Why did you get divorced?

Anonymous wrote:Look, you know him well enough to just ask him. Next time he does, just stop and say "larlo" what's the deal. You are dating someone. Why do you touch me like that or flirt with me? Is this regret? Is it wanting what you can't have? Or are you hoping that because I'm not attached that I might just be up for a little horizontal reminisce? If he says the quickie, laugh and tell him he wasn't that good the first time around.

Sure, you can ask him, but take his answer with a giant bag of salt.

And do a serious look at yourself and why you're still so connected to his family. Be sure you're being honest iwth yourself that you don't have any interest in getting back with him. Cuz it kind of is confusing as to why you're dealing with all this if you don't want anything to do with him romantically and he's been cold to you until now?

OP have you finally started to move on? Were you finally starting to truly get over him when he started hitting on you?

In my experience, you need to absolutely remember why you split up, and the period when he was cold to you, and not trust this at all as being about anything as nice as "He finally realizes how great you are and is finally appreciating you." So not what he's up to, most likely.

My money would be on he started to sense that you were actually getting over him, and he couldn't deal. He wants to string you along as long as possible, or he's bored and wants to see if he can get you back.

It all sounds bad though. Why are you even still talking to him if he's been cold since you split up and it's been awhile? Make sure you're finding better things/people to spend your time on that fulfill you and actually make you feel good. This guy sounds like he's up to no good.

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to distance yourself from his family. It really makes no sense for you to see them so frequently.

Do it now before he gets remarried and then your here posting about how hurt you are because you thought you were so close to your ex's family, but they like his new wife more than me 111.

Lol, I will ask Larlo next time it happens.

Maybe you are the one that 'got away' and he is testing the waters to see if in fact you can still be had for the taking.

Look, you know him well enough to just ask him. Next time he does, just stop and say "larlo" what's the deal. You are dating someone. Why do you touch me like that or flirt with me? Is this regret? Is it wanting what you can't have? Or are you hoping that because I'm not attached that I might just be up for a little horizontal reminisce? If he says the quickie, laugh and tell him he wasn't that good the first time around.

I think you need to distance yourself from his family. It really makes no sense for you to see them so frequently.

Do it now before he gets remarried and then your here posting about how hurt you are because you thought you were so close to your ex's family, but they like his new wife more than me 111.

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Anonymous wrote:So you have absolutely NO interested in hooking up with him again, right?

No, no interest. None. I'm ignoring the advances, just curious as to why he is making them all of a sudden, what is motivation is or what is going on in his head.

I am still the same weight. My hair is longer but not any longer than it used to be.

The only thing I can say has changed is his relationship with the woman he was seeing. Only thing.

don't think he is doing it based on some sort of rational thought process. he wants sex, no strings attached sex. you "maybe" available and he is fishing it. you are really over-thinking this. we men are simple.

Anonymous wrote:So you have absolutely NO interested in hooking up with him again, right?

No, no interest. None. I'm ignoring the advances, just curious as to why he is making them all of a sudden, what is motivation is or what is going on in his head.

I am still the same weight. My hair is longer but not any longer than it used to be.

The only thing I can say has changed is his relationship with the woman he was seeing. Only thing.

Have you lost weight? Grown out your hair? Maybe you're sexier than you used to be.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have no kids, why are you seeing your ex so frequently?!?!?!?!?!

We work in the same industry and I am close with his family. We run into one another several times a week just because of work.

I've honestly only ever heard people say this when they WANT to keep seeing someone. There is no one I run into several times a week that I do not live next to or work with. What industry requires you to see someone who you do not actually work with several times over the course of a week? Maybe there is one, but I can not think of one. Do you work together?

How close are you to his family? Why?

His sister and I are old college friends, I am still close with her.

I'd rather not say what industry we are in, despite what you believe there are organizations with various expertise that work closely together and people do see one another often.

That's tough. I guess just tell him you notice, you are not interested, and please stop it.

So you have absolutely NO interested in hooking up with him again, right?

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Anonymous wrote:If you have no kids, why are you seeing your ex so frequently?!?!?!?!?!

We work in the same industry and I am close with his family. We run into one another several times a week just because of work.

I've honestly only ever heard people say this when they WANT to keep seeing someone. There is no one I run into several times a week that I do not live next to or work with. What industry requires you to see someone who you do not actually work with several times over the course of a week? Maybe there is one, but I can not think of one. Do you work together?

How close are you to his family? Why?

His sister and I are old college friends, I am still close with her.

I'd rather not say what industry we are in, despite what you believe there are organizations with various expertise that work closely together and people do see one another often.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have no kids, why are you seeing your ex so frequently?!?!?!?!?!

I think this is question 1. The fact you are seeing him (for whatever reasons) is sending him signals you maybe "open." So, can you answer pp's question? Why are you seeing him?

Yes, it's weird. We work in the same circles and often run into eachother because of work. This is mostly in crowded situations. His mother and sister are very close with me, I went to college with his sister, so I do see his family a few times a month. He just happens to be there at times.

Who cares.

He sounds like a loser.

Limit your time with him.

You don't have kids, move on.