Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend has physical conditions (low T and ED and taking meds for other things) that have rendered him asexual. Those can be addressed with meds. He's unable to deal with the situation emotionally, so he's not.

The question is why isn't he jumping at the chance to fix this?

This is the earlier PP at 10:43. The issue is that he is happy in every way, OP says-- but he refuses to get help for TWO utterly treatable medical conditions that affect not only him but also the GF he says he loves.

OP, why does he refuse medical help for two, not uncommon, easily treated medical conditions? He is willing to accept treatment and meds for his anxiety. This is Op. I don't know. I've asked him and he says he's not taking more medicine.

So ask him for a reason why he is willing to treat one thing but not others. Talk with him and don't take deflection as an answer.
If he sees a life together for you as a couple, that life will not succeed unless you and he can communicate effectively. Neither of you is doing that right now.

Possibly he feels that sexual problems are a failure of will and if he admits he needs meds to have sex, he's not manly, or he's weak, or he's let you down. None of that is true but if it's what he believes on some level, he may need a therapist as well as a doctor to treat ED and low T. He needs to see that these are problems he did not create and cannot fix on his own--and you cannot fix them either, no matter how hard you try in initiating sex.

Your role is to be the adult he is apparently too scared to be when it comes to these problems. Consider too that this refusal to get treatment may reflect his anxiety breaking through despite meds. Tell him you are not angry, you love him, and he will see a doctor ASAP and treat this like the medical issue it is. Like he treats his anxiety. Tell him that this choice of his to ignore his ED and low T affects you, not just him, and he needs to see a doctor for both your sakes. Go with him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend has physical conditions (low T and ED and taking meds for other things) that have rendered him asexual. Those can be addressed with meds. He's unable to deal with the situation emotionally, so he's not.

The question is why isn't he jumping at the chance to fix this?

This is the earlier PP at 10:43. The issue is that he is happy in every way, OP says-- but he refuses to get help for TWO utterly treatable medical conditions that affect not only him but also the GF he says he loves.

OP, why does he refuse medical help for two, not uncommon, easily treated medical conditions? He is willing to accept treatment and meds for his anxiety.

It is not a medical condition if he's not bothered with it and its not impacting his life in a negative way. He seems content. Why should he treat a "condition " that does not impact his health in a negative way. Thats like me fixing my big crooked nose. Sure, it might bother other people, but I like my nose just fine.

If he doesn't see thr value in keeping this intimate relatuonship alive, by srrung did there is a way to create a libido, thrn OP needs to move along from her friend because she wants a lover.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it bothers you, and he has no interest in getting treatment, there's your answer. You deserve better, OP.

This is Op. Problem is I love him. I don't know what to do.

Your boyfriend has made it clear he has no interest in improving the situation.

What does that say about his love for you or concern for his feelings?

Stop the hand wringing and audition for the world's greatest martyr. Cut the cord and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know he has low testosterone. So you already have your answer...

Are there natural remedies to low T? Is there something that a person can do to counteract it without medication?

No. There are some things you can do to raise your T level without medication, but the medication is needed to give you a consistent high level of T.

Humans are not asexual.
Period.
100% humans not interested in sex it is the result of some other issue physical, psychological.

Anonymous wrote:You know he has low testosterone. So you already have your answer...

Are there natural remedies to low T? Is there something that a person can do to counteract it without medication?

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend has physical conditions (low T and ED and taking meds for other things) that have rendered him asexual. Those can be addressed with meds. He's unable to deal with the situation emotionally, so he's not.

The question is why isn't he jumping at the chance to fix this?

If he's not lying about having a high sex drive in his 20s then it is very hard to understand.

If he had always been low T, and never knew any different, then he wouldn't know what he's missing.

But I suspect he's not telling the truth about having a high drive and lots of sex in the past, and also about not being abused or having traumatic experiences.

Anonymous wrote:He's not asexual, and it sounds like a physical problem, either due to his medications or testosterone level. The problem is, he doesn't want to do anything about it. So you have to decide if this is something you want to put up with for the rest of your life.

How can you tell?

He's not asexual, and it sounds like a physical problem, either due to his medications or testosterone level. The problem is, he doesn't want to do anything about it. So you have to decide if this is something you want to put up with for the rest of your life.

You know he has low testosterone. So you already have your answer...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it bothers you, and he has no interest in getting treatment, there's your answer. You deserve better, OP.

This is Op. Problem is I love him. I don't know what to do.

You could try counseling. But if he doesn't love you enough to address this huge issue, the love seems too one-sided.

Anonymous wrote:If it bothers you, and he has no interest in getting treatment, there's your answer. You deserve better, OP.

This is Op. Problem is I love him. I don't know what to do.

If it bothers you, and he has no interest in getting treatment, there's your answer. You deserve better, OP.

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