Anonymous wrote:My fiancé has a handful of friends, but all of them are single and come across to us as immature (heavy partying, etc.) so we stopped hanging out with them. He has work friends that are in relationships or are married. Maybe we could initiate a deeper friendship with them. I think it's only bothering me now because we very recently got engaged and are thinking about our wedding. My sister will be my maid of honor, but I don't think I will have any bridesmaids I've been extremely introverted my entire life, so I guess this is what I get.

Being shallow has nothing to do with being introverted. You "get" a spouse and a sister to be in your wedding party. A lot of people don't even have that, but PP was right, don't compare yourself to others.

Start meditating. It will help with the anxiety. You can even if do it as a group: http://imcw.org

Medicate the depression as well.

Start cultivating hobbies and reaching out to others to cultivate friendships.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancé has a handful of friends, but all of them are single and come across to us as immature (heavy partying, etc.) so we stopped hanging out with them. He has work friends that are in relationships or are married. Maybe we could initiate a deeper friendship with them. I think it's only bothering me now because we very recently got engaged and are thinking about our wedding. My sister will be my maid of honor, but I don't think I will have any bridesmaids I've been extremely introverted my entire life, so I guess this is what I get.

At my wedding, my sister was the maid of honor and my husband's brother was the best man, no other bridesmaids or groomsmen. I have attended a few weddings like mine and I thought they were lovely. How many people married 10+years are still in touch with their wedding party?

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I am. But my wedding party was my sister. Ha. Can't get rid of her!!!

Ummm a whole lot of people are still friends with their wedding parties? My parents just had their 45th anniversary and my mom and I were flipping through their old wedding album just for fun- I recognized every person in their party, except for my uncle who sadly passed before I was born. Two of the women are godparents to me and my little brother, respectively.

That said, I think it's also lovely to just have one maid of honor/ best man. It's also becoming pretty trendy to not have any maid of honor these days. I've been to a few of those weddings recently. Just do what feels most comfortable and don't apologize to anyone, it's your day!

A counselor tells me it's Ok to not have friends. Don't compare yourself to others. If you don't really want it don't force it. You're fine.

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Anonymous wrote:My fiancé has a handful of friends, but all of them are single and come across to us as immature (heavy partying, etc.) so we stopped hanging out with them. He has work friends that are in relationships or are married. Maybe we could initiate a deeper friendship with them. I think it's only bothering me now because we very recently got engaged and are thinking about our wedding. My sister will be my maid of honor, but I don't think I will have any bridesmaids I've been extremely introverted my entire life, so I guess this is what I get.

At my wedding, my sister was the maid of honor and my husband's brother was the best man, no other bridesmaids or groomsmen. I have attended a few weddings like mine and I thought they were lovely. How many people married 10+years are still in touch with their wedding party?

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I am. But my wedding party was my sister. Ha. Can't get rid of her!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancé has a handful of friends, but all of them are single and come across to us as immature (heavy partying, etc.) so we stopped hanging out with them. He has work friends that are in relationships or are married. Maybe we could initiate a deeper friendship with them. I think it's only bothering me now because we very recently got engaged and are thinking about our wedding. My sister will be my maid of honor, but I don't think I will have any bridesmaids I've been extremely introverted my entire life, so I guess this is what I get.

At my wedding, my sister was the maid of honor and my husband's brother was the best man, no other bridesmaids or groomsmen. I have attended a few weddings like mine and I thought they were lovely. How many people married 10+years are still in touch with their wedding party?

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