Anonymous wrote:I'm with your DH. Is it on his face? His neck? Is it somewhere that he can cover when necessary? If so, just leave it.

This. He's an adult.

Were I in your shoes, I would tell him I'm disappointed, but it's his body so he can choose to do silly things to it.

Is he a good kid who gets the big stuff right? His tattoo isn't about you. Get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it just me or has there been an uptick in trolls lately

I had the same thought.

+1

I just realized I came home with a tattoo at 19. Looking back I would have not intentionally shown my mom but let her discover it. Its visible but near my foot/ inside so you have to have a reason to look.

OP do whatever you want, but your son will do the same. I don't want a tit for tat type relationship of slights with my adult children, but some people have seen this as a model and think its normal or that everyone does it.

Anonymous wrote:Is it just me or has there been an uptick in trolls lately

I had the same thought.

OP, no matter how conservative you are, you really need to reconsider your position and the relationship you want to have with your adult son. I work in a big corporation. Lots of young, talented, well educated professionals. They all have tattoos. All.of.them.
This is normal nowadays. Relax and be kind to your son.

Is it just me or has there been an uptick in trolls lately

Honestly, the bad grammar you used throughout your post marks someone as "underclass" (whatever that is) far more than a discrete tattoo. And I assume it is discrete because you said he told you he got one--not that he has the Irish flag tattooed across his face.

Wait until he brings home a tattooed lib chick. With piercings too. And big holes in her lobes.

Anonymous wrote:OP, how will you feel if the response to you cutting off financial support over the tattoo is to cut you off entirely? Or turn into twice-a-year phone calls? You cutting off needed financial support with no notice because of a choice he made about his own body that affects no one but him is going to hurt your relationship with him. Will you feel like the tattoo was worthy of the estrangement?

+1. If you go the nuclear route, please be prepared for the most extreme possible consequences. You want to make your funding of his education conditional on what he does with/to his own body... that's your right because it's your money and you can set any conditions you wish. However, it's also his right to decide how to use his time and he may well decide not to use any time or energy maintaining a relationship with someone so controlling. It's not a respectful dynamic, really. That sort of smothering parental control is why I left home the day after my 18th birthday and had barely any contact with my parents for six years.

I came home with a tattoo when I was 20. It was my body, my business. My parents heartily disapproved but they never mentioned it. Not once. Why? There was nothing they could do, and they don't own my body in any case. Let it go, OP. Don't even engage.

You sounds insane OP. No words.

At least is isn't an STD.

Lady you are off your rocker.

Also, your grammar offends me far more than any tattoo.