Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:14
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
To the PP above who mentioned 'shaming him into doing it' - just wow. You must be a treat.
1. Hire the service
2. Say 'honey, you work so hard and I know you want to do it but it just kills me to see you spend the little bit of free time that you have cutting the lawn. Maybe we can find some more balance at some point when you can get it cut, but for now it's just silly to spend the small amount of time you have cutting the grass when you could be with our kids, playing in it. I set up a lawn service and I don't want you to be mad about it - just enjoy it. One less thing for us to worry about. Nobody's pride is at stake here'
If you make it about valuing his time, and not about the sacrifice to do it, you will get much farther. If you take that approach, and he is still mad, so be it. But he won't be.
1. Hire the service
2. Say 'honey, you work so hard and I know you want to do it but it just kills me to see you spend the little bit of free time that you have cutting the lawn. Maybe we can find some more balance at some point when you can get it cut, but for now it's just silly to spend the small amount of time you have cutting the grass when you could be with our kids, playing in it. I set up a lawn service and I don't want you to be mad about it - just enjoy it. One less thing for us to worry about. Nobody's pride is at stake here'
If you make it about valuing his time, and not about the sacrifice to do it, you will get much farther. If you take that approach, and he is still mad, so be it. But he won't be.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:12
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
I see the "let's pretend we can't read" trolls are coming out in full force.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:12
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Why can't you mow it? Do you have a gas or electric mower? It is only hard if you have a push motor.
omg. READ!
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:12
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Go out and do it while he's home on a weekend. Hopefully it'll shame him into doing it. Let him pout. Just roll your eyes and ignore the pouting.
This is what I've been doing. He comes barreling out and takes over, then pouts.
I know if I hire the service, he will cancel it. He's very stubborn and even more cheap.
Quite a catch you have there. Step off, ladies, the pouting, cheap, stubborn man-child is taken!
Congratulations and best wishes, OP.
Hahaha
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:09
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Why can't you mow it? Do you have a gas or electric mower? It is only hard if you have a push motor.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:09
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Just do it yourself while he's enjoying the kids or, better yet, when the kids are napping.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:07
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
move to a condo.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:07
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Go out and do it while he's home on a weekend. Hopefully it'll shame him into doing it. Let him pout. Just roll your eyes and ignore the pouting.
This is what I've been doing. He comes barreling out and takes over, then pouts.
I know if I hire the service, he will cancel it. He's very stubborn and even more cheap.
So
1. He won't mow it
2. He won't let you mow it.
3. He won't let a lawn service mow it.
Maybe he thinks that the lawn fairy will mow it? I wish that the lawn fairy would mow our yard, but the lawn fairy never has, yet.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:05
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Think of this headline as "wife won't do the dishes".
Rather than seeing this as man's work, do a trade off. In te evening after he gets home he tidies the house and you go out and cut the lawn.
It's like you don't read. the op said she does do and her husband makes a big scene and gets all upset.
People here never seize to amaze me. The reading comprehension. It's like they read what they want to read.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:05
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It always gets cut before it looks horrible,
Stop nagging him and take the kids to a park when it is "too long to enjoy"... I am not even sure what that means. We live next to woods and we always are in long grass.
My baby doesn't enjoy crawling through grass so long it's seeding.
You sound whiny.
Yes, how dare she whine that her crawling baby doesn't like to crawl in tall blades of grass.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:04
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It always gets cut before it looks horrible,
Stop nagging him and take the kids to a park when it is "too long to enjoy"... I am not even sure what that means. We live next to woods and we always are in long grass.
My baby doesn't enjoy crawling through grass so long it's seeding.
You sound whiny.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:03
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Think of this headline as "wife won't do the dishes".
Rather than seeing this as man's work, do a trade off. In te evening after he gets home he tidies the house and you go out and cut the lawn.
He gets mad when she cuts the lawn.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:03
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Think of this headline as "wife won't do the dishes".
Rather than seeing this as man's work, do a trade off. In te evening after he gets home he tidies the house and you go out and cut the lawn.
It's like you don't read. the op said she does do and her husband makes a big scene and gets all upset.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:02
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Would you -- you, personally -- rather mow the grass yourself, or hire a lawn service?
Whichever you would personally rather do, I think that you should do that.
There's no intrinsic reason that mowing the grass should be his job, vs yours. Women are equally capable of cutting the grass. I know this from personal experience.
But, one way or another, the grass does need to get mowed, by somebody -- him, you, or a lawn service.
Or you need to move to a multi-family building where you're not responsible for mowing your own grass.
Whichever you would personally rather do, I think that you should do that.
There's no intrinsic reason that mowing the grass should be his job, vs yours. Women are equally capable of cutting the grass. I know this from personal experience.
But, one way or another, the grass does need to get mowed, by somebody -- him, you, or a lawn service.
Or you need to move to a multi-family building where you're not responsible for mowing your own grass.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:02
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
get a teenager in the neighborhood to mow it one day during the week, or pay a sitter to come to the house for a couple hours while you do it