Anonymous
Post 04/23/2017 19:18     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
This is fair and appropriate. I told my DS something similar recently when he witnessed another boy, who is one grade above him, hitting DS's classmate for no apparent reason during recess.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2017 21:45     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being sent to the office for "mild" hitting and suspension for repeated, violent hitting.
There is a boy who repeatedly hits, spits, etc.
he has ADHD, I know he gets OT and whatnot and is medicated, but still... I just hope my son doesn't get into the same classroom with him next year.


Your son is part of his treatment program. That's how it works now. He hits and gets help. Your son is hit and gets, at best, told Johnny can't help it. btdt.


I told my son Larlo cannot help it, so he is not a bad guy, but it's better to stay away from him. He got it, after a couple of mean incidents (no hitting just meanness).
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2017 20:58     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
No more than one punch. Make it count.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2017 20:56     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:What did your kid do to warrant getting punched in the face? Was he running his mouth?


Not the OP but wondering. If my kid doesn't like what your kid is saying it's ok if my kid punches yours in the face because "he was running his mouth?" It's warranted?
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2017 19:00     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Stop. You know it's not that simple. There's a child with ADHD who pretty frequently out at other kids, especially during sports, because he can't regulate his emotions. He is otherwise a really nice kid.
There is a kid who is in a grade above this child and also ADHD who calls kids names, pushes and teases constantly. He is a strong kid and uses his strength to get his way with other children. He has repeatedly made fun of other special needs kids because of their quirks. Last week he punched another kid in the stomach in order to cut in line. The other kid, who I think also happens to have ADHD, reacted by hitting him back. This kid who got hit never hits anyone as far as I know.
It wouldn't make sense to give these three kids the same consequence for hitting. Completely different kids and completely different reasons for reacting physically.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2017 17:40     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:Being sent to the office for "mild" hitting and suspension for repeated, violent hitting.
There is a boy who repeatedly hits, spits, etc.
he has ADHD, I know he gets OT and whatnot and is medicated, but still... I just hope my son doesn't get into the same classroom with him next year.


Your son is part of his treatment program. That's how it works now. He hits and gets help. Your son is hit and gets, at best, told Johnny can't help it. btdt.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2017 17:35     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:automatic suspension, we have a zero violence policy and yes this includes K


Many kids are aggressive at school, because they know they'll get sent home. So this is not a zero violence policy, it's a zero sense leading to increased violence policy.



Many kids? How do you quantify that? Our school is a charter, disciplinary issues get you booted so no we don't p have that issue here


You must not be in the DC area, because what you're describing is illegal here.


It's illegal in DC to expel children who don't have 504s or IEPs from school for physical violence? Please link this statute
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2017 05:44     Subject: Re:what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The policy should be to make a decision individually for each kid. Blanket "policies" are inappropriate, especially in elementary school.

FERPA also makes it clear that the information about a child's punishment can't be shared with others, so I'm not sure how you know what the consequence was for the other child.


Elementary principal here: this post is spot on. When disciplining a child, we take into account the entire picture: age of the children involved, intent, frequency, what led up to it, etc. We cannot and will not share how anyone other than your child was punished. You wouldn't information about your child shared with other parents.


This is why I tell me kid if he is punched unprovoked the best response is to punch back. I don't care if he gets in trouble. If a student attacks another student that student should lose his or her right to privacy. Imagine if an adult came up to you and slugged you. Would you accept the police and court telling you you had no right to find out if the perpetrator was charged and convicted? If the students are in junior high or high school and your child was punched in the face and there is a mark I would file a police report because there is a good chance nothing much will happen to the perpetrator at school.


NP. Wow, your work environment sounds awful.
I'm not even going to begin to take on the primitive aspects of your parenting method. I'll only say that for adults, the risk is not a stranger punching them on the street, it's aggression and social conflict in the workplace. If your child grows into adulthood and is taunted or physically provoked or touched or harmed in the workplace, and decides to fight back by punching the other person in the face, he/she is going to lose his job. Repeatedly. Is this the life you want for your child? Really?


