It's too late now because you've poisoned the well, but if you really wanted him to wear a swim shirt you should have presented it as an item for sun-safety.

Your kid knows what he looks like. It's up to him what he wears. I hope you realize you're shaming him and making him less likely to be willing to go out in public and be active (and lose that weight) because you've made him aware he's supposed to think he's a disgusting troll and it's cruel to force others to look at his horrible body.

You are the worst parent ever OP. Leave your poor teen alone.

OP you are doing so much harm to your own kid. My son has a friend whose mom sounds like you - they're a little bit younger, but she has remarked about how "flabby" he is and insisted that he cannot wear a swim shirt so that he'll be embarrassed into exercising more. Not only is she giving her own kid a complex, she's actively alienating other kids and their parents. I know that at least one other boy won't hang out with them any more specifically because of this kind of nonsense. I feel so badly for her son, and for yours.

I think you should find a good therapist and address your body issues.

Drop it.

The only thing that is disgusting is OPs attitude towards her son. Poor boy.

Anonymous wrote:OP, your son is no longer at an age (7,8,9) where he needs "kind suggestions" about his body and his clothing. He's 16. If he wanted a "swim shirt" (whatever that is) he would speak up and ask for it or even go out and purchase one for himself.

I don't think your suggestion was kindly meant. I think you need some therapy.

I think a swim shirt is something little kids wear. My husband just wears an old but not ratty t-shirt.

OP, your son is no longer at an age (7,8,9) where he needs "kind suggestions" about his body and his clothing. He's 16. If he wanted a "swim shirt" (whatever that is) he would speak up and ask for it or even go out and purchase one for himself.

I don't think your suggestion was kindly meant. I think you need some therapy.

Many adolescents go through a stage where they put on a lot of weight very quickly. It's really not that big a deal. It's you who is acting like an adolescent here, OP. Body shaming sucks.

Anonymous wrote:He's old enough to do as he pleases.

But as a parent, you need to help him about the psylogical part of his food related issue. Dieting is 50%of it and finding out what's causing it 50%.

Good luck and have a great vacation

I bet his food issues come from having a cruel parent.

Wow!

Image not age

I think the op needs therapy to learn about boundaries and body age.

Anonymous wrote:He's not embarrassed about his appearance - you are. Drop it before it becomes a much bigger issue between the two of you.

This. Wow.

Anonymous wrote:He's not embarrassed about his appearance - you are. Drop it before it becomes a much bigger issue between the two of you.

This!!!