I find it interesting how PP framed it: She doesn't believe in a divorce I don't think it's something you believe or don't believe in. It's an option you have. You either take it or you don't, depending on the circumstances and personal preference.

OP, I am probably a bit younger than you are, but I'm in the camp with the folks who say marriage is overrated. Especially after so many years and raising children. Frankly, I don't aspire to get close to my husband. But I value his companionship, and I know life with someone is easier for me than life alone. I'm not up to trying to find a replacement, because the very thought of having to get used to living with someone else is tiring. I'm not opposed to affairs on both sides, but so far no takers

A great marriage is not just happened. That is what I heard from an empty nester couple. I am not a believer of divorce. I believe that in everything there is a way out as long as we have a desire to search it and faithfully work on it. As long as there is no third party involves, the "d" word is not in a dictionary. Have you heard about a marriage seminar, Weekend to remember? I heard many great testimonies from couples who just married and those who have been in the marriage boat for years and those who have challenges in their relationship. I think you may get some benefits from it too. Check this link out http://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember. All the best for you.

So you're telling me even though you have different interests neither of you is willing to compromise and do what the other spouse wants to do in interest of spending more time together? Or you guys can't work together to find a mutually enjoyable activity?

What kinds of things did you do enjoy doing together before you had children?