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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who did this. "Steve" was deep in the throes of a midlife crisis in his mid-40s. Cheated on his beloved wife/high school sweetheart with a ditsy 20 something (stereotypical beach blonde bikini body goldigger). He left his wife and kids (middle schoolers) and shacked up with the 20 something for years (maybe 5 or so?). His kids went off the rails (think: drugs, sex, etc.). After a while, he realized he missed his real family. Took a few years, but the first wife eventually took him back. Now they're in their mid/late 60s and the bizarre thing is that they act like nothing ever happened. Every now and then someone will say, "Hey, you guys remember "Larla"? Wonder what she's doing now?"

Sadly, the kids really never recovered from their selfish father's midlife crisis. It definitely impacted their mental health and ability to have healthy relationships.

Apparently it's bizarre to you because you have little to no understanding of what forgiveness is all about.

That's not something you can forgive. The 1st wife may have been thinking about retirement and other things. You never know what is really going on. Hopefully Karma get's him.

Yes, I'm fairly confident the first wife only let him come home in an effort to try to save the kids (didn't work) and for his pension and assets. She's definitely more financially stable now.

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor left his wife of 20 years and two middle school kids 2 years ago for a 22yr old. Shes smoking hot. They now live together and he seems to be having the time of his life. Not sure if itnwill last, but i definitly can say for sure he will never be pining for his ex wife thr guy has a ton of money andnis in shape. So it's not likr he'll ever be without someone younger and attractive.

Anonymous wrote:Mid-life crisis can usually be explained by a relationship that has been going downhill for many years. But why is it so often applied to men than women?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here....how long should I give the relationshil to last? He tells a very basic story to everyone as to why he left, but the true story is getting around. Small social circle. I begged him not to date her when he left (I suspected she was the one). My child is only 8, so.she thinks they are just friends. It breaks my heart. This wpman was a good friend, who knew?

It's so painful. I get it and I have experienced it. But you know what - it gets better. Plus you are better off without him as a partner. You can and will do better.

Good luck OP

Anonymous wrote:OP here....how long should I give the relationshil to last? He tells a very basic story to everyone as to why he left, but the true story is getting around. Small social circle. I begged him not to date her when he left (I suspected she was the one). My child is only 8, so.she thinks they are just friends. It breaks my heart. This wpman was a good friend, who knew?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the stories. Everyone tells me karma will hit hard and that there will be consequences for his actions. He left to be with my daughter's girl scout leader. The parents are appalled and have asked her to step down and recuse herself. They also thwarted his efforts to become a troop leader so he could be closer to his new girlfriend. I already see his life falling apart. He has the maturity level of a teenager.

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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who did this. "Steve" was deep in the throes of a midlife crisis in his mid-40s. Cheated on his beloved wife/high school sweetheart with a ditsy 20 something (stereotypical beach blonde bikini body goldigger). He left his wife and kids (middle schoolers) and shacked up with the 20 something for years (maybe 5 or so?). His kids went off the rails (think: drugs, sex, etc.). After a while, he realized he missed his real family. Took a few years, but the first wife eventually took him back. Now they're in their mid/late 60s and the bizarre thing is that they act like nothing ever happened. Every now and then someone will say, "Hey, you guys remember "Larla"? Wonder what she's doing now?"

Sadly, the kids really never recovered from their selfish father's midlife crisis. It definitely impacted their mental health and ability to have healthy relationships.

Apparently it's bizarre to you because you have little to no understanding of what forgiveness is all about.

That's not something you can forgive. The 1st wife may have been thinking about retirement and other things. You never know what is really going on. Hopefully Karma get's him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who did this. "Steve" was deep in the throes of a midlife crisis in his mid-40s. Cheated on his beloved wife/high school sweetheart with a ditsy 20 something (stereotypical beach blonde bikini body goldigger). He left his wife and kids (middle schoolers) and shacked up with the 20 something for years (maybe 5 or so?). His kids went off the rails (think: drugs, sex, etc.). After a while, he realized he missed his real family. Took a few years, but the first wife eventually took him back. Now they're in their mid/late 60s and the bizarre thing is that they act like nothing ever happened. Every now and then someone will say, "Hey, you guys remember "Larla"? Wonder what she's doing now?"

Sadly, the kids really never recovered from their selfish father's midlife crisis. It definitely impacted their mental health and ability to have healthy relationships.

Apparently it's bizarre to you because you have little to no understanding of what forgiveness is all about.

That's not something you can forgive. The 1st wife may have been thinking about retirement and other things. You never know what is really going on. Hopefully Karma get's him.

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Anonymous wrote:This was not physical -- only cyber.

Reconnected electronically with a HS GF; in HS, we went to third base, but no farther.

She was going through an ugly divorce, I was very unhappy in my marriage and life in general. She lived a several hundred miles from me. She did not have the money to travel, and I did not have the excuse to travel.

We sexted intensely. My wife suspected something was up, and hacked into my iPad. She read the conversations.... things got ugly. As this discussion went further, I slowly realized this relationship is not going anywhere. She had become an evangelical Christian since HS whereas I am secular/atheist.

We broke off the conversations texted from 2012 to 2013. It took until 2014 until things settled down at home. I apologized, while making it clear that there was never an in-person relationship. I do not know if she believes me or not.

How is your marriage now?

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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who did this. "Steve" was deep in the throes of a midlife crisis in his mid-40s. Cheated on his beloved wife/high school sweetheart with a ditsy 20 something (stereotypical beach blonde bikini body goldigger). He left his wife and kids (middle schoolers) and shacked up with the 20 something for years (maybe 5 or so?). His kids went off the rails (think: drugs, sex, etc.). After a while, he realized he missed his real family. Took a few years, but the first wife eventually took him back. Now they're in their mid/late 60s and the bizarre thing is that they act like nothing ever happened. Every now and then someone will say, "Hey, you guys remember "Larla"? Wonder what she's doing now?"

Sadly, the kids really never recovered from their selfish father's midlife crisis. It definitely impacted their mental health and ability to have healthy relationships.

Apparently it's bizarre to you because you have little to no understanding of what forgiveness is all about.

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who did this. "Steve" was deep in the throes of a midlife crisis in his mid-40s. Cheated on his beloved wife/high school sweetheart with a ditsy 20 something (stereotypical beach blonde bikini body goldigger). He left his wife and kids (middle schoolers) and shacked up with the 20 something for years (maybe 5 or so?). His kids went off the rails (think: drugs, sex, etc.). After a while, he realized he missed his real family. Took a few years, but the first wife eventually took him back. Now they're in their mid/late 60s and the bizarre thing is that they act like nothing ever happened. Every now and then someone will say, "Hey, you guys remember "Larla"? Wonder what she's doing now?"

Sadly, the kids really never recovered from their selfish father's midlife crisis. It definitely impacted their mental health and ability to have healthy relationships.