Anonymous wrote:Beautiful and brilliant. I have always felt that the woman he married (me!) was never the one he loved the most.

+1

Anonymous wrote:It's funny how many women on here admit that their husband downgraded when they married them.

Well its more nuanced than that. Just because someone is objectively a "prize" in the marriage market, doesn't mean they are the best match for my DH.

My DH's ex gf was probably objectively more attractive and accomplished than me but they weren't a good match since she was too alpha and needed a more alpha type guy.

We look nothing alike as she is rather plain. From a very rich family. An artist (polar opposite of my job).

Both of us are ivy grads. Not sure what to think of that lol.

Anonymous wrote:It's funny how many women on here admit that their husband downgraded when they married them.

It kind of proves the thought that people , men & women) date for sex, but when they're ready for marriage and kids sex isn't always the number one factor they're looking for the "dumpy" or " nerdy" mommy & daddy type. Then once the kids arrive and they've fulfilled their biological requirement they start looking for sex again thus affairs.

I have no idea.

Anonymous wrote:We're in our second marriage for both of us. After his divorce, he went on a streak for a couple years, so there is no one girlfriend, but rather lots of conquests. He's never told me the exact number, maybe because he's afraid to, but I'm guessing it's almost certainly in the dozens. I'm fine with it, I think it's great that he got all of that out of his system. Plus, I kinda like knowing that I was the one he gave all that up for. It's a confidence booster!

I hope you don't have daughters. It saddens me that you place so much value in the desires of a man.

It's funny how many women on here admit that their husband downgraded when they married them.

I've met bunches of them. He's in a band. I don't always know if women we meet out are exes or just friends. Most were short relationships and they parted well enough for it to remain friendly. Important ones I know and like. Two have become close friends of mine as well. We met as adults and we had both both were single for a long time, so I don't have strong feelings about his exes as I have a few myself. I don't ask him much unless I'm really interested in who the person is, or it's awkward, which happens.

I'm thankful that he ended his prior relationships well enough to be on good terms, it shows emotional maturity to me.

Anonymous wrote:We're in our second marriage for both of us. After his divorce, he went on a streak for a couple years, so there is no one girlfriend, but rather lots of conquests. He's never told me the exact number, maybe because he's afraid to, but I'm guessing it's almost certainly in the dozens. I'm fine with it, I think it's great that he got all of that out of his system. Plus, I kinda like knowing that I was the one he gave all that up for. It's a confidence booster!

This is my ex-husband. Went on a sex bender for awhile and screwed anything that moved.

We're in our second marriage for both of us. After his divorce, he went on a streak for a couple years, so there is no one girlfriend, but rather lots of conquests. He's never told me the exact number, maybe because he's afraid to, but I'm guessing it's almost certainly in the dozens. I'm fine with it, I think it's great that he got all of that out of his system. Plus, I kinda like knowing that I was the one he gave all that up for. It's a confidence booster!

Dh's ex-wife is tall, skinny, big boobs, lots of makeup, flashy clothes, sunglasses, jewelry. etc. Very emotional, screams at people when angry, throws things when angry (at least according to her kids and my DH.) She's more outgoing than me and more "fun" than me.

I'm pretty much opposite of her in many ways, though we do have some things in common. We get along well though don't interact that much.

His ex-wife and all the ex-gfs that I know about were the same type: think Serena Williams with impeccable makeup, long weaves, and killer heels. They were all very extroverted, into flashy things like cars, jewelry, and spending money.

The only things that I have in common with them are being AA, female, and having a graduate degree. Otherwise, I'm small, introverted, natural-hair, not flashy, not athletic/muscular/fit. I drove a 10 year old beater when we met. The only diamonds I owned then were from my first engagement ring and kept in a bank box for my daughter.

I think he just got exhausted with the non-stop "on". His ex-wife also had a roving eye. I don't think she actually cheated, but she had a lot of male admirers.

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who doesn't know what my husband's exes look like and doesn't give a crap?

I only know who she is because my MIL works with her and that's how she was introduced to me...which was strange. I don't wish her ill, but I don't care about her either.

I've met two - his ex-wife and the woman he dated before he married his ex-wife. Ex-wife is cool. She's very low key, smart, bookish. I truly do not understand why he married her because she's 100% not his type, but from what he has mentioned, he was tired of drama and wanted a nice, relaxing life, so when he and ex-wife had been together for a while, it made sense to get married. I met ex-girlfriend for about 10 minutes a few years ago when we were in the town where they lived when they were together (she still lives there) and it took about 3 of those 10 minutes to understand exactly why it didn't work between them. She seems like a nice person generally though and has been with the guy she started dating after they broke up for the last 15 years, so I guess it all worked out for the best.

Am I the only one who doesn't know what my husband's exes look like and doesn't give a crap?