Anonymous
08/09/2017 10:46
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine no dates in 11 years. I assume you have zero sex drive. Everything that is completely G rated on a date is a bit awkward.
NP. Why do you have to bring sex into it? Yes, we all get it....dating eventually leads to sex. But so what....many people don't date just to get laid. And if not dating because you are not emotionally, financially, or whatever reason ready means no sex, then so be it. Better to be in place where you are ready to date, ready to have a relationship, then just go date someone to get laid. If all I wanted was sex and not the prospect of a relationship, then there are services I can hire for that.
If you're not going out on dates with members of the opposite sex with a goal of, eventually, having sex. You're not dating. You're wasting peoples' time, money, energy, and attention. If you just want to make friends, play softball, join a book club, do anything else because you are most certainly NOT dating.
If your end goal is sex, just hire an escort. As Julia Roberts said....I'm a sure thing. The purpose of dating is to find someone you want to be with a lot. Sex is an outcome of that; not the end game. If all you want is sex then I guess you are wasting my time and energy and even sometimes my money.
How do you know if you want a relationship if you don't find out if you're sexually attracted to someone?
I know from the first few dates if there is physical chemistry. It's like an electricity or tension that is always there. It's fun and exciting. Just because it exists doesn't mean I have to act on it until I'n emotionally ready.
Anonymous
08/09/2017 10:34
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine no dates in 11 years. I assume you have zero sex drive. Everything that is completely G rated on a date is a bit awkward.
NP. Why do you have to bring sex into it? Yes, we all get it....dating eventually leads to sex. But so what....many people don't date just to get laid. And if not dating because you are not emotionally, financially, or whatever reason ready means no sex, then so be it. Better to be in place where you are ready to date, ready to have a relationship, then just go date someone to get laid. If all I wanted was sex and not the prospect of a relationship, then there are services I can hire for that.
If you're not going out on dates with members of the opposite sex with a goal of, eventually, having sex. You're not dating. You're wasting peoples' time, money, energy, and attention. If you just want to make friends, play softball, join a book club, do anything else because you are most certainly NOT dating.
If your end goal is sex, just hire an escort. As Julia Roberts said....I'm a sure thing. The purpose of dating is to find someone you want to be with a lot. Sex is an outcome of that; not the end game. If all you want is sex then I guess you are wasting my time and energy and even sometimes my money.
How do you know if you want a relationship if you don't find out if you're sexually attracted to someone?
Anonymous
08/09/2017 10:32
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine no dates in 11 years. I assume you have zero sex drive. Everything that is completely G rated on a date is a bit awkward.
NP. Why do you have to bring sex into it? Yes, we all get it....dating eventually leads to sex. But so what....many people don't date just to get laid. And if not dating because you are not emotionally, financially, or whatever reason ready means no sex, then so be it. Better to be in place where you are ready to date, ready to have a relationship, then just go date someone to get laid. If all I wanted was sex and not the prospect of a relationship, then there are services I can hire for that.
I have plenty of male and female friends with whom I already have a relationship. Dates are in a different category. I bet the OP didn't hire an escort for 11 years, either. My only point was that 11 years out of the dating scene, she must have very little sex drive.
Anonymous
08/09/2017 09:21
Subject: First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Couples massage. If you want to really spice it up, pay for happy endings.
Anonymous
08/09/2017 07:32
Subject: First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Coffee, 10 AM on a Saturday. That way, you can say you have plans later...Public place, small financial and time commitment. But enough to see if there is anything there. If you like, you can extend it.
Example (years ago): I met a woman for coffee on Sat morning; we hit it off. The date was extended until monday morning. We went out for about 6 months.
Another example: Met a woman for coffee...she did nothing but complain about her roomates, and past boyfriend (who may have been HIV+ according to her). At 10:45, I was able to say, I have to go...plans this PM.
Example (years ago): I met a woman for coffee on Sat morning; we hit it off. The date was extended until monday morning. We went out for about 6 months.
Another example: Met a woman for coffee...she did nothing but complain about her roomates, and past boyfriend (who may have been HIV+ according to her). At 10:45, I was able to say, I have to go...plans this PM.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 22:35
Subject: First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Have you ever met him in person?
If not, coffee or lunch.
If not, coffee or lunch.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 22:30
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine no dates in 11 years. I assume you have zero sex drive. Everything that is completely G rated on a date is a bit awkward.
NP. Why do you have to bring sex into it? Yes, we all get it....dating eventually leads to sex. But so what....many people don't date just to get laid. And if not dating because you are not emotionally, financially, or whatever reason ready means no sex, then so be it. Better to be in place where you are ready to date, ready to have a relationship, then just go date someone to get laid. If all I wanted was sex and not the prospect of a relationship, then there are services I can hire for that.
If you're not going out on dates with members of the opposite sex with a goal of, eventually, having sex. You're not dating. You're wasting peoples' time, money, energy, and attention. If you just want to make friends, play softball, join a book club, do anything else because you are most certainly NOT dating.
