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Anonymous wrote:I judge if you are adamant about specific dates even though you have no scheduled plans. I have coworkers who schedule staycations during our busy season or during popular vacation weeks and it makes office coverage tougher than it has to be. I am not a work martyr but deliberately avoiding having to cover for your colleagues is dickish.

Otherwise, I don't care what you do on vacation. A staycation sounds nice.

Why is it okay for someone to schedule a vacation during a busy period but it's not okay to schedule a staycation? The way to solve this problem is be consistent about leave policies. Basically, block out the busy weeks and indicate that NO one can plan to take leave (for travel or for staycations) during those time periods. Period.

It's also shortsighted to assume that people don't plan things during their staycations that require advance scheduling. During my staycations, I still have scheduled plans (anything from vet visits to home repairs that have to be scheduled in advance to appointments, etc.) It's ridiculous to assume that the only thing that requires specific dates are vacations that involve travel.

Because a strict policy of "no leave during May or June" is unnecessarily harsh. It's wedding season, it's graduation season, it's move your kid home from college dorm season. There is room for one or two people to be out, just not half the office. This year my colleague's daughter graduated from a foreign university: of course her dad should have time off to attend, and I'm happy to cover even though it's busy right now. But if you could as easily take your staycation in July instead of June, you should.

My point about dickishness went to colleagues who schedule leave (or call in sick) solely because they don't want to have to do extra work to cover for the people who are already out for immovable events like a graduation. It's like the kid who stays home sick on the day the group presentation is due. Ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge if you are adamant about specific dates even though you have no scheduled plans. I have coworkers who schedule staycations during our busy season or during popular vacation weeks and it makes office coverage tougher than it has to be. I am not a work martyr but deliberately avoiding having to cover for your colleagues is dickish.

Otherwise, I don't care what you do on vacation. A staycation sounds nice.

Why is it okay for someone to schedule a vacation during a busy period but it's not okay to schedule a staycation? The way to solve this problem is be consistent about leave policies. Basically, block out the busy weeks and indicate that NO one can plan to take leave (for travel or for staycations) during those time periods. Period.

It's also shortsighted to assume that people don't plan things during their staycations that require advance scheduling. During my staycations, I still have scheduled plans (anything from vet visits to home repairs that have to be scheduled in advance to appointments, etc.) It's ridiculous to assume that the only thing that requires specific dates are vacations that involve travel.

+100.

Anonymous wrote:I judge if you are adamant about specific dates even though you have no scheduled plans. I have coworkers who schedule staycations during our busy season or during popular vacation weeks and it makes office coverage tougher than it has to be. I am not a work martyr but deliberately avoiding having to cover for your colleagues is dickish.

Otherwise, I don't care what you do on vacation. A staycation sounds nice.

Why is it okay for someone to schedule a vacation during a busy period but it's not okay to schedule a staycation? The way to solve this problem is be consistent about leave policies. Basically, block out the busy weeks and indicate that NO one can plan to take leave (for travel or for staycations) during those time periods. Period.

It's also shortsighted to assume that people don't plan things during their staycations that require advance scheduling. During my staycations, I still have scheduled plans (anything from vet visits to home repairs that have to be scheduled in advance to appointments, etc.) It's ridiculous to assume that the only thing that requires specific dates are vacations that involve travel.

I judge if you are adamant about specific dates even though you have no scheduled plans. I have coworkers who schedule staycations during our busy season or during popular vacation weeks and it makes office coverage tougher than it has to be. I am not a work martyr but deliberately avoiding having to cover for your colleagues is dickish.

Otherwise, I don't care what you do on vacation. A staycation sounds nice.

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Anonymous wrote:I usually tell people I'm going to Puerto Backyardigo or San Micasa. People are usually confused enough to leave me alone.

Lol! This is great. I don't understand people who make what I do but then blow enormous $$$ on fancy vacations. I can rest just as much on beaches in MD/DE than Bali, thanks. And I won't complain about my retirement savings either!

So you judge people who actually take nice vacations? Seriously WTF? So the answer is, you are judged if you staycation, go to a moderate vacation or spend $$. Solution: do whatever you want.

I don't make rude comments on other people's vacation plans even if I think they're crazy. So yeah, I'm comfortable with my "judging" behavior, thanks.

I never understand people who expend so much mental energy worrying about ehat everyone else is doing in comparison to themselves.

