Anonymous wrote:It took months before my two children recovered from the abusive behavior on the part of Caron Renaissance. I feel such guilt for sending them there. I feel traumatized from Family Week that I still at times suffer from. The experience was very damaging to our entire family. Plus it cost us 6 figures that put us in debt.
Anonymous wrote:My parents made the mistake of sending me to Caron in 2011 after I received an underage DUI. The philosophy of the program was "we will break you down until you can build yourself back up." My issue was not with drugs, it was with self-esteem and delayed mental and emotional development. I ran away once a month due to the terrible way the therapists would speak to me. One example is when my primary therapist made everyone in my group go around and call me a whore to my face. I was kept there for 6 months because my parents could afford it. I was kicked out because I was having an emotional relationship with an alumni. I never "relapsed" on drugs or alcohol during my time there, I needed help with my self esteem and clearly Caron couldn't give me the help I needed. They kicked me out at my lowest point- before I had any tools to help build myself back up. The only thing I received from them was the ability to write a resume and get a job. I still have nightmares about that place. I know people have been sent there with similar stories such as mine- their parents didn't know what to do and they heard this place was the best. I was the only patient there at the time who had never been to treatment before and had one run in with the law. Perhaps Caron has saved the lives of many drug addicts but they certaintly did not have staff that knew how to treat my issues. I do not think tough love or calling patients names or forcing them to wear signs that say whore, male dependent , thief, etc is going to save anyone suffering from addiction.
Anonymous wrote:A Hollywood executive committed suicide at Caron Ocean Drive in 2015. Sixty thousand dollars a month and allegedly no one was watching over this guy? Read and you decide. http://thecoastalstar.com/profiles/blogs/delray-beach-xanax-addiction-and-death
Anonymous wrote:I think PP meant meant taking the first step in the 12 step program, admitting you've become powerless over an addictive substance and your life has become unmanageable.
Getting to the first step is not insurance that treatment will work, so it makes no sense that having your loved one get to step ensures that the dollars you are spending on treatment are worth the investment. The success rates at drug addiction programs are abysmal and there are many, many programs that take advantage of families' desperation or the increasing availability of federal funding.
OP, I wish you'd give us more to work with your situation. Caron is not the right program for someone recently or very moderately addicted. It is for more hardened addicts whose families have more money than time to see their addict through themselves. You have said your daughter is sensitive, but not much about her drug status.
For those who are not hardened addicts, a successful recovery plan does not require a rehab or a halfway house. It does require families who can do their homework to manage the recovery of their loved one themselves and also have an ability to look honestly at themselves to ensure they are not enablers and to draw boundaries and stick to them. Naranon is useful for this.
There is a medication that can help enormously, Vivitrol, a monthly shot that does not involve an addictive substance that can be enormously helpful if the drug in question is alcohol or opiates. NA is an excellent way to get a new set of friends that don't do drugs and are very adamant about personal responsibility.
I am very skeptical of almost all rehab programs, and even more so when they cost a $1000 a day and you don't even get daily professional individual therapy. In your place I'd fly down to Florida and hear her out. I'd see if she'd agree to a DIY program involving regular drug tests, NA meetings, individual therapy, and possibly Vivitrol, complemented by either a lot of volunteer work or a job in an industry that isn't full of drugs (eg not the food industry).
Anonymous wrote:Anyone can come off drugs if they want to. There are plenty of low cost programs, like the Salvation Army. Many of these low cost programs work for people who see no other way to survive. Embrace those programs. Go to 12 step meetings for families while your loved one is at a public recovery centre. If your addict rejects this path, that is their choice. Renaissance have a cllinical philosophy that is not terribly different from the wisdom of 12 step soul searching and behavior changes. If for some reason you choose Renaissance but don't follow their guidelines; if it's too painful for family members to hear what they say, tell them. And weigh your options. Death and or jail is the sentence for addicts. Chaos can become a way of life. Renaissance is not the only place out there. But the local support is unparalleled and so is their clinical philosophy. If you reject them before you've admitted you are powerless over this disease and your life has become unmanageable - Step One - it will be on you to find a recovery path. Salvation Army is much the same. Reject their paradigm and reject Step One and you're alone again. No treatment or family intervention will work before Step One is fully embraced. I have not seen a better program than Renaissance for entitled young adults. But as family members we are not relegated to passive sidelines. Change is pain. Step One is free of charge. It's the insurance policy on your treatment investment.