Anonymous
Post 08/08/2017 20:05     Subject: Re:How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
Anonymous wrote:My kid has an awesome stepmom and I do thank her for things! She planned a sleepover and created this amazing scavenger hunt. That sort of thing is not my forte at all!!



That would be really helpful but I never looked at my husband's ex's account nor would she talk to either one of us. I'd love a list and needs/wants/colors/brands/styles. It was always a guessing game and we think she would trash what I'd buy.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2017 19:48     Subject: How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
Anonymous wrote:I would just send a imessage / SMS.


Just so you know they're called "text messages"
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2017 19:45     Subject: Re:How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
You're a very nice stepmom . Just a classic hand written thank you note is fine. I certainly would be happy if my DH's XDW did that just once. Sigh!
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2017 14:11     Subject: How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
I think I would send the text or email thanks, and include a sentence like, "XDH said you weren't interested in reimbursement, but I thought I should probably ask you myself!" Just in case ...
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2017 08:08     Subject: Re:How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
My kid has an awesome stepmom and I do thank her for things! She planned a sleepover and created this amazing scavenger hunt. That sort of thing is not my forte at all!!

Anonymous
Post 08/08/2017 07:53     Subject: How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If more people were like you, this board could cease to exist.


and the step mom!


The exceptional behavior isn't the thankful mom so much as the thoughtful SM. My ex's STBXW would have bought the shoes and shorts and then demanded that I reimburse them.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2017 07:45     Subject: How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
Appreciation is the best gift. You seem lovely.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2017 07:40     Subject: Re:How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
Anonymous wrote:I think it would set a nice tone for the relationship if you sent her a note (handwrite it, it feels more personal than an email) telling her that DD loves the new shoes and shorts, and saying something along the lines of how the kids really likes her and that you're glad she's a part of their family (obviously phrase it however feels best/more sincere to you). I wouldn't specifically thank her for the clothes or give her a gift card (after all, it was meant to be a gift to your DD, not you), I would use her gesture and your note more as a way of cementing a positive tone for your relationship with her.


As a stepmother, I could not agree with this approach more!!
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2017 23:35     Subject: How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If more people were like you, this board could cease to exist.


and the step mom!


This
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 23:14     Subject: How do I thank DD's stepmom (to be)
I'd just send a nice email. I have taken my husband's kids shopping and used to buy the youngest boy a lot of clothing. I'd never expect to be reimbursed or get a gift. A thanks would have been nice but that's all.