Anonymous wrote:So he just graduated from grad school ... without already having an offer? Red flag.

Desperate, he asks for help in May.

Now he feels overconfident?

Sounds like a typical flaky millennial. I predict lots of job hopping wherever he ends up.

Let me guess, his family has money?

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Anonymous wrote:Need more info here. Did the guy approach your husband and persist? Did he mention he'd like help? Did your DH just offer?

I don't think this kid is under any kind of obligation to take this job. He owes it to himself to do multiple interviews, and to take the best job for him. Perhaps he found out in this process that he was a better candidate than he thought.

It kind of sounds like your DH really wanted to help and pushed the recruiter. He shouldn't have done that unless the kid really begged, and no one should do that if the applicant is not qualified (which it seems he's not).

I should clarify. The kid found out they were hiring and asked my husband if he could put in a good word for him. He did, to the recruiter. He told him to look out for X's resume. The recruiter told him he'd do him one better and find it and start the process.

I don't know why your husband is so upset. I do this for lots of people, and that's where my obligation ends. Some people get hired, some people don't, but after I put in a word, I'm out of it.

+1. I gotta wonder why he's so invested in it? I email a recruiter info about a candidate for a referral then its up to them to land the job. Why did your husband push so hard or why is he so invested? This is business. If the kid finds a better paying job- more power to them.

Except it doesn't sound like this kid found a better paying job. It just sounds like he's holding out because he thinks this job is beneath him. Entitlement.

Um, I've definitely turned down jobs that didn't pay well. It's not entitlement, it's making smart career decisions. Many of your subsequent salaries will be a derivative of that first salary.

Anonymous wrote:Ok, so would it be better for DH's reputation if the kid actually took the job, was terrible, and left after 2 months for something that paid better?

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Anonymous wrote:Need more info here. Did the guy approach your husband and persist? Did he mention he'd like help? Did your DH just offer?

I don't think this kid is under any kind of obligation to take this job. He owes it to himself to do multiple interviews, and to take the best job for him. Perhaps he found out in this process that he was a better candidate than he thought.

It kind of sounds like your DH really wanted to help and pushed the recruiter. He shouldn't have done that unless the kid really begged, and no one should do that if the applicant is not qualified (which it seems he's not).

I should clarify. The kid found out they were hiring and asked my husband if he could put in a good word for him. He did, to the recruiter. He told him to look out for X's resume. The recruiter told him he'd do him one better and find it and start the process.

I don't know why your husband is so upset. I do this for lots of people, and that's where my obligation ends. Some people get hired, some people don't, but after I put in a word, I'm out of it.

+1. I gotta wonder why he's so invested in it? I email a recruiter info about a candidate for a referral then its up to them to land the job. Why did your husband push so hard or why is he so invested? This is business. If the kid finds a better paying job- more power to them.

Except it doesn't sound like this kid found a better paying job. It just sounds like he's holding out because he thinks this job is beneath him. Entitlement.

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Anonymous wrote:Need more info here. Did the guy approach your husband and persist? Did he mention he'd like help? Did your DH just offer?

I don't think this kid is under any kind of obligation to take this job. He owes it to himself to do multiple interviews, and to take the best job for him. Perhaps he found out in this process that he was a better candidate than he thought.

It kind of sounds like your DH really wanted to help and pushed the recruiter. He shouldn't have done that unless the kid really begged, and no one should do that if the applicant is not qualified (which it seems he's not).

I should clarify. The kid found out they were hiring and asked my husband if he could put in a good word for him. He did, to the recruiter. He told him to look out for X's resume. The recruiter told him he'd do him one better and find it and start the process.

I don't know why your husband is so upset. I do this for lots of people, and that's where my obligation ends. Some people get hired, some people don't, but after I put in a word, I'm out of it.

+1. I gotta wonder why he's so invested in it? I email a recruiter info about a candidate for a referral then its up to them to land the job. Why did your husband push so hard or why is he so invested? This is business. If the kid finds a better paying job- more power to them.

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Anonymous wrote:Need more info here. Did the guy approach your husband and persist? Did he mention he'd like help? Did your DH just offer?

