Anonymous wrote:Two of the strangest first (and only) dates I ever had:
1) Guy, early 30s, ready to get married: essentially presented me with his financial portfolio and 5-year plan, then essentially offered me the "job" of mother to his children and DIL to his mother (after I had said about three words). I guess my resume made the cut.
2) Guy, mid-30s, divorced, who talked about nothing but how much he missed being married. Dude, you are not ready to move on.
Anonymous wrote:Duh. Obviously people want mature, successfull and confident people. Confident people don't flaunt their success. Is any of this news to anyone?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I suspect that you were giving TMI about your previous marriage and it's problems and that turned men off. Doubt anyone cares about your financial success.
Yup.
Anonymous wrote:There are two kinds of people: those with baggage, and good liars.
Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:Dates are not therapy sessions. You are sitting there with a stranger assessing what you have in common. Later if you start a relationship you can share some of the uglier past. Early dates are not the time.
You also don't have to be "successful" to be attractive to a man. Your tone suggests that you have quite an ego about that, and that could also be putting men off. If you're cute and make him feel good, that's all he needs.
While I completely agree with your comment that men don't need a woman to be "successful to be attractive", I tend to disagree with your comment pertaining to "that's all he <men> needs"... While I can't speak for the rest of the male populace, I know that I need more. Being widowed at the age of 48 and just recently re-entering the dating scene just a year ago, I'm looking for a partner, not just a cutey that continually blows sunshine my way. Furthermore, I'm not put off if someone wants to share their past and truth be told, I consider it rather useful as it provides valuable insight as to how they handled stress, financial problems, communication issues, sex, etc, etc.
L_S
Anonymous wrote:Emotionally healthy people seek out other emotionally healthy people as partners. And broken people are attracted to other broken people. You should work on any issues you have to be ready to pair up with someone who is emotionally healthy as well.
Anonymous wrote:Dates are not therapy sessions. You are sitting there with a stranger assessing what you have in common. Later if you start a relationship you can share some of the uglier past. Early dates are not the time.
You also don't have to be "successful" to be attractive to a man. Your tone suggests that you have quite an ego about that, and that could also be putting men off. If you're cute and make him feel good, that's all he needs.