I can definitely say, I've never given someone elses vacation a second thought. Must be miserable always calibrating how you stack up.

Huh? How much "mental energy" does it take you to have a passing thought? Hope it didn't take too much "mental energy" for you to type that post.

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Anonymous wrote:I usually tell people I'm going to Puerto Backyardigo or San Micasa. People are usually confused enough to leave me alone.

Lol! This is great. I don't understand people who make what I do but then blow enormous $$$ on fancy vacations. I can rest just as much on beaches in MD/DE than Bali, thanks. And I won't complain about my retirement savings either!

So you judge people who actually take nice vacations? Seriously WTF? So the answer is, you are judged if you staycation, go to a moderate vacation or spend $$. Solution: do whatever you want.

I don't make rude comments on other people's vacation plans even if I think they're crazy. So yeah, I'm comfortable with my "judging" behavior, thanks.

I never understand people who expend so much mental energy worrying about ehat everyone else is doing in comparison to themselves.

I can definitely say, I've never given someone elses vacation a second thought. Must be miserable always calibrating how you stack up.

I took a staycation last year. It was fucking glorious. Way more relaxing than the hassle of traveling.

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Anonymous wrote:I usually tell people I'm going to Puerto Backyardigo or San Micasa. People are usually confused enough to leave me alone.

Lol! This is great. I don't understand people who make what I do but then blow enormous $$$ on fancy vacations. I can rest just as much on beaches in MD/DE than Bali, thanks. And I won't complain about my retirement savings either!

So you judge people who actually take nice vacations? Seriously WTF? So the answer is, you are judged if you staycation, go to a moderate vacation or spend $$. Solution: do whatever you want.

I don't make rude comments on other people's vacation plans even if I think they're crazy. So yeah, I'm comfortable with my "judging" behavior, thanks.

OP here.

The tone was decidedly nasty.

I regret telling him, as he'll probably tell everyone in the office that I'm "not going anywhere," insinuating I should be working instead and am being lazy.

This guy is a work martyr. You know the type - 'I'm SOOO busy,' 'I have so much to do I can't afford to take a full week off!.' That type of stuff.

Anonymous wrote:That's EXACTLY why he's no longer your lead & is now simply your colleague, because he makes douchebag comments like that.

Don't make investments into what the feeble minded say... he was demoted for a reason.

Yes!
This, FTW!

I agree with this poster, some people severely lack self awareness.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you presume you were being negatively judged? A significant majority of people travel on their longer vacations. So when people asked where you are going (out of politeness or habit- they don't really care) and then you gave a non standard answer, it sounds like they just verbally processed the unexpected answer. You didn't say that he said anything hostile like "that's stupid" or "what, are you too cheap?".

I'm thinking you're the one with the issue with your non travel. Its exhausting looking for offense in every interaction.

Eh, tone can convey a lot. I don't think OP is overreacting.

NP here, OP cited one example and posted what seems like a fairly neutral reply - "You are not going anywhere? Then OP extrapolated to this mysterious ""they" and "everyone" who are judging. Seemed like an overreaction to me.

But even assuming shitty tone, who cares? Not everyone is going to think all of our choices are awesome. Just part of life.

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Anonymous wrote:I usually tell people I'm going to Puerto Backyardigo or San Micasa. People are usually confused enough to leave me alone.

Lol! This is great. I don't understand people who make what I do but then blow enormous $$$ on fancy vacations. I can rest just as much on beaches in MD/DE than Bali, thanks. And I won't complain about my retirement savings either!

So you judge people who actually take nice vacations? Seriously WTF? So the answer is, you are judged if you staycation, go to a moderate vacation or spend $$. Solution: do whatever you want.

It's none of his business. At all.

Anonymous wrote:Why did you presume you were being negatively judged? A significant majority of people travel on their longer vacations. So when people asked where you are going (out of politeness or habit- they don't really care) and then you gave a non standard answer, it sounds like they just verbally processed the unexpected answer. You didn't say that he said anything hostile like "that's stupid" or "what, are you too cheap?".

I'm thinking you're the one with the issue with your non travel. Its exhausting looking for offense in every interaction.

Eh, tone can convey a lot. I don't think OP is overreacting.

That's EXACTLY why he's no longer your lead & is now simply your colleague, because he makes douchebag comments like that.

Don't make investments into what the feeble minded say... he was demoted for a reason.