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Anonymous wrote:In general, kids would be more free range and probably also would have more significant accidents. Every time I see a toddler alone in the deep end of the pool or a kid left in a running car or a baby wandering alone at Target, it's because dad is in charge. Not all men, I know.

I think there are good aspects of this. A population of kids that had more significant accidents while growing up is likely a sturdier and more self reliant population. The trade off of course is less kids make it (but not significantly so) but this is a mixed bag criticism IMO.

You are most definitely male.

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Men get by just fine without female help.

LOL...I'm hardly a feminist (DCUM would be horrified by what a traditional wife I am), but...lol.

Seriously, this is funny.

I think this is true in my house. Sure, my DH would do things differently than I do (i.e. keeping dirty dishes in the sink) but he'd figure all the stuff out. He's the one who reminds me that we need a Costco run.

Anonymous wrote:If I ceased to exist, our house would have far fewer throw pillows, birthday/thank you cards would not be sent, doctor's appointments would not get scheduled, and the floors wouldn't be vacuumed as frequently.

But, if DH ceased to exist, our yard would be a jungle (I don't even know how to start the mower) and I'd never have a home grilled burger or steak. DH is also the one who thinks to buy me things like an emergency kit for my car, checks the air pressure in my tires, inspects the garage door, etc.

I think we all have our own way of taking care of our family, it just tends to be mental vs physical tasks for a lot of us.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In general, kids would be more free range and probably also would have more significant accidents. Every time I see a toddler alone in the deep end of the pool or a kid left in a running car or a baby wandering alone at Target, it's because dad is in charge. Not all men, I know.

I think there are good aspects of this. A population of kids that had more significant accidents while growing up is likely a sturdier and more self reliant population. The trade off of course is less kids make it (but not significantly so) but this is a mixed bag criticism IMO.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here...

women are all about the drama and one upmanship...

so, while we may not really appreciate the little things like thank you cards or even gifts, they are not the kinds of things that are really earth shattering or important. Over the top kids parties are just a way for the the wives to out-do each other.

We do however understand that the things you trivialize (car maintenance, home maintenance, ect) are much more important than thank you notes and gifts, and even to a point, getting larla to soccer practice.

And yes I have organized and cooked dinner parties for the family and friends that did not involve propane or charcoal grills.

So we are capable....but yeah we really don't care about your super flambe salmon soufflé and would rather just have a some beef tenderloin on the grille with a baked potato. And in all honesty, so would most of your guests

You and the other PP are assuming that men do the home and car maintenance. In my home, it's all me. The mental load, the car maintenance, researching, scheduling and interviewing for home repair, getting kids to practice, figuring out when it's time for what doctor's appointments (even DH's). I do wish DH would take some off my plate. But he'd just ignore the check engine light if it were left to him. (he does have a job, though, and does well at it. And if I ask him to take on a specific task, he will.)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here...

women are all about the drama and one upmanship...

so, while we may not really appreciate the little things like thank you cards or even gifts, they are not the kinds of things that are really earth shattering or important. Over the top kids parties are just a way for the the wives to out-do each other.

We do however understand that the things you trivialize (car maintenance, home maintenance, ect) are much more important than thank you notes and gifts, and even to a point, getting larla to soccer practice.

And yes I have organized and cooked dinner parties for the family and friends that did not involve propane or charcoal grills.

So we are capable....but yeah we really don't care about your super flambe salmon soufflé and would rather just have a some beef tenderloin on the grille with a baked potato. And in all honesty, so would most of your guests

You and the other PP are assuming that men do the home and car maintenance. In my home, it's all me. The mental load, the car maintenance, researching, scheduling and interviewing for home repair, getting kids to practice, figuring out when it's time for what doctor's appointments (even DH's). I do wish DH would take some off my plate. But he'd just ignore the check engine light if it were left to him. (he does have a job, though, and does well at it. And if I ask him to take on a specific task, he will.)

Anonymous wrote:DH here...

women are all about the drama and one upmanship...

so, while we may not really appreciate the little things like thank you cards or even gifts, they are not the kinds of things that are really earth shattering or important. Over the top kids parties are just a way for the the wives to out-do each other.

We do however understand that the things you trivialize (car maintenance, home maintenance, ect) are much more important than thank you notes and gifts, and even to a point, getting larla to soccer practice.

And yes I have organized and cooked dinner parties for the family and friends that did not involve propane or charcoal grills.

So we are capable....but yeah we really don't care about your super flambe salmon soufflé and would rather just have a some beef tenderloin on the grille with a baked potato. And in all honesty, so would most of your guests

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Anonymous wrote:In general, kids would be more free range and probably also would have more significant accidents. Every time I see a toddler alone in the deep end of the pool or a kid left in a running car or a baby wandering alone at Target, it's because dad is in charge. Not all men, I know.

I think there are good aspects of this. A population of kids that had more significant accidents while growing up is likely a sturdier and more self reliant population. The trade off of course is less kids make it (but not significantly so) but this is a mixed bag criticism IMO.

Anonymous wrote:Just thinking about the "mental load" and how much of it is stuff that truly has to be done (dinner planned, childcare organized) vs how much is social niceties (gift giving, thank you and holiday cards, assisting a sick friend). On the social niceties side what do you think would entirely disappear if women were gone and men either picked up the ball or let it drop? I think for the most part all gift giving, thank you notes, and all holiday celebration beyond the meal (decorations, events) would pretty much disappear because most men just don't care whether or not these things are done

Anonymous wrote:In general, kids would be more free range and probably also would have more significant accidents. Every time I see a toddler alone in the deep end of the pool or a kid left in a running car or a baby wandering alone at Target, it's because dad is in charge. Not all men, I know.