If your end goal is sex, just hire an escort. As Julia Roberts said....I'm a sure thing. The purpose of dating is to find someone you want to be with a lot. Sex is an outcome of that; not the end game. If all you want is sex then I guess you are wasting my time and energy and even sometimes my money.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 22:22
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine no dates in 11 years. I assume you have zero sex drive. Everything that is completely G rated on a date is a bit awkward.
NP. Why do you have to bring sex into it? Yes, we all get it....dating eventually leads to sex. But so what....many people don't date just to get laid. And if not dating because you are not emotionally, financially, or whatever reason ready means no sex, then so be it. Better to be in place where you are ready to date, ready to have a relationship, then just go date someone to get laid. If all I wanted was sex and not the prospect of a relationship, then there are services I can hire for that.
If you're not going out on dates with members of the opposite sex with a goal of, eventually, having sex. You're not dating. You're wasting peoples' time, money, energy, and attention. If you just want to make friends, play softball, join a book club, do anything else because you are most certainly NOT dating.
Haha. As if you've ever been on a date. Go tell mommy what shoes you want her to buy for school.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 21:56
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine no dates in 11 years. I assume you have zero sex drive. Everything that is completely G rated on a date is a bit awkward.
NP. Why do you have to bring sex into it? Yes, we all get it....dating eventually leads to sex. But so what....many people don't date just to get laid. And if not dating because you are not emotionally, financially, or whatever reason ready means no sex, then so be it. Better to be in place where you are ready to date, ready to have a relationship, then just go date someone to get laid. If all I wanted was sex and not the prospect of a relationship, then there are services I can hire for that.
If you're not going out on dates with members of the opposite sex with a goal of, eventually, having sex. You're not dating. You're wasting peoples' time, money, energy, and attention. If you just want to make friends, play softball, join a book club, do anything else because you are most certainly NOT dating.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:44
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine no dates in 11 years. I assume you have zero sex drive. Everything that is completely G rated on a date is a bit awkward.
NP. Why do you have to bring sex into it? Yes, we all get it....dating eventually leads to sex. But so what....many people don't date just to get laid. And if not dating because you are not emotionally, financially, or whatever reason ready means no sex, then so be it. Better to be in place where you are ready to date, ready to have a relationship, then just go date someone to get laid. If all I wanted was sex and not the prospect of a relationship, then there are services I can hire for that.
OP here, thank you! I'm glad someone understands!
Anonymous
08/08/2017 13:17
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine no dates in 11 years. I assume you have zero sex drive. Everything that is completely G rated on a date is a bit awkward.
NP. Why do you have to bring sex into it? Yes, we all get it....dating eventually leads to sex. But so what....many people don't date just to get laid. And if not dating because you are not emotionally, financially, or whatever reason ready means no sex, then so be it. Better to be in place where you are ready to date, ready to have a relationship, then just go date someone to get laid. If all I wanted was sex and not the prospect of a relationship, then there are services I can hire for that.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 13:10
Subject: First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coffee and beer are screenings not dates. Which is fine, but I also think they lend to awkward questioning more like an interview than really getting to know someone.
I think activities are better.
Great First dates I've been on
Pizza Making & bCookie baking a complimentary course
Paint & Vino
Bowling & Mini Golf
Rock Climbing & Roller Skating
Zoo/Aquarium/Museum ( best was children's museum)
Brought our dogs to the dog park and played.
Normally grab a quick bite to eat after.
I find conversation tends to flow more naturally when you are doing something together other than facing each other and sipping drinks.
Good luck!
As a guy, I can say the first two things on your list wouldn't excite me and unless something great happened, there might not be date number 2.
Do you know what things you have in common? Something like the newseum could be easy. It's not a typical museum and it certainly has conversation starters. There is a cafe there if things go well, you can suggest that or one of the pubs in the area. If the date starting to late for that, maybe a comedy club? Everyone loves to laugh and it always seems to put people in a good mood.
He who does not plan the date can not complain. He who is looking to be entertained like a 5 year old is not worthy of dating .
Anonymous
08/08/2017 12:25
Subject: First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Anonymous wrote:Coffee and beer are screenings not dates. Which is fine, but I also think they lend to awkward questioning more like an interview than really getting to know someone.
I think activities are better.
Great First dates I've been on
Pizza Making & bCookie baking a complimentary course
Paint & Vino
Bowling & Mini Golf
Rock Climbing & Roller Skating
Zoo/Aquarium/Museum ( best was children's museum)
Brought our dogs to the dog park and played.
Normally grab a quick bite to eat after.
I find conversation tends to flow more naturally when you are doing something together other than facing each other and sipping drinks.
Good luck!
As a guy, I can say the first two things on your list wouldn't excite me and unless something great happened, there might not be date number 2.
Do you know what things you have in common? Something like the newseum could be easy. It's not a typical museum and it certainly has conversation starters. There is a cafe there if things go well, you can suggest that or one of the pubs in the area. If the date starting to late for that, maybe a comedy club? Everyone loves to laugh and it always seems to put people in a good mood.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 12:05
Subject: First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
Maybe a bar where you can sit outside? You can hear each other talk, and there's a lot of things to look at so you don't feel like it has to be constant eye contact.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 11:42
Subject: Re:First date ideas that aren't so...awkward
One of my best first dates was a walk on populated trail.