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Anonymous wrote:Pay the fifty dollars for your kid to move in early a few days. You all stay in a nearby (nice) hotel and let your wife help set up the dorm room but let your DD sleep in the dorm if she wants. Go out to lunch with your DD. This will set up an appropriate dynamic for visits in the future. You may not break that umbilical cord, but you can stretch it pretty thin.

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It will make the kid feel much happier too. Sounds like they are close. You are lucky to have such a great mom as a wife

Or maybe DD is desperate and ready to get away from an overbearing, overprotective mom and have space to breathe and be herself.

I am OP and yes, this is more the case. DD can't go about her daily business w/o Mom constantly checking in. She dies the same with me and it's annoying.

And us, when my brother went to West Point he was put on a bus and that was that!

Sounds like you have real contempt for her.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

I hate to tell you this but there are a lot of kids that don't come from families that can afford to take a week off to move their kids into college. I went to Univ. of Michigan in the 80s and remember some rich kids who arrived with families, furniture, cars and wardrobes and other (less wealthy) kids who came alone on a bus with the bare essentials. They all survived.

This ain't the 80s anymore, dude. BTW, what "bus" even goes directly to a school? I mean, how far are we talking? Is this a cross country bus or a city bus...

I went to a state school back in the 80's. No one. And I mean NO ONE showed up with just a duffel bag and a comb....and on a bus no less. Even poor people wear clothes, bring sheets, towels, school supplies and a computer if their degree requires it. Dorm rooms tend to be tiny so even the wealthy kids were limited as to what they could bring. I don't recall ever seeing a kid bring a wardrobe into their dorm room (where would they put it??).

I am also fascinated by the idea of these buses that are apparently crossing the country and depositing people at their college. Where I went to college, which was a pretty cushy private school, we had one dumpy bus that ran only during limited business hours and took you in a loop about a mile away, to public transit, and left. How awesome would it have been if there was some kind of magical schoolbus stopping state to state and picking up kids, dorm equipment in tow, and depositing them at their university? Sign me the hell up.

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Anonymous wrote:Pay the fifty dollars for your kid to move in early a few days. You all stay in a nearby (nice) hotel and let your wife help set up the dorm room but let your DD sleep in the dorm if she wants. Go out to lunch with your DD. This will set up an appropriate dynamic for visits in the future. You may not break that umbilical cord, but you can stretch it pretty thin.

+1

It will make the kid feel much happier too. Sounds like they are close. You are lucky to have such a great mom as a wife

Or maybe DD is desperate and ready to get away from an overbearing, overprotective mom and have space to breathe and be herself.

I am OP and yes, this is more the case. DD can't go about her daily business w/o Mom constantly checking in. She dies the same with me and it's annoying.

And us, when my brother went to West Point he was put on a bus and that was that!

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

I hate to tell you this but there are a lot of kids that don't come from families that can afford to take a week off to move their kids into college. I went to Univ. of Michigan in the 80s and remember some rich kids who arrived with families, furniture, cars and wardrobes and other (less wealthy) kids who came alone on a bus with the bare essentials. They all survived.

This ain't the 80s anymore, dude. BTW, what "bus" even goes directly to a school? I mean, how far are we talking? Is this a cross country bus or a city bus...

I went to a state school back in the 80's. No one. And I mean NO ONE showed up with just a duffel bag and a comb....and on a bus no less. Even poor people wear clothes, bring sheets, towels, school supplies and a computer if their degree requires it. Dorm rooms tend to be tiny so even the wealthy kids were limited as to what they could bring. I don't recall ever seeing a kid bring a wardrobe into their dorm room (where would they put it??).

Our family is on life360. Everyone likes it, especially if anyone is traveling. We also like Snapchat location feature and send/post life snippets. It's fun and not intrusive. That the end of it, no staying nearby to help settle, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Pay the fifty dollars for your kid to move in early a few days. You all stay in a nearby (nice) hotel and let your wife help set up the dorm room but let your DD sleep in the dorm if she wants. Go out to lunch with your DD. This will set up an appropriate dynamic for visits in the future. You may not break that umbilical cord, but you can stretch it pretty thin.

