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Anonymous wrote:You may someday have a bit of a belly, or cellulite on your thighs or sagging boobs. What would you want him to say to you about your body?

Not op, but if it's effecting my health, then yes. I want to be around for a long time without type 2 diabetes cutting it short or severely limiting my lifestyle like most of my family members.

Oh stop with the health crap! The initial post was not about "health" it was about vanity.

"My husband is starting to get a belly! At first I thought it was just poor posture but, nope, the reason his stomach is starting to stick out is because he's getting a belly. Any non-offensive way to bring this up and/or encourage him to be a bit more rigid with diet and exercise?"

She wasn't sure if it was his "posture" at first. This is NOT an obesity issue. In the same sentence she even asks how to encourage him to be " a bit more rigid with diet and exercise?". So he is clearly already working out, just not enough to have flat stomach when he sits.

Anonymous wrote:You may someday have a bit of a belly, or cellulite on your thighs or sagging boobs. What would you want him to say to you about your body?

Not op, but if it's effecting my health, then yes. I want to be around for a long time without type 2 diabetes cutting it short or severely limiting my lifestyle like most of my family members.

You may someday have a bit of a belly, or cellulite on your thighs or sagging boobs. What would you want him to say to you about your body?

Mine too. So I finally ok'd a country club membership. He goes out to play 9 holes most mornings before work and sometimes after so he's getting a lot of walking in. Slowly losing weight and I never had to say anything.

Anonymous wrote:Before you criticize his belly, you may want to check how your butt is doing first.

What is wrong with you people?

Yeah, I saw the comments on sagging breasts, too. Guess what? Butts and breasts giving in to gravity are natural parts of aging. Not a whole lot you can do about it. Not a lot of side effects.

Belly fat? Diabetes, heart attack, sleep apnea -- you name it.

I'm the guy who made the post earlier in this thread apologizing to my wife if she's the one who started this thread. I posted it to be funny. But you know what? I AM working on it! Because I'm carrying around about 30 extra pounds, and it sucks.

I don't care about having six-pack abs. Those stupid ads with 50-year-old picking up babes in public parks have no effect on me. I don't care if women are drooling over me or not drooling over me. Couldn't care less.

But I want to lose 30 pounds. That'll put my BMI in a nice healthy range. Maybe I can even wean off my CPAP at some point. Maybe I'll have more energy when I'm not lugging around a spare tire all day.

My wife, bless her heart, doesn't care about having an Adonis in the house. She wants a healthy husband. And I'm determined to be that guy as long as possible.

No need for the exclamation mark in the title. Are you by chance a drama queen?

Anonymous wrote:My WIFE is starting to get a TINY GUT AND A BIG BUTT! At first I thought it was just poor posture but, nope, the reason HER stomach AND BUT ARE starting to stick out is because She's getting a belly. Any non-offensive way to bring this up and/or encourage HER to be a bit more rigid with diet and exercise?

Can you imagine the response to this post?

Before you criticize his belly, you may want to check how your butt is doing first.

Anonymous wrote:If a little belly is going to end your marriage, you should end it now. Age is not pretty.

No but sleep apnea and type two diabetes ain't pretty either. DH's doctor told him when he was 29 to lose 15lbs and she wouldn't put him on the cpap machine. That was 40lbs ago. His father developed type two diabetes in his early thirties, and unfortunately my DH is on the same path. I tried to bring it up once, and he cried. So, there's that.

Tigerguy wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop with the fat shaming!

OMFG, there's not enough of it, if "shaming" is PC code for constructive feedback that someone is starting down an unhealthy path. I'd get DH into a walking habit for starters (something you can do together) and help his diet with more balance and smaller portions. It's not just about staying attractive for your partner, but staying alive longer for them and your children too.

Except shame rarely motivates, it simply makes one person feel superior while making the other feel guilty and unempowered. You act as if a overweight person does not already know they are overweight. Thanks for shaming them and pointing it out.

Anonymous wrote:Stop with the fat shaming!

OMFG, there's not enough of it, if "shaming" is PC code for constructive feedback that someone is starting down an unhealthy path. I'd get DH into a walking habit for starters (something you can do together) and help his diet with more balance and smaller portions. It's not just about staying attractive for your partner, but staying alive longer for them and your children too.

If this was a man posting that his wife has a belly you would rip him apart! Come on, OP. Listen to yourself. My DH's weight fluctuates but so does mine. Neither of us look the same as we did when we met 20 years ago.

OP here - thank you for all the replies! He was recently laid off so I'm sure some of it may be that he's a little sad about things at the moment...yet I come home from work and he is telling me about the gym workouts he's done etc... So maybe this has been gradual and I'm just noticing now. And I'm also not trying to be snarky - I just want him to be healthy and happy and he's otherwise so trim ... just not in be belly :0

Love me some man boobs and a dad bod.

DH is fine as long has he can pass the dickie do test. As long has his belly doesn't stick out further than his dickie do, he's good to go.