I have met women who have said that to me. Bragged about it a little. I always laugh to myself when I hear about that and think....Now you are the wife, now someone is going to come along and steal him from you. Women like this actually think they are special and that is what gets everyone in trouble. You think your special and this man is going to leave his wife for you cause you are so great. You aren't and you will find out that you aren't that great when someone else comes along and plucks your husband away from you.

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To answer your question, it's because women are raised to be competitive with other women and place value on attaining men. Second wives compare themselves favorably to first wives (who didn't give him what he needed or was a straight up bitch). A woman who grabs the attention of a man in a relationship has the idea that she's won something.

Can everyone just read the Handmaid's Tale? Can't we all just get along?

#Feminism101 #womenshouldn'thatetheirsisters

+1. Women would run the world except we're too busy hating each other.

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Anonymous wrote:Never heard of this. Maybe I give off just enough of a judgy bitch face that they keep that little factoid to themselves around me.

+1 I've never heard of this either. But 1 - I also give off a judgy bitch face and 2 - I don't have friends who would do something like that so...

I do have my sister sneaking into married men. She did it twice in the same work environment.

Technically, the married men are sneaking into her.

You don't know what they're into

Anonymous wrote:This makes no sense. Troll? Or true among some cultures/SES?

I don't think it's a troll. I do agree with PPs that this is middle school culture and yes, lower SES trashy behavior. Women can be incredibly competitive with one another (cf, Handmaid's Tale), but most who achieve higher executive function don't engage in this kind of behavior openly.

I'm in the middle of reading Hillbilly Elegy which is rife with this kind of mentality, though it is hardly limited to scots-irish white people.

I thought that ended during high school

Anonymous wrote:It's not because the man cheated on his wife once that he'll do it again. Maybe he wasn't happy in his mariage and fell in love with that new woman. Things happen. It doesn't make the man a bad person.

Yes, it makes both of them bad people. It really does.

To answer your question, it's because women are raised to be competitive with other women and place value on attaining men. Second wives compare themselves favorably to first wives (who didn't give him what he needed or was a straight up bitch). A woman who grabs the attention of a man in a relationship has the idea that she's won something.

Can everyone just read the Handmaid's Tale? Can't we all just get along?

#Feminism101 #womenshouldn'thatetheirsisters

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Anonymous wrote:Never heard of this. Maybe I give off just enough of a judgy bitch face that they keep that little factoid to themselves around me.

+1 I've never heard of this either. But 1 - I also give off a judgy bitch face and 2 - I don't have friends who would do something like that so...

I do have my sister sneaking into married men. She did it twice in the same work environment.

Technically, the married men are sneaking into her.

She's still single at 50. In representation of all well minded wives, I can spray an organic repellent.

The reason is because they have to believe that the wife is terrible and that they are awesome, or better yet, the wife was pretty good but did not "take care of her man" and she is even better because she will "take care of her man" and he "chose her" over his wife.

If she believes that she is all powerful and she "stole him" instead of the truth, that he sucks and is using her and will most likely leave her too... they might have a chance at happiness. These people seek external gratification and think it is happiness. They are not comfortable in the own skin and can't create their own happiness.

It is the way insecure people with terrible coping skills think.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you need better friends. I've never met a single person who bragged about this.

That's not to say I've never met anyone who's cheated or left their spouse - it's just that in my social circle this would be very much looked down upon. I imagine people with this type of history would only share it with their closest friends.

They're not my friends.