A few times a week, I have an overwhelming desire just be the f*** alone. I want to not talk to anyone or have anyone ask me for anything for a week. DH and I have let our relationship atrophy and I need to lean back in, but I just want to be alone. Not going to happen, but yeah, I fantasize about it a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never hated my kids, but husband, sure. If it weren't for the kids, I would have dumped him a long time ago.

I didn't know that this post was about you - do you want a pat on the back for not hating your kids? Start your own thread maybe?

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OP asked a question. The PP answered it. How is that making the thread about her?

Thanks,PP. Yes, I answered the op's question honestly. She asked if others hate their kids and husband and I said only my husband elicits my hate

I think you should take a serious look at your life situation and do everything you can to (1) reduce stress and (2) have more fun.

I'm on an antidepressant too but it's not the sole solution. Are you in therapy?

I'd get the book Playful Parenting as well as Talk so Your Kids Will Listen and Listen So Your Kids Will Talk, if you haven't read them.

Not exactly, but sometimes I will have a night out with single friends or with just the ladies or something and it takes me a couple of weeks to not pine for that totally unattached, or even just childless, feeling- like I could wake up the next day and do whatever the hell I wanted. I could go home with whomever the hell I wanted- just be solo. I don't regret my choices and love them, but that feeling is intoxicating when it feels so far away.

I have definitely dreamed of my husband's early death and he is a really good guy, great dad, but he is not the greatest roommate or partner. I make it work for me most of the time though.

I have never hated my kid, but I have definitely wanted a break from her. So I take breaks and I don't apologize for them.

Yes OP I feel this way almost daily. It is so hard to be a wife, mother, I have a high pressure job to boot. I am on a bad path right now and I don't know how to get off it. I self medicate by doing some bad things Im not going to put on an internet forum. But really I am there with you and have no good advice.

OP everyone feels that way once in a while. It's normal. It's not typical to feel that way often or all of the time, though.

Anonymous wrote:I don't hate my kids. I hate being a parent. About once every two months I take a break for the entire day. Sometimes I go to a hotel and then spend the next day relaxing, going to movies or bookstores or I just stay in bed at home all day.

+1

Yep, same here. This is a no brainier - even people I like a lot, with whom I get along extremely well, I need a break from after being around them for a while.

Kids, DH, no exception.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't hate my kids. I hate being a parent. About once every two months I take a break for the entire day. Sometimes I go to a hotel and then spend the next day relaxing, going to movies or bookstores or I just stay in bed at home all day.

Wow.

Why wow? PP is smart to take that time to herself.

Anonymous wrote:Did you really just say those things about your kids? I remember the time I overheard my mom call me a little bitch, still stings 20 years later.

There's stress and depression and then there's being an asshole. You can only get a prescription to fix one of those, sadly.

Your mom probably called you a bitch because you are one. Duh.

Anonymous wrote:I don't hate my kids. I hate being a parent. About once every two months I take a break for the entire day. Sometimes I go to a hotel and then spend the next day relaxing, going to movies or bookstores or I just stay in bed at home all day.

Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you really just say those things about your kids? I remember the time I overheard my mom call me a little bitch, still stings 20 years later.

There's stress and depression and then there's being an asshole. You can only get a prescription to fix one of those, sadly.

She's thinking it, she didn't say it to her kids. It's ok PP, kids and husbands can be real a$$holes. You are allowed to have those feelings.

+1 And the grind of it all wears you down. Can you take a weekend to yourself, OP, and let your DH handle the kids? A few days away can make a big difference in psychic health.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never hated my kids, but husband, sure. If it weren't for the kids, I would have dumped him a long time ago.

I didn't know that this post was about you - do you want a pat on the back for not hating your kids? Start your own thread maybe?

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OP asked a question. The PP answered it. How is that making the thread about her?

Anonymous wrote:Did you really just say those things about your kids? I remember the time I overheard my mom call me a little bitch, still stings 20 years later.

There's stress and depression and then there's being an asshole. You can only get a prescription to fix one of those, sadly.

She's thinking it, she didn't say it to her kids. It's ok PP, kids and husbands can be real a$$holes. You are allowed to have those feelings.

Anonymous wrote:I have never hated my kids, but husband, sure. If it weren't for the kids, I would have dumped him a long time ago.

I didn't know that this post was about you - do you want a pat on the back for not hating your kids? Start your own thread maybe?