+1

It will make the kid feel much happier too. Sounds like they are close. You are lucky to have such a great mom as a wife

+2 When I went off to college I missed my mom so much. A few extra days to get used to the routine of college with her close by would have been really helpful

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

I hate to tell you this but there are a lot of kids that don't come from families that can afford to take a week off to move their kids into college. I went to Univ. of Michigan in the 80s and remember some rich kids who arrived with families, furniture, cars and wardrobes and other (less wealthy) kids who came alone on a bus with the bare essentials. They all survived.

This ain't the 80s anymore, dude. BTW, what "bus" even goes directly to a school? I mean, how far are we talking? Is this a cross country bus or a city bus...

The bus issue is not the topic of this thread. That was posted by another person. Can we please stick to the OP's issue? Or, start your own topic about bussing students to college.

Actually OP mentioned bussing his brother and that he thought they should do something similarly low-key. Since you seem to be such a vocal advocate of it, I suggest you start a thread. Do it in the "colleges and universities" forum and report back how it goes

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Anonymous wrote:Pay the fifty dollars for your kid to move in early a few days. You all stay in a nearby (nice) hotel and let your wife help set up the dorm room but let your DD sleep in the dorm if she wants. Go out to lunch with your DD. This will set up an appropriate dynamic for visits in the future. You may not break that umbilical cord, but you can stretch it pretty thin.

+1

It will make the kid feel much happier too. Sounds like they are close. You are lucky to have such a great mom as a wife

I wouldn't consider her actions (if true) to be "great mom" material. In my opinion, a great parent prepares their kid to function independently and has the confidence in their ability as a parent to let her kid fly on their own.

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Anonymous wrote:Pay the fifty dollars for your kid to move in early a few days. You all stay in a nearby (nice) hotel and let your wife help set up the dorm room but let your DD sleep in the dorm if she wants. Go out to lunch with your DD. This will set up an appropriate dynamic for visits in the future. You may not break that umbilical cord, but you can stretch it pretty thin.

+1

It will make the kid feel much happier too. Sounds like they are close. You are lucky to have such a great mom as a wife

Or maybe DD is desperate and ready to get away from an overbearing, overprotective mom and have space to breathe and be herself.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

I hate to tell you this but there are a lot of kids that don't come from families that can afford to take a week off to move their kids into college. I went to Univ. of Michigan in the 80s and remember some rich kids who arrived with families, furniture, cars and wardrobes and other (less wealthy) kids who came alone on a bus with the bare essentials. They all survived.

This ain't the 80s anymore, dude. BTW, what "bus" even goes directly to a school? I mean, how far are we talking? Is this a cross country bus or a city bus...

The bus issue is not the topic of this thread. That was posted by another person. Can we please stick to the OP's issue? Or, start your own topic about bussing students to college.

Anonymous wrote:Pay the fifty dollars for your kid to move in early a few days. You all stay in a nearby (nice) hotel and let your wife help set up the dorm room but let your DD sleep in the dorm if she wants. Go out to lunch with your DD. This will set up an appropriate dynamic for visits in the future. You may not break that umbilical cord, but you can stretch it pretty thin.

+1

It will make the kid feel much happier too. Sounds like they are close. You are lucky to have such a great mom as a wife

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to get her a dog.

Or a hobby.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

I hate to tell you this but there are a lot of kids that don't come from families that can afford to take a week off to move their kids into college. I went to Univ. of Michigan in the 80s and remember some rich kids who arrived with families, furniture, cars and wardrobes and other (less wealthy) kids who came alone on a bus with the bare essentials. They all survived.

This ain't the 80s anymore, dude. BTW, what "bus" even goes directly to a school? I mean, how far are we talking? Is this a cross country bus or a city bus...

I think you need to get her a dog.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

I hate to tell you this but there are a lot of kids that don't come from families that can afford to take a week off to move their kids into college. I went to Univ. of Michigan in the 80s and remember some rich kids who arrived with families, furniture, cars and wardrobes and other (less wealthy) kids who came alone on a bus with the bare essentials. They all survived.