Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him go down on you thirty minutes a day.

This!!!!

Could you imagine the strength of his tongue in just 3 weeks? He would be able to shatter an entire stack of cement blocks in one flick.

Are you able to, um, take care of yourself quickly?

Anonymous wrote:Have him go down on you thirty minutes a day.

This!!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one "stop enjoying myself" during sex?
Are you sure you're doing it correctly?

I thought I was going to "finish" and I didn't and then we change position or something so that I completely lose my groove and it's just gone...

When you're close to climax don't change position - communicate to your partner that you're close.

Have him go down on you thirty minutes a day.

Stop forcing it. Let things occur organically.

Anonymous wrote:

Roar wrote:Yep -- it's mental. Just like in a groove vs, in a rut. Lots of ways to fix it. Been married about 20 years and went through the exact same thing during year 7-8 and again during menopause.

How do we fix it? I feel very vulnerable with all of this but I realize that this a nothing to lose situation. Like we need to get out of this rut or else we will continue to be miserable.

You are overthinking it. Just relax!
Start your sessions with 10 minutes using a vibrator while he waits.
A good O will relax you.

Roar wrote:Yep -- it's mental. Just like in a groove vs, in a rut. Lots of ways to fix it. Been married about 20 years and went through the exact same thing during year 7-8 and again during menopause.

How do we fix it? I feel very vulnerable with all of this but I realize that this a nothing to lose situation. Like we need to get out of this rut or else we will continue to be miserable.

Yep -- it's mental. Just like in a groove vs, in a rut. Lots of ways to fix it. Been married about 20 years and went through the exact same thing during year 7-8 and again during menopause.

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Anonymous wrote:OP when is the last time you had some time to yourself to recharge? Maybe you need a spa day on your own.

Like 2 years ago...

Okay, mama, there you go. Find a way to take time for yourself, for the good of your marriage.

Anonymous wrote:How does one "stop enjoying myself" during sex?
Are you sure you're doing it correctly?

I thought I was going to "finish" and I didn't and then we change position or something so that I completely lose my groove and it's just gone...

Anonymous wrote:OP when is the last time you had some time to yourself to recharge? Maybe you need a spa day on your own.

Like 2 years ago...

Daily too much pressure for me. As for pleasure, what about using toys? Pretty reliable for me.

I adore my DH and I love sex but everyday? That would lose the opportunity for spontaneity which I think is important. If we go over a week my DH will complain about his "pent up demand'' read: sperm such that 2-3 times a week keeps him happy.

Daily sex and you have 2 kids??

That just sounds exhausting.