I don't think this kid is under any kind of obligation to take this job. He owes it to himself to do multiple interviews, and to take the best job for him. Perhaps he found out in this process that he was a better candidate than he thought.

It kind of sounds like your DH really wanted to help and pushed the recruiter. He shouldn't have done that unless the kid really begged, and no one should do that if the applicant is not qualified (which it seems he's not).

I should clarify. The kid found out they were hiring and asked my husband if he could put in a good word for him. He did, to the recruiter. He told him to look out for X's resume. The recruiter told him he'd do him one better and find it and start the process.

I don't know why your husband is so upset. I do this for lots of people, and that's where my obligation ends. Some people get hired, some people don't, but after I put in a word, I'm out of it.

You don't know why OP's DH is upset? Really? A lot of people spend time and effort to interview him and finally hire him. For him to back out now makes DH looks really silly, not to mention wasted effort by others on this kid per DH's recommendation.

I really don't see how it makes DH look silly. It's not DH's son. He's not responsible for that person.

The kid has a right to turn down the job. Period.

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And they brought him in and liked him. They wanted to make him an offer. So DH was right; the kid is a winner. Whether or not he takes the job is irrelevant. DH put forward a viable and qualified candidate. That's his part in this...not making sure the kid takes the job.

But DH did what he did because the young man told him that he wanted the job and now he is backing out. Either that or OP's DH totally mis-read young man's intention from the beginning.

And they brought him in and liked him. They wanted to make him an offer. So DH was right; the kid is a winner. Whether or not he takes the job is irrelevant. DH put forward a viable and qualified candidate. That's his part in this...not making sure the kid takes the job.

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Anonymous wrote:Need more info here. Did the guy approach your husband and persist? Did he mention he'd like help? Did your DH just offer?

I don't think this kid is under any kind of obligation to take this job. He owes it to himself to do multiple interviews, and to take the best job for him. Perhaps he found out in this process that he was a better candidate than he thought.

It kind of sounds like your DH really wanted to help and pushed the recruiter. He shouldn't have done that unless the kid really begged, and no one should do that if the applicant is not qualified (which it seems he's not).

I should clarify. The kid found out they were hiring and asked my husband if he could put in a good word for him. He did, to the recruiter. He told him to look out for X's resume. The recruiter told him he'd do him one better and find it and start the process.

I don't know why your husband is so upset. I do this for lots of people, and that's where my obligation ends. Some people get hired, some people don't, but after I put in a word, I'm out of it.

You don't know why OP's DH is upset? Really? A lot of people spend time and effort to interview him and finally hire him. For him to back out now makes DH looks really silly, not to mention wasted effort by others on this kid per DH's recommendation.

I really don't see how it makes DH look silly. It's not DH's son. He's not responsible for that person.

The kid has a right to turn down the job. Period.

Because he went around vouched for him. He gave his words saying the young man is a real deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Need more info here. Did the guy approach your husband and persist? Did he mention he'd like help? Did your DH just offer?

I don't think this kid is under any kind of obligation to take this job. He owes it to himself to do multiple interviews, and to take the best job for him. Perhaps he found out in this process that he was a better candidate than he thought.

It kind of sounds like your DH really wanted to help and pushed the recruiter. He shouldn't have done that unless the kid really begged, and no one should do that if the applicant is not qualified (which it seems he's not).

I should clarify. The kid found out they were hiring and asked my husband if he could put in a good word for him. He did, to the recruiter. He told him to look out for X's resume. The recruiter told him he'd do him one better and find it and start the process.

I don't know why your husband is so upset. I do this for lots of people, and that's where my obligation ends. Some people get hired, some people don't, but after I put in a word, I'm out of it.

You don't know why OP's DH is upset? Really? A lot of people spend time and effort to interview him and finally hire him. For him to back out now makes DH looks really silly, not to mention wasted effort by others on this kid per DH's recommendation.

I really don't see how it makes DH look silly. It's not DH's son. He's not responsible for that person.

The kid has a right to turn down the job. Period.