When my girlfriends and I were single, sure we would dish details about the guy from the bar last night. But not in serious relationships and certainly not when married.

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Anonymous wrote:We used to while we were all single and dating, or even in serious relationships. It completely stopped after marriage. The only time a friend has brought up sex since our group of friends all got married was in confidence - concerns around her DH not initiating, and she was seeking therapy to deal. We no longer discuss our sex lives in a funny, explicit, or cavalier manner the way we used to.

Yep, this. We are all friends with each other's spouses and it would just feel disrespectful and frankly, I don't want to hear about my now two friends having sex.

Agree with all of this, and I think the bolded is the crux of it. Now that the spouses have all been in the picture for awhile and we all know each other / hang out together, it would just be kind of weird in an 'ehhh don't want THOSE details / THAT image' way. Not that I couldn't talk to them if I needed advice or something, but we just don't really. I think when you're single and dating, you have more to talk about - did you guys hook up, was he good in bed, what funny / hot / crazy / cheesy thing did he say or do, what is he into, etc...kind of different with a husband. In awkward news, when she first started dating her now-husband, one of our friends told us all about their initial encounters - including the fact that his D was "like a French fry". Kind of wish I didn't know that now

I share my escapades with my AP with my BF.

No, we've been married over 35 years and we are still very active. I know I'm lucky and I know it's best to keep my mouth shut. I've never been comfortable with other women talking about their sex lives whether good or bad.

I used to when I was younger- but not since I've gotten married. It's private and not for public consumption.

Anonymous wrote:So, when single and dating, what do women talk about specifically?

Everything. Penis size, positions, how long, was it good, was it bad. Lots of laughs. Miss those days.

Not since getting married.

Anonymous wrote:We used to while we were all single and dating, or even in serious relationships. It completely stopped after marriage. The only time a friend has brought up sex since our group of friends all got married was in confidence - concerns around her DH not initiating, and she was seeking therapy to deal. We no longer discuss our sex lives in a funny, explicit, or cavalier manner the way we used to.

Yep, this. We are all friends with each other's spouses and it would just feel disrespectful and frankly, I don't want to hear about my now two friends having sex.

So, when single and dating, what do women talk about specifically?

Anonymous wrote:When single and dating, yes. Since getting married, not really (on my end, that is)

Same here.

I know that DW talks about it with her friends more than I do with mine.

She's generally a happy wife and she has some hot friends so I kind of get off on the fact that she tells them some things.

Yes, explicitly, BUT my close female friends are all friends with my spouse, so I don't talk about him. I talk about sex in general, about my own body, and about sex I had in college.

Only when a friend complained to me that her husband doesn't initiate. Amazing how many mismatched sex drives there are out there and it's not always the man wanting more....

We used to while we were all single and dating, or even in serious relationships. It completely stopped after marriage. The only time a friend has brought up sex since our group of friends all got married was in confidence - concerns around her DH not initiating, and she was seeking therapy to deal. We no longer discuss our sex lives in a funny, explicit, or cavalier manner the way we used to.

Anonymous wrote:When single and dating, yes. Since getting married, not really (on my end, that is)

This. It's my marriage and between my husband and I and maybe a therapist if need be (we don't need one since Everything is ok but when I used o go to therapy for other things I could see how I could bring up sex if it was important to discuss it for whatever reqson)