It's about the bride and groom anyway, not 100 guests.

If people do attend, many will be there out of a sense of obligation and won't be very happy to be there. Is that how you want your wedding day to feel?

Anonymous wrote:Pretty terrible. It's a lot to ask people to take a day off from work for your wedding. Aside from close family and very close friends, no one cares that much.

Right as far as people not caring that much. So it isn't terrible since not many care anyway.

I wouldn't skip work and otherwise mess with a work day for very many people.

For me the issue would be that you want this in November, for a sibling or friend who is close to me like a sibling I would do it it, anyone else I wouldn't.

November is headed towards that time of year, and I don't want to put time of towards a wedding I could use towards holiday.

I would totally take a day off from work to attend your weekday wedding. Seriously, not a big deal if I love somebody. Have the wedding you can afford. I say go for it, love it, enjoy it!