They were speaking from a place of loving kindness.

I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry that you are not at peace with the universe right now, Andy I hope you find it.

I suggest you just take the kind words in the spirit with which they were meant and know that people care about you.

Anonymous wrote:Thank God that after the tragedy that this family has endured, that they have the healthy baby that they wanted. It doesn't diminish their loss, but hopefully the joy of the very much wanted child will help them recover from their loss and grief.

sounds like you didn't read all the way through. THe baby isn't born yet.

Thank God that after the tragedy that this family has endured, that they have the healthy baby that they wanted. It doesn't diminish their loss, but hopefully the joy of the very much wanted child will help them recover from their loss and grief.

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Anonymous wrote:It is no different than someone sending thoughts or good vibes. Those are just expressions that are meaningless but are the way that people express support. People tend to express support in ways that they are comfortable with and represent how they like to recurve support. Just accept all ways that support gets expressed as being good intentioned and as a caring action. Someone cared enough to read your message and take the time to respond.

One can't expect that people who have not suffered this kind of loss to truly relate to it. by the same token, perhaps people who have not suffered such a loss should not presume to have profound words of wisdom about it or religious explanations for it.

NP. Well none of OP's friends walked into her living room and started spewing platitudes. They responded to a post SHE posted on social media, and SHE has set up her page so that people *can leave comments.* So if OP wanted to just share news with absolutely no feedback, there are ways she could have done it. She posted to social media, people responded on social media.

I'm curious as to why you refer to your pregnancy as a miracle given the gist of your post.

Anonymous wrote:It is no different than someone sending thoughts or good vibes. Those are just expressions that are meaningless but are the way that people express support. People tend to express support in ways that they are comfortable with and represent how they like to recurve support. Just accept all ways that support gets expressed as being good intentioned and as a caring action. Someone cared enough to read your message and take the time to respond.

One can't expect that people who have not suffered this kind of loss to truly relate to it. by the same token, perhaps people who have not suffered such a loss should not presume to have profound words of wisdom about it or religious explanations for it.

It is no different than someone sending thoughts or good vibes. Those are just expressions that are meaningless but are the way that people express support. People tend to express support in ways that they are comfortable with and represent how they like to recurve support. Just accept all ways that support gets expressed as being good intentioned and as a caring action. Someone cared enough to read your message and take the time to respond.

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Anonymous wrote:God as I understand her does not put defects into babies' hearts. She doesn't ignore you when you pray to heal your child's heart; it's just that there is no magic wand. Sometimes things heal and sometimes they can't heal. If you look at nature in any form, you see that it isn't absolutely perfect with no problems or struggles. Struggle is built into the very fabric of nature. It is the way of life.
If you're a Christian, you know that Jesus suffered and died and that he had a mother who suffered and witnessed his heartbreaking death--the death of God's son and the death of what his followers at the time thought Jesus had come to earth to do. Then of course, the transformation occurs when Jesus rises to new life. This too is the way of life-transformation out of struggle and death. It is not final, it means we are loved and not separated from God.

The reason I thank God in your case, is that even death doesn't break the bonds of love that God has for us. There is new life. Are there scars? Yes. Do you still mourn? Yes. Did you get exactly what you wanted? No. Neither did Jesus. Jesus had scars. And he was transformed. You are too.

So it all relates back to Jesus? Presumably you meant well, but this seems like a quite convoluted determination to make Jesus the focus of OPs situation.

She asked for a reason someone would say "thank God" to her Facebook post. I answered from my point of view and I clearly stated that my reason for thanking God for her new baby would be from the perspective as a Christian. Others have shared from their own points of view.
She asked, I answered.

I would thank God for your healthy baby because I would be grateful that you were being spared the emotional toll that your first child's illness brought. It would in no way be meant to dismiss your first child or his life, but would be in gratitude for the gift of health.

I'm sorry for your loss, OP. I'm hoping all goes well with this pregnancy, and that it leads to happy and healthy baby and mama.

The following is a general theological discussion, that in no way reflects on your personal situation.


Anyone who learns even a little bit about anatomy and embrionic development appreciates how so complicated it is, and how so many things can go wrong, that each healthy baby truly is a miracle.
God is not a vending machine that you pray for something and it comes right out of the slot. Sometimes we pray for something, and God's answer is no. Or not now.
But for someone who believes that god runs the show, the good and the bad come from god, and god has the power to turn what we perceive as bad into what we perceive as good, so we pray. And when the outcome hurts us, we can be angry at god (at least we have someone to direct our anger at, as opposed to saying that it was just a random occurrence). And we hurt, and experience horrible pain. And our friends and those close to us offer their support and sympathy.
And we move on with life, changed because of the pain we experienced, and carrying that pain with us for the rest of our life.
Example of bad things that happen (to a righteous person) in the Bible, is when god kills Aharon's sons, and Aharon (the brother of Moses) is expected to perform his priest job.

As a parent, you also have the power to make decisions that affect your child's life. Some of your decisions will cause your child pain, and even though you made the decision for the child's own good, the child will not thank you for it, nor will you expect your child to thank you for those decisions. When you decide to take away your child's car when they have acted irresponsibly, you will not get a thanks from them. But when you give your child a car, they will thank you for it.

Anonymous wrote:Delete facebook: problem solved.

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You shared your story of loss and you shared your story of gain on Facebook. People wish you well because that is all they can do. You and others are helpless to change the outcome of good and bad things in life. Humans give each other encouragement and hope by trying to look at the positive. So they thank God in good times and ask for His help in times of need.

You must learn to be more positive and learn to let the negativity go.

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Anonymous wrote:Aww OP. I'm so sorry for your loss. What a miracle to be pregnant 9 months after the death though. It's like your angel baby knew you missed him and sent a sibling down for you. Life is rough and I'm so sorry you had to go through this.

Another convoluted God-is-good explanation, in this case featuring an angel baby with magical powers

Praise to the lord even an ass is allowed to post on an anonymous forum. Have a blessed day!

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Anonymous wrote:Aww OP. I'm so sorry for your loss. What a miracle to be pregnant 9 months after the death though. It's like your angel baby knew you missed him and sent a sibling down for you. Life is rough and I'm so sorry you had to go through this.

Another convoluted God-is-good explanation, in this case featuring an angel baby with magical powers

PP, maybe a thread ASKING people to explain how faith/Christianity applies to tragedies isn't for you. This way of trying to understand life's tragedies and injustices is just one viewpoint; what makes YOUR viewpoint any more valid?

Delete facebook: problem solved.

Anonymous wrote:Aww OP. I'm so sorry for your loss. What a miracle to be pregnant 9 months after the death though. It's like your angel baby knew you missed him and sent a sibling down for you. Life is rough and I'm so sorry you had to go through this.

Another convoluted God-is-good explanation, in this case featuring an angel baby with magical powers