Where on earth do you work? I've worked for the same private employer for 18 years and can't think of an incident of actual employee violence.


"If....then." This is not an anecdote.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2017 21:48     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:automatic suspension, we have a zero violence policy and yes this includes K


Many kids are aggressive at school, because they know they'll get sent home. So this is not a zero violence policy, it's a zero sense leading to increased violence policy.



Many kids? How do you quantify that? Our school is a charter, disciplinary issues get you booted so no we don't p have that issue here


You must not be in the DC area, because what you're describing is illegal here.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2017 21:32     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Being sent to the office for "mild" hitting and suspension for repeated, violent hitting.
There is a boy who repeatedly hits, spits, etc.
he has ADHD, I know he gets OT and whatnot and is medicated, but still... I just hope my son doesn't get into the same classroom with him next year.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2017 20:32     Subject: Re:what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The policy should be to make a decision individually for each kid. Blanket "policies" are inappropriate, especially in elementary school.

FERPA also makes it clear that the information about a child's punishment can't be shared with others, so I'm not sure how you know what the consequence was for the other child.


Elementary principal here: this post is spot on. When disciplining a child, we take into account the entire picture: age of the children involved, intent, frequency, what led up to it, etc. We cannot and will not share how anyone other than your child was punished. You wouldn't information about your child shared with other parents.


This is why I tell me kid if he is punched unprovoked the best response is to punch back. I don't care if he gets in trouble. If a student attacks another student that student should lose his or her right to privacy. Imagine if an adult came up to you and slugged you. Would you accept the police and court telling you you had no right to find out if the perpetrator was charged and convicted? If the students are in junior high or high school and your child was punched in the face and there is a mark I would file a police report because there is a good chance nothing much will happen to the perpetrator at school.


NP. Wow, your work environment sounds awful.
I'm not even going to begin to take on the primitive aspects of your parenting method. I'll only say that for adults, the risk is not a stranger punching them on the street, it's aggression and social conflict in the workplace. If your child grows into adulthood and is taunted or physically provoked or touched or harmed in the workplace, and decides to fight back by punching the other person in the face, he/she is going to lose his job. Repeatedly. Is this the life you want for your child? Really?


Where on earth do you work? I've worked for the same private employer for 18 years and can't think of an incident of actual employee violence.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2017 04:10     Subject: Re:what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The policy should be to make a decision individually for each kid. Blanket "policies" are inappropriate, especially in elementary school.

FERPA also makes it clear that the information about a child's punishment can't be shared with others, so I'm not sure how you know what the consequence was for the other child.


Elementary principal here: this post is spot on. When disciplining a child, we take into account the entire picture: age of the children involved, intent, frequency, what led up to it, etc. We cannot and will not share how anyone other than your child was punished. You wouldn't information about your child shared with other parents.


This is why I tell me kid if he is punched unprovoked the best response is to punch back. I don't care if he gets in trouble. If a student attacks another student that student should lose his or her right to privacy. Imagine if an adult came up to you and slugged you. Would you accept the police and court telling you you had no right to find out if the perpetrator was charged and convicted? If the students are in junior high or high school and your child was punched in the face and there is a mark I would file a police report because there is a good chance nothing much will happen to the perpetrator at school.


NP. Wow, your work environment sounds awful.
I'm not even going to begin to take on the primitive aspects of your parenting method. I'll only say that for adults, the risk is not a stranger punching them on the street, it's aggression and social conflict in the workplace. If your child grows into adulthood and is taunted or physically provoked or touched or harmed in the workplace, and decides to fight back by punching the other person in the face, he/she is going to lose his job. Repeatedly. Is this the life you want for your child? Really?
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2017 03:40     Subject: what is your child's school policy on hitting?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:automatic suspension, we have a zero violence policy and yes this includes K


Many kids are aggressive at school, because they know they'll get sent home. So this is not a zero violence policy, it's a zero sense leading to increased violence policy.



Many kids? How do you quantify that? Our school is a charter, disciplinary issues get you booted so no we don't p have that issue here