Anonymous
06/19/2017 18:37
Subject: Why is he still texting?
Stop responding. Society might expect you to be polite but that doesn't mean pandering to annoying people; specific to this situation, and for your own safety, sanity, and independence, I suggest you work on your b*tch face and "f* off" delivery. Life is so much better when you feel comfortable telling men you don't want pursuing you to go away. It also makes it easier for them to know where you stand.
Is the above obvious? Yes, yes it is. So WHY are you really still responding?
Is the above obvious? Yes, yes it is. So WHY are you really still responding?
Anonymous
06/19/2017 16:31
Subject: Why is he still texting?
He keeps doing it because by responding, you encourage him.
Anonymous
06/19/2017 13:37
Subject: Re:Why is he still texting?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ok, maybe I'm being a little naive and will stop responding, though as someone noted women have been socialized that not responding is rude!
He is into hardcore BDSM. Not my thing, dcum upbringing or otherwise! Which, again, I don't understand why he still texts- that is a gap that can't be breached...
Not all women just DCUM white women.
Not this DCUM white woman.
Anonymous
06/19/2017 13:35
Subject: Why is he still texting?
No, she doesn't.
OP's poor boundaries (which is the issue OP, please explore why you have trouble with boundaries) have nothing to do with what she wants sexually, and likely everything to do with her upbringing and/or our society's negative reaction to women who do set boundaries. See also the Cosby Defense of "she's a liar who wanted it".
OP's poor boundaries (which is the issue OP, please explore why you have trouble with boundaries) have nothing to do with what she wants sexually, and likely everything to do with her upbringing and/or our society's negative reaction to women who do set boundaries. See also the Cosby Defense of "she's a liar who wanted it".
Anonymous
06/19/2017 13:10
Subject: Why is he still texting?
I think the OP really wants to get herself a taste of this mans kink. Yep, she wants it.
Anonymous
06/19/2017 13:08
Subject: Re:Why is he still texting?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ok, maybe I'm being a little naive and will stop responding, though as someone noted women have been socialized that not responding is rude!
He is into hardcore BDSM. Not my thing, dcum upbringing or otherwise! Which, again, I don't understand why he still texts- that is a gap that can't be breached...
Not all women just DCUM white women.
Anonymous
06/19/2017 13:07
Subject: Why is he still texting?
You don't have to be polite. Women stop this. You aren't interested so stop responding.
Anonymous
06/19/2017 13:01
Subject: Re:Why is he still texting?
you know, the fact that you haven't put up strong boundaries yet appeals to his kink. he sees you as someone who wants to please, doesn't want to rock the boat.
Anonymous
06/19/2017 12:57
Subject: Re:Why is he still texting?
Do you have a bf? Where did you meet?
Anonymous
06/19/2017 09:51
Subject: Why is he still texting?
Anonymous wrote:So, met a guy about a month ago, we went on a couple of dates, but then he he told me that he is very into extreme kink. I told him that wasn't my thing/was never going to happen etc...he still texts/emails every day, all day. Yes, I respond because I think it is the polite thing to do, and I like him as a person.I don't really get it?
Does he get that I'm after a friend thing or did I not make myself clear?
He has asked me out twice since I found out, but have demured. I'm not judging, by the way just not my thing.
Of course you're judging, as well you should.
Grow up, OP, and stop being and idiot before you get yourself in real trouble.
Anonymous
06/19/2017 09:46
Subject: Why is he still texting?
You're obviously secretly into exploring this and are flattered by the attention. Anyone with half a brain who wasn't interested would have blocked him a long time ago, regardless of how "proper" your upbringing is w/r/t the rudeness of not responding.
Come on, you're lying to us and yourself. The really answer I want to know - WHY?
Come on, you're lying to us and yourself. The really answer I want to know - WHY?
sandmguy
06/19/2017 09:42
Subject: Re:Why is he still texting?
Well, there is hardcore BDSM and then there is HARDCORE BDSM. Strangely, women are almost never scared off by what I am into.
Anonymous
06/19/2017 08:52
Subject: Re:Why is he still texting?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ok, maybe I'm being a little naive and will stop responding, though as someone noted women have been socialized that not responding is rude!
He is into hardcore BDSM. Not my thing, dcum upbringing or otherwise! Which, again, I don't understand why he still texts- that is a gap that can't be breached...
Because maybe he thinks you still responding to him means you might change your mnd and give bdsm a try.
Maybe unlike you he's able to be friends with people with different sexual appetites.
All of the above can be resolved by not responding if you have no interest whatsoever.
Not that hard. Not that complicated.
Can't stand women like you!
Anonymous
06/19/2017 08:12
Subject: Re:Why is he still texting?
OP here. Ok, maybe I'm being a little naive and will stop responding, though as someone noted women have been socialized that not responding is rude!
He is into hardcore BDSM. Not my thing, dcum upbringing or otherwise! Which, again, I don't understand why he still texts- that is a gap that can't be breached...
He is into hardcore BDSM. Not my thing, dcum upbringing or otherwise! Which, again, I don't understand why he still texts- that is a gap that can't be breached...
Anonymous
06/19/2017 07:40
Subject: Why is he still texting?
So what is extreme kink per dcum? Doggy style?