Anonymous
Post 05/21/2017 23:11     Subject: Re:Tell me about your more grown up kid that has ADHD, dyspraxia and a IQ a bit below the mean (95)?
Relative has ADHD, some other learning disabilities, and IQ in the low 80s. Tried community college but couldn't quite handle it, so went to cosmetology school. Makes good money as a hairstylist and loves his job. Lots of friends and bought his dream car. Still living at home in late 20s, but does well when left alone for a week or more. Getting his own place soon. Needs a little help with money management and similar.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2017 22:43     Subject: Tell me about your more grown up kid that has ADHD, dyspraxia and a IQ a bit below the mean (95)?
Anonymous wrote:I have 3 kids who have struggled at various times. None are just like your child but I will share my experience. My MS son tested at an IQ of 98 and was diagnosed with LD and borderline ADHD in 3rd grade. Retested in late 5th after lots of remediation wirh an IQ of 123 and no ADHD. He was extremely upset and had shutdown when tested at 8. He was a very different child at 11. My youngest (9) has resolved apraxia/dyspraxia and has far exceeded any and all expectations. At 5, he couldn't communicate clearly and had significant motor planning issues that affected handwriting and coordination. He did years and years of ST and OT from age 2-7. Nobody who meets him today would ever guess. My oldest has ADHD and tested with an IQ of 100. She is now a HS student with a 3.7 in all honors classes in a highly regarded MCPS school. Clearly her IQ score was not valid.

Nobody can predict the future. I had so many sleepless nights worrying about each of my children. I wish I'd had a crystal ball.


This. At 4 my DS had an IQ of 135. We just found out he has mild dyslexia and his score dropped to 110. He is no doubt a very bright child and has a million other great qualities. Do not let the IQ define your child or how you think of him. The IQ one can change and two is not determinative of success or happiness. My other child, who scored a 125 and is too young to diagnos but probably also has dyslexia is a master lego builder, like can build legos better than kids who are 5 years older. My point is IQ is really on one very small part of the picture and a questionable part at that.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2017 18:51     Subject: Tell me about your more grown up kid that has ADHD, dyspraxia and a IQ a bit below the mean (95)?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is what we are looking at now, and I am just feeling so fearful of the future at 5. Does anyone have a more grown up child with a similar profile? Everything is such a struggle right now. I can't even fathom high school. Let alone dating. I just can't imagine what life looks like for him.


I consider your kid about 20 IQ points luckier than mine. Wow, if I could only be in your shoes.


Did you even read what OP wrote? Do you really think 20 more IQ points translates into 20 less "struggle" points? Be careful what you wish for.


20 IQ points is a big deal. I can see what PP meant.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2017 18:13     Subject: Tell me about your more grown up kid that has ADHD, dyspraxia and a IQ a bit below the mean (95)?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is what we are looking at now, and I am just feeling so fearful of the future at 5. Does anyone have a more grown up child with a similar profile? Everything is such a struggle right now. I can't even fathom high school. Let alone dating. I just can't imagine what life looks like for him.


I consider your kid about 20 IQ points luckier than mine. Wow, if I could only be in your shoes.


Did you even read what OP wrote? Do you really think 20 more IQ points translates into 20 less "struggle" points? Be careful what you wish for.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2017 15:57     Subject: Tell me about your more grown up kid that has ADHD, dyspraxia and a IQ a bit below the mean (95)?
Anonymous wrote:This is what we are looking at now, and I am just feeling so fearful of the future at 5. Does anyone have a more grown up child with a similar profile? Everything is such a struggle right now. I can't even fathom high school. Let alone dating. I just can't imagine what life looks like for him.


I consider your kid about 20 IQ points luckier than mine. Wow, if I could only be in your shoes.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2017 14:21     Subject: Re:Tell me about your more grown up kid that has ADHD, dyspraxia and a IQ a bit below the mean (95)?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:HS senior who has ADHD and low 90s IQ. Also has anxiety. He is getting ready to graduate, but it's been a lot of work. We had one year of intense tutoring - like daily. It was due to reading comprehension issues which are essential from third grade on. Also have periodic medication issues - both getting the right thing and taking it because he hates it. Other difficult time was when the hormones kicked in - terrible depression on top of normal moodiness.

But, he is going to graduate. He has been working since he was 17 and saved enough money to buy his own car awhile ago. He got into the automotive program at MCPS Edison School of Technology, which was awesome. He will go full time at the garage where he works now as soon as school is done. He will continue his education in a certiffiecate program at MC and hopefully get at least one ASE certification. He's had an on again off again girlfriend since the summer before HS. He's also had some friends for the past few years, but not really before. Fortunately I have other kids and they all like each other.

The thing I've found is that I can never leave my guard down. I have to keep him moving to learn the skills he needs because it doesn't come naturally and no one else is going to teach him. For example, not too long ago he had been doing so well with money management that I let my guard down thinking he had the skills not to need me. After a few months, I found he had piddled away a few hundred dollars. He did very nice things with his money, but not things he could afford given that he will have school bills and he has a car so he needs emergency money. FWIW, I realized this when he was little so I started working with him in first grade and it really paid off.


I am so inspired by posts like these. Damn. You are one awesome mom. You have literally carried that kid every step of the way and managed to set him up or success. I hope you are seriously, really, really proud and do something awesome for yourself to celebrate both of your achievements. You are amazing.


You are so sweet. Thank you!
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2017 10:40     Subject: Re:Tell me about your more grown up kid that has ADHD, dyspraxia and a IQ a bit below the mean (95)?
To add to the above:


http://wechslertest.com/about-wechsler-intelligence-test/whats-good-score-wechsler-individual-achievement-test

Looking at the Scores

When the WIAT is scored, there will be a set of numbers that will be given to the test taker. The average score for the test is 100, and any score from 90 to 109 is considered to be in the average intelligence range. Score from 110 to 119 are considered to be High Average. Superior scores range from 120 to 129 and anything over 130 is considered Very Superior. These scores will indicate where a student might excel when in school. On the other hand, any score from 80 to 89 is considered to be Low Average, scores from 70 to 79 are called Borderline and any score below 69 is considered Extremely Low. These scores can help to identify areas where a student may struggle.