Anonymous
06/02/2017 12:10
Subject: Re:Reconnecting with an old AP
OP Why did you get married if you want to cheat? Why don't you divorce and date?
Sorry but this is very sleazy to your wife, kids and that other husband. People get killed over this stuff.
My advice is to leave it alone. Try to improve your marriage or divorce.
Sorry but this is very sleazy to your wife, kids and that other husband. People get killed over this stuff.
My advice is to leave it alone. Try to improve your marriage or divorce.
Anonymous
06/02/2017 11:52
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You don't know what her husband knows or what kind of transparency she is giving him.
Call her office line from your office line. Less traceable by spouses, and she will see the caller ID and decide if she wants to pick up.
My office VM sends a sound file to my email, so consider that before leaving a message.
But what are you looking to gain? Unless you're both willing to leave your spouses, all you can give each other is the emotional roller coaster of sneaking around and sex. If I decided to end my affair, this probably wouldn't be something I would want.
I don't really know. I get that she ended it, and the last thing I want to do is upset her. But I miss the connection we had, and the thought of never having that again makes me very sad.
Have you been to therapy?
Anonymous
06/02/2017 11:30
Subject: Re:Reconnecting with an old AP
Not being snark but curious: is it the sex that you miss? You must still sleep with your wife. What is lacking that you miss this woman so much?
Anonymous
06/02/2017 10:34
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
Anonymous wrote:You don't know what her husband knows or what kind of transparency she is giving him.
Call her office line from your office line. Less traceable by spouses, and she will see the caller ID and decide if she wants to pick up.
My office VM sends a sound file to my email, so consider that before leaving a message.
But what are you looking to gain? Unless you're both willing to leave your spouses, all you can give each other is the emotional roller coaster of sneaking around and sex. If I decided to end my affair, this probably wouldn't be something I would want.
I don't really know. I get that she ended it, and the last thing I want to do is upset her. But I miss the connection we had, and the thought of never having that again makes me very sad.
Anonymous
06/02/2017 10:18
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
Anonymous wrote:You could also view her linkedin profile which would let her know you were curious and looking her up without alerting her husband
This would be ideal, but sadly I unplugged my LinkedIn a while ago.
Anonymous
06/02/2017 09:25
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
You could also view her linkedin profile which would let her know you were curious and looking her up without alerting her husband
Anonymous
06/02/2017 08:56
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
You don't know what her husband knows or what kind of transparency she is giving him.
Call her office line from your office line. Less traceable by spouses, and she will see the caller ID and decide if she wants to pick up.
My office VM sends a sound file to my email, so consider that before leaving a message.
But what are you looking to gain? Unless you're both willing to leave your spouses, all you can give each other is the emotional roller coaster of sneaking around and sex. If I decided to end my affair, this probably wouldn't be something I would want.
Call her office line from your office line. Less traceable by spouses, and she will see the caller ID and decide if she wants to pick up.
My office VM sends a sound file to my email, so consider that before leaving a message.
But what are you looking to gain? Unless you're both willing to leave your spouses, all you can give each other is the emotional roller coaster of sneaking around and sex. If I decided to end my affair, this probably wouldn't be something I would want.
Anonymous
06/02/2017 08:17
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
Anonymous wrote:If she works, visit her at her office. Or "run into her" at her office.
This is terrible advice. She ended it. Move on. Don't be a stalker.
Anonymous
06/02/2017 07:59
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
If she works, visit her at her office. Or "run into her" at her office.
Anonymous
06/02/2017 07:32
Subject: Re:Reconnecting with an old AP
Three YEARS since it ended?
How long was this affair? And doesn't your wife feel that you're not all there for her since you've been pining away for your girlfriend?
How long was this affair? And doesn't your wife feel that you're not all there for her since you've been pining away for your girlfriend?
Anonymous
06/02/2017 05:51
Subject: Re:Reconnecting with an old AP
Anonymous wrote:She ended is abruptly because she either got caught or woke up from the affair fog. Assuming this affair was mutually passionate for her, it was hard for her to rip the bandaid off.
Do not contact her. She knows you still think about her and care. Move on.
+1
Anonymous
06/02/2017 05:13
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
Sure, but man up and leave your wife first, 'kay?
Anonymous
06/02/2017 05:11
Subject: Re:Reconnecting with an old AP
She ended is abruptly because she either got caught or woke up from the affair fog. Assuming this affair was mutually passionate for her, it was hard for her to rip the bandaid off.
Do not contact her. She knows you still think about her and care. Move on.
Do not contact her. She knows you still think about her and care. Move on.
Anonymous
06/02/2017 00:16
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
If she ended it then no - do not contact her.
Anonymous
06/01/2017 23:29
Subject: Reconnecting with an old AP
Anonymous wrote:Go for it. The women on DCUM really didn't t care much for sex at all (just read the last 3 pages of the business trip thread).
Is there a phone number or other communication means you can dig up?
Where DO those women come from?! Awful.