Anonymous wrote:Move. DC has the worst men.

How many cats live in your apartment with you?

Move. DC has the worst men.

Tough love:

You are 35 and never married. You are a teacher, so you don't make a lot of money. I have no idea how attractive you are, so let's take that off the table.

Guys your age who are single and never married either have issues, or do not ever want to get married. The issues can be anything, but my guess is they would probably eliminate them from the "quality" pool in your eyes. And unlike prior generations, where a guy would often pooh pooh marriage and then eventually march to the altar because 90% of all adults get married, men this age and younger see never marrying as a completely valid option. So I'm going to guess that eliminates "quality" for you as well.

So, are you interested in any divorced men? Are you prepared for stepchildren? Burdensome child support payments? Bitchy ex-wives? Because this is the marketplace you might find yourself dabbling in, but not everyone can handle it.

Anonymous wrote:What do YOU offer a guy? And I'm not just talking about thigh gaps, hotness, etc.

Quality men have lots of options. Hotness and libido count bigtime.

What do YOU offer a guy? And I'm not just talking about thigh gaps, hotness, etc.

Any where but online.

I met my husband online. I did a lot of first dates. Picture the adage ylabout frogs. Not that you have to kiss! I just met folks for coffee. I stuck to my list about what I wanted, and really just moved on if it didn't really click on date one.

Something I think is true about most online dating: there is a fair amount of misrepresentation. I tend not to think it's deliberate, I think it's more that all adjectives are relative. If I say I'm smart, funny, and athletic: to one person that means I have an MBA from Harvard, make jokes like Jon Stewart, and run triathalons but to another person it means I make 100k, think Howard Stern is a hoot, and can bike 5 miles. So you have to check people out with an open mind and realize that they may or may not be YOUR kind of smart, funny and athletic.

Not a Trump supporter or seeking a man with tons of $$.

Anonymous wrote:

sandmguy wrote:I'm free this weekend....

Gross.

Yes, but it's not as gross as the op. She wants to find a man. She must be a trump supporter. Feminists should date only their own gender....lone term it would solve a lot of problems.

If you are friendly with the woman you work with, let them know your interest in meeting someone. They do have brothers and cousins who might be looking.

The thing is, many of the single women in the 30's and beyond have decided that they would rather be single than with the wrong guy.

OP wants quality men. That's code for millionaires.

Anonymous wrote:OP, the DC area sucks for guys. I've lived in many places in the US and travel extensively. The quality of women in DC is generally low and there are tons of guys with money. If you are reasonably attractive you should be OK. I know online is a pain for women, but at your age, I'd say it's your best bet (if you have the patience to deal with all the jerks). Or maybe happy hour/salsa night at bars?

Wow. My experience differs dramatically. Maybe if you define quality woman as submissive who will do what you want.

But, my experience is that the DC area has a surplus of single/unmarried intelligent independent women. You are not going to find them at bars, though. And, many are careful around new guys -- a lot have been hurt my my male gender.

The thing is, many of the single women in the 30's and beyond have decided that they would rather be single than with the wrong guy.

Buy a nice smart funny professional male can easily find a date. Even if he is overweight.

Anonymous wrote:Social activities and meetups.

If you're athletic, join a mixed sports league.
If you like running, join a running club.
If you like arts, go to meetups.
If you like reading, join a book club.
etc

Bars are horrible if you're over 30.

This is good. I'll reiterate my advice: Do what you like. When you do, you're enthusiastic. Men notice and like that.

OP, the DC area sucks for guys. I've lived in many places in the US and travel extensively. The quality of women in DC is generally low and there are tons of guys with money. If you are reasonably attractive you should be OK. I know online is a pain for women, but at your age, I'd say it's your best bet (if you have the patience to deal with all the jerks). Or maybe happy hour/salsa night at bars?

Soooo driving range it is!