Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:52     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Anonymous wrote:If my DW told me that we'd have sex more often if I grew or shaved my facial hair, you can bet I'd be wielding my razor accordingly.

"Mutton chops get your motor running? Well then I'm going to do my best to look like former President Chester A. Arthur."


Ha, and as soon as you fell for that trick, she'd instantly think of something else you need to do to get sex, and you'd be jumping around like a rabbit trying to fulfill these requests while she still denies you sex and laughs her ass off at you.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:48     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I knew I would get a lot of negative responses. FYI, I don't nag him about it. We've been married almost two decades and together for 21 years. He does know I'm not big on facial hair since it came up right in the beginning (he had just started wearing the goatee then) but more recently other people have been commenting on how he should get rid of it and so I told him I agreed. Would never expect him to just let me tell him how to look but it does sting a little as PP said, that he finally was giving in and shaving it to try it out for the week and then just ended up growing it back without giving it a chance. He does give me his opinion on my hair length, color (, and I do take his opinion into account. Its really wasn't such a big deal until he himself said he would do it.

No doubt in my mind he didn't give it a chance. As someone that has had beards and shaved over the years when I shave one off it takes at least a week for me to get used to the 'new look'. Regardless of how long I had the beard it always looks odd for a while.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:44     Subject: Re:Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Get some of your attractive GF's to tell him he'd look a lot younger without it. Trust me, it will work.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:41     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Anonymous wrote:If my DW told me that we'd have sex more often if I grew or shaved my facial hair, you can bet I'd be wielding my razor accordingly.

"Mutton chops get your motor running? Well then I'm going to do my best to look like former President Chester A. Arthur."


Yeah, tried that. Didn't work.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:33     Subject: Re:Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Anonymous wrote:Funny, my hair is in the longer side and my husband has made several comments about wanting me to cut it shorter. I think it objectively looks better longer so am hesitant to...I guess he's in the minority here?


I don't think there is anything objective about what looks better. But people's subjective preferences may collectively fall strongly to one side or another.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:31     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
If my DW told me that we'd have sex more often if I grew or shaved my facial hair, you can bet I'd be wielding my razor accordingly.

"Mutton chops get your motor running? Well then I'm going to do my best to look like former President Chester A. Arthur."
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:31     Subject: Re:Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Funny, my hair is in the longer side and my husband has made several comments about wanting me to cut it shorter. I think it objectively looks better longer so am hesitant to...I guess he's in the minority here?
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:09     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
OP - most DHs certainly DO care about what their DWs think.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 10:07     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
OP here. I knew I would get a lot of negative responses. FYI, I don't nag him about it. We've been married almost two decades and together for 21 years. He does know I'm not big on facial hair since it came up right in the beginning (he had just started wearing the goatee then) but more recently other people have been commenting on how he should get rid of it and so I told him I agreed. Would never expect him to just let me tell him how to look but it does sting a little as PP said, that he finally was giving in and shaving it to try it out for the week and then just ended up growing it back without giving it a chance. He does give me his opinion on my hair length, color (, and I do take his opinion into account. Its really wasn't such a big deal until he himself said he would do it.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 09:04     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just checking in as another man who lost the long-hair battle.


Men, do you actually tell your wives that you like their long hair??? Mine has maybe once over 20 years when I've pushed to get a preference out of him. Sensible on his part??


I do. She cut it anyway -- very short -- saying it was her hair. Which is, of course, true.

But, I'm pretty easy going and don't have many strong preferences about her appearance. So, on one of the rare occasions where I expressed a preference, having her ignore it did sting a little.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 08:48     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just checking in as another man who lost the long-hair battle.


Men, do you actually tell your wives that you like their long hair??? Mine has maybe once over 20 years when I've pushed to get a preference out of him. Sensible on his part??

Or, why fight a battle you know you cannot win?
Well, that is the sensible part, isn't it. Which is why I do not comment at all on my DH's hair & beard other than to say "nice haircut! Looks good!" and leave it at that, because ultimately, it is his head and face that he puts out to the world not mine, and I don't really have the right to ask him to change that.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 08:35     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just checking in as another man who lost the long-hair battle.


Men, do you actually tell your wives that you like their long hair??? Mine has maybe once over 20 years when I've pushed to get a preference out of him. Sensible on his part??

Or, why fight a battle you know you cannot win?
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 08:24     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
So OP does not really care what her DH's feeling are, she just wants him to obey.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 08:08     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Anonymous wrote:Just checking in as another man who lost the long-hair battle.


Men, do you actually tell your wives that you like their long hair??? Mine has maybe once over 20 years when I've pushed to get a preference out of him. Sensible on his part??
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2017 07:13     Subject: Men: do you generally not care what your spouse thinks?
Just checking in as another man who lost the long-hair battle.