I thought my husband would be a cool guy to hang out with but didnt see it for him in a romantic way. Then we met up and clicked.

"I think when this started, back in the late 90s / early 2000s it was much more serious and successful. Now its about hook ups and misunderstandings as far as I can tall, and that's a shame for those who are still serious about finding a partner.


I agree."

+1 million. Now, half the posts are fake and half the messages I get are in broken English because of all of the trolling. Plus, most people lie, especially with their photos.

I married the first person I ever went on a online date with. I reached out to him based on his profile which was new for me as I always waited to be approached in "real" life. I knew the night I met him in person that this was someone remarkable but it took a few dates to loosen up and really feel chemistry. Prior to meeting, we emailed for a week or so and I actually started losing interest until we met in person.

I met my husband 10 yrs ago on match. He was totally my "type" on profile but nothing like my type when we met in person. Fortunately for me, my type was all wrong, and he ended up being exactly what I needed.

Anonymous wrote:I think when this started, back in the late 90s / early 2000s it was much more serious and successful. Now its about hook ups and misunderstandings as far as I can tall, and that's a shame for those who are still serious about finding a partner.

I agree.

Anonymous wrote:The best dates I had were the ones where I was meh about the profile/pictures but they seemed nice. I married the one where I was meh on until the third date when things clicked and I just knew he'd was amazing.

+1 same here. It was the third date and I was actually dating someone else at the same time but I can remember sitting in the car saying good night when he brought me home from one of the first dates and I just knew DH was the one. I remember thinking it is too bad he is not the type I always thought I wanted, not even a better kisser than the other guy, but I just knew he was going to be the one. We got engaged six months later, married a year after that. This was 9 years ago. He's the best!!

I think when this started, back in the late 90s / early 2000s it was much more serious and successful. Now its about hook ups and misunderstandings as far as I can tall, and that's a shame for those who are still serious about finding a partner.

I am m, and my experience is from 20 years ago...so take it with a grain of salt. Yes. There was on line dating 20 years ago.

I am a bit shy and much more open on the computer, so I would always try to get to know them first on the computer. With that said, the first few women I fell for before I met. But, then, after meeting, I discovered something: women lie in online dating (I did not). One woman told me she was 31, thin, yada yada yada. We met...and I quickly figured out she was at least 35 (she remembered JFK's assassination; came up when I commented I was one of the first people born after it). She was also well over 200 lbs.

Poof. End.

After a while, I used the on line to make sure the women did not have anything that would be unacceptable to me: drug use, smoker, criminal record, crazy, religious zealot or republican.

I was going on a lot of first dates: probably 2/week, about 30% led to second dates, and 2 of them led to seeing them for more than 1 month. The second one of those, I have been seeing for 20+ years, and married for nearly 19 years.

I was usually optimistic about the dates: the checklists were done before dating.

Anonymous wrote:Which site has the most successful matches?

Is there a best site for a woman to avoid the creepy ones?

Thanks!

Haw. On every single site, every single woman will get hundreds of responses, and 99% of them will be creepy.

Agree 100%. I treated it like a blind date generator. Anyone who contacted me, I responded with a "let's meet up". We'd go on one or two dates, which was better and more fun than the chatting online. I met DH on the 4th blind date and knew he was the one.

+1. Online dating (in this context at least) is sort of a misnomer. It's online matching and then you do the dating in person, just as you would otherwise.

(I also thought of it like the virtual version of a crowded bar, except that you know in advance that everyone is single and looking. I met my now-spouse this way!)

The online profiles only tell you who is a potential mate. It is hard to tell whether the actual chemistry is there. Even if you have a lot of common interests and preferences, sometimes the personalities, which are hard to define, mix and sometimes they don't.

My best friend was disappointed to be alone in his late 30's. When he was 38, he started on-line dating. First two were nice and they shared interests but they were "nice to know you" types, and not the type he would settle down with. The third girl was nice and they enjoyed meeting. By the third date, they were sure they were going to date monogamously. A year later they were married. They just celebrated their 9th anniversary a couple of months ago.

I took a varied approach when I did Match years ago - sometimes I'd barely talk to/email with someone before meeting them for a first date, other times I'd make sure we communicated a lot beforehand - neither way was foolproof. Sometimes the people I'd talk a lot to I ended up having no connection with in real life, and then the people I barely spoke to and gave a chance to I liked. I did talk to and email my husband quite a bit before we met, but honestly, I liked him right from the first date, and I'm not sure that that would have changed had we not talked before.

I thought DH was cute in his picture and funny in his profile. A few emails later confirmed that he was smart, funny and interesting, so we went on a date and have been together for 16 years since. I had other good dates and bad dates before him, but there were none where I felt meh about the person based on their photo/profile and then liked them more after the date.

Anonymous wrote:The best dates I had were the ones where I was meh about the profile/pictures but they seemed nice. I married the one where I was meh on until the third date when things clicked and I just knew he'd was amazing.

Yessssssss. That's the best.

Which site has the most successful matches?

Is there a best site for a woman to avoid the creepy ones?


